Vagina was too tight, couldn't maintain an erection while attempting insertion...

[Anonymous]

So basically I was trying to have sex with my girlfriend, but her vagina is really really tight. Like one finger goes in all right and two is definitely pushing it. Anyways whilst attempting to have sex, I was having trouble getting it in because she was so tight. And unfortunately, with every failed insertion attempt, I lost my erection for a really long time and it took a lot of effort for me to get it back up. The only thing that seemed to help get it back up was fingering her more and kissing. Is it normal for men to lose their erections like this? Or do I perhaps have a potential sexual dysfunction. Also, what can I do to help "loosen" her vagina to the point where I can enter in a much easier fashion? I don't really want to to just battle it in there, I'd much prefer a smooth insertion that wasn't so damn difficult.

[EveAlley]

Try more foreplay. My boyfriend and I are waiting but when we were first together it hurt if he would put one inside of me and also I was self conscious, which didn't help. After a while of getting to know and trust each other and learning what we each liked, I loosened up. Now its no problem and we have a great time with 2 or 3. There's no need to go with more because, well we are having fun. My best advice would be to tease her and go into a lot of foreplay beforehand. Try planning a weekend just the two of you and really listen to what she is telling you. Not with words but with her body. The more in tune you are with that then the more lucky you will get. Also, this is me, but I get really loose before my period. Maybe that would be a good starting point. Have fun!

[AllAboutTheX]

She is super nervous and she isn't relaxed enough. She needs more stimulation and warming up, in order for her body to relax enough and get lubricated enough to allow penetration. Her body is made to allow a penis to enter her, it just needs to be ready.

Your loss of erection could have been from the frustration of trying and failing. If you get stressed out it could lose the ability to stay hard as well.

Work on getting her aroused... this takes talking to her, kissing her and making her feel comfortable.

[sexygirl_322]

I know a couple of men who has lost their erections.

i would say just take some times using 2 all the time and then 3 fingers when your fingering her so that she can loosen up.

or get a vibrator and for her to use it..those add up to usually 4 fingers..

good luck!

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[Sehaj]

the more and more hornier she gets, more will her vagina be ready to receive penetrations. vagina's size increases. at that point it should be easiest for you. tell her to relax. or try her being on top and in squatting position.

[iloveher26]

She is nervous... Do a lot of foreplay, kissing, fingering... Her vagina will open up...

[yellowbrickroad]

maybe the problem actually is that her vagina isn't wet enough. use lube!

[Lillianascelin]

fingering and cunnilingus helps

[jocelynn512]

It is not normal for a guy to lose their erection because it is too tight. Try putting your tongue in there firs. That should help.