How come guys can't compliment other guys' looks?

[bellybuttonlint]

When I say this I don't mean "That guy is so hot!" No, I mean more like "He's a pretty good looking guy" or "Man, if I was older I wish I'd look like George Clooney." Girls can say "Oh, she's so pretty!" But guys are looked at as gay if they say something like that. Me, I got no problem judging a guys' looks, and I'm perfectly straight. I got no problem giving guys a score like 0-10, with 10 being extremely good looking and 5 being average. I can get into conversations like "You know who's a really good looking guy? That guy who works in the cafe." But I'm not gay. I can tell if a guy is good looking or not. And I know other guys can too, but would never admit it. I'm not bi either. Just straight. But I'm not insecure. When I ask guys this question they're like "Nah man, that sh*t's gay." Then I'll ask them this question: "If your girlfriend has a crush on good looking guys, like (insert name here), would you leave your girlfriend alone in a room with him?" He'll be like "No man, she's my girl...I can't have that." I'm like, WTF? So you admit that he's a good looking guy! Personally I don't care. If you want my opinion on a guy's looks I'll do it. It's not that hard for me.

[ArtistBboy]

"But I'm not insecure." - Guys rarely compliment other men because of a social norm. In school, you would have been perceived as gay for complimenting another man; even when it was a female you were speaking to. Guys feel this social norm and don't want to be rejected, especially by their "big brothers / guy friends / group"

A question like "If your girlfriend has a crush on good looking guys, like (insert name here), would you leave your girlfriend alone in a room with him?" would be completely different. You are subconsciously agreeing/disagreeing to one (OR MORE) statements in the question by stating your opinion.

For instance, if I said "No man, she's my girl..."

I would either be acknowledging one of many factors:

1 - She does have an attraction for someone else

2 - That guy is attractive and I agree with the statement

3 - I am uncomfortable with acknowledging the question.

So- as you see above. Your second quesiton can be perceived in many ways. It is better to clarify your question. I am perfectly fine with gay / bisexual guys, as long as they keep it to themselves. I don't want to see them holding hands or kissing infront of me, but this is just my opinion. They respect that and then I respect them.

The same to yourself- I also rate guys, so I don't think it is as "uncommon" as you think. There are some guys out that that just have the preference to not comment. There are others that find it gay, and there are even more men out there that will openly state their opinion. It is solely your preference.

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ArtistBBoy

[Homeboy_Kevin]

Honestly you cannot be gay just for saying that unless you say it in a gay way. We all are humans we all know who looks good who doesn't. We all know that girls can call another girl pretty/cute/beautiful etc. freely but for guys they are just scared to admit that 'he' looks good because he might think the whole world will think it is weird when he says that he looks good. But the reality is that just because you think a guy looks good it does not mean that you are attracted to them. Now, if you say it all the time or in a wrong tone then that means something else so be careful when you say it to the guy and make sure you know him well enough for him to know that you are not what the whole world think (the weird one).

[IAmThereForTomorrow]

Well, first off. I want to say thank you for your answer on my question. It actually meant a lot to read what you wrote and others, but yours seemed to stick out the most. So on that note. Thank You.

2.) What your saying is almost like a double standard. Girls can compliment Girls, but its percieved as gay if a guy compliments a guy on his looks. That's stupid. I think all double standards are wrong.

3.) I think in this case, you are ABSOLUTELY POSITIVELY secure with yourself and your thoughts and you have no problem with sharing them. I think the guys that you talk to may have some self security issues that they don't want to acknowledge either because they are embarrased or another reason that they don't want to share. And you gave a perfect example when you said how the guy would not leave his girlfriend alone in a room with another attractive guy. They are subconsciously admitting that that particular guy IS good looking. and they may feel inferior to those who they deem themselves as a good looking guy.

I think that's why most guys are quick to say, "thats gay" because they don't want to feel inferior to the other guys they think are good looking.

So for you to say , "yeah I give that guy a 5 or 10" that's a serious trait that you have and that's awesome! I'm pretty sure every girl would want to have an honest guy like that. Conversations with people who give opinions on anything makes for great stories on just about ANYTHING!

Kudos to YOU!

P.S. Change the guys around you. You can do it!

Oh and I'm also sorry this is soo long. I just got really into this answer!

=)

[Teddyluver]

I guess it's because most guys hav it set in their mind that complimenting a guy is gay. Because not many guys do it, but girls compliment each other all the time. Maybe you should set out to change that. :)

[abzence]

Most men have a big ego or are sexually insecure. That's why they are afraid to do this.

Personally I'm straight but I can still admit that Jonny Depp is among the best looking male actors around, haha!

[Anonymous]

I do it all the time. Screw anybody who doesn't like it.