Do Fingering and Oral Sex Feel The Same?

[Anonymous]

I asked my boyfriend If he would perform oral on me(I've never received oral) and he said no.But he said he would finger me,and that they feel the same or somewhat the same.Do they? I give him blowjobs and handjobs,and asked him if they feel the same and he said no,but I'm wondering if for girls,fingering and oral feel the same? And I don't want people telling me to not give him oral sex anymore,it's just oral,i've never had it,so it's whatever

[perfectspace]

ok lol ...i am only answering this for two reasons...

one...i read all the comments below and there is way to much man hating going on for my liking! lol

and

two ... because I think it would funny as hell for a guy to get a best answer on how a vagina feels! :)

so with that ...here we go...

unlike everyone else...i don't care about your sexual activities ..do what you want and have fun doing it lol



to answer your question though...

NO ... they do not feel the same... I have gone down on enough girls and have done plenty of research to know they arent. fingering is stimulating the inner vaginal wall which yes can feel great for a woman if done correctly...but is very different from oral...which is stimulating the clitoris...two different body parts being stimulated...causing two different sensations.

think of it like this...if you pinch your thigh is it going to hurt? yea...but if you pinch your inner thigh is it going to feel the same seeing as how it is still a pinch?...no it is going to hurt more because the skin is softer and more fragile.

now is the orgasm different? I have no idea as I do not have a vagina and therefor have never been fingered nor eaten out lol

but again from personal experience I would say it is different ...based solely on the body reactions of women I have been with. I can't tell you which is better having heard different things from different women... I believe this is just a matter of opinion and personal preference.

hope this was helpful :)

Brian from www.ideabombs.com link

[xsimplyxpaigex]

I'm sorry for my "man-hating." lol Most guys I know are selfish in that respect. (--Stingy about giving oral but wanted to receive it.) It would be really funny if a guy got the best answer for this question. I'm crossing my fingers! LOL

[perfectspace]

Lol .... i think it is just a misunderstanding......men are not selfish about wanting to receive but not give it..... it is more a matter of men not knowing what they are doing and lacking confidence..and in turn trying to save face...by saying no...and no embarrassing themselves...... I personally know a bunch of guys who love going down on women...me being one of them lol .

[DaBuzzman]

As a guy I love giving oral and my girl reacts differently between the two acts mentioned. Sometimes she just wants her outside played with with the oral. I can pay attention to her clit and her lips, etc. sometimes she wants something inside. She lets me know and we communicate. that's the biggest thing! They're not the same to her.

[DaBuzzman]

But That's b. s. He won't give you oral. You at least deserve that from a real boyfriend. I love giving both and doing both at the same time too. If I'm giving her oral I also can slide a finger or two in as well. I suppose where the difference is in feeling maybe for you is that with oral is that the guy is using his warm mouth and tongue and saliva and really making it feel hot and wet and sloppy which is so hot. Plus the guy can lick around everywhere and it tickles their walls, lips and inner things, plus really tastes you. Fingers are just fingers. You deserve oral to experience that!

[Simple-Simonette]

It doesn't feel the same.

And I understand that you don't want people to interject their opinion about your sex life but I don't know why you expected people to not. Don't get your panties in a wad - just because they have something to say doesn't mean you have to "listen" to it. Be happy that they're taking the time to answer your question.

Lighten up, it's just strangers on the internet ...

[Simple-Simonette]

I understand, but with some of the opinions are really good answers. I'm just suggesting you ignore what you don't want to hear instead of being insistent about how you want your answers. As you will find out - it doesn't matter what you want, people will do what ever they want anyway. I'm sure you're not stressing about it, just thought I would comment.

[peace-love-couture]

I'm a virgin,never been fingered or given oral sex,but I would imagine not,simply as because the tongue and hand/fingers have different textures,feels and moisture content.

But um,you realize,most guys would break up with a girl who expected oral sex but would only give them a handjob and not a blowjob

[xsimplyxpaigex]

You hit it right on the spot with that last comment! My boyfriend expects me to perform oral on him all the time, yet he refused to do it to me. Psh! Men are so selfish.

[perfectspace]

Im sensing a lot of man hating going on right here! lol ... most men will not break up with a girl for that reason.

[peace-love-couture]

I don't hate men actually,but I'm glad you took enough to idk,assume something you know nothing about.But yes,there are plenty of guys who will do so gladly.No I'm not a feminist,but I think it's funny when a guy doesn't go down on a girl,it's deal with it you can please yourself,when a girl won't go down on her guy,it's break up with her and find a girl who will

[perfectspace]

Being a virgin and basing your information purely on imagination...i would say you are assuming something you know nothing about! but to each their own.

[peace-love-couture]

Yea,of course,cause I have absolutely no guy friends right?And there have been plenty of guys on here who have stated such

[MickeyMickey506]

Yea,i know plenty of guys who will break up with a girl for not giving them oral,but I know guys who won't

[Anonymous]

if he likes blow jobs better than hand jobs, how can he tell you that fingering feels the same as being gone down on? that's the dumbest thing ever. he's just making excuses. if he's not willing to please you orally, then you are well within your rights to quit giving him head.

[audreymarie21]

the difference is fingering sucks and oral feels amazing!

[ivarei]

you are missing out!

[ivarei]

Lol. I've never had oral done but I've been fingered and it felt almost nothing. maybe he didn't know what he was doing. but I hope they feel different. and they probably do, otherwise people wouldn't be making such a big deal about it down there.

[Anonymous]

no, oral is way way way way way better (when done nicely)

[Anonymous]

No, they are not the same. My ex's would always prefer oral sex to fingering.

[Anonymous]

Not even close to feeling the same.

And there is no such thing as "just oral". You can pass STDs through oral sex, and it is a very intimate, personal, sexual act. "It is just oral" is not really that much different than saying, "it is just anal", or "it is just sex".

[Asker]

I did not ask for a speech on safe sex,i understand how sex,stds and safe sex work.I'm just stating,it is another sexual act ok.it isn't the end of the world

[Anonymous]

NOT the same feeling at all

[Anonymous]

no, they're not the same. I can't orgasm from fingering, I can't when a guy goes down on me. oral is 10 times better.

[Opinion Owner]

**I CAN when a guy goes down on me. whoops

[Anonymous]

no it's not the same feeling at all. your boyfriend is jerk and you should quit giving him bjs and just giving him hand jobs.