So self conscious about small breasts

plain and simple: I am extremely self conscious about my small breasts. I'm a 32B, though I swear I feel smaller. and I'm even self conscious about my body being too small. like OK, I'm not gonna lie, I want to stay thin and even had an eating disorder for a number of years. so yeah I'm always still very careful about my body and its shape and weight because I prefer to be thin. but there are times when I feel bad because I wish I had something more to offer my guy. like bigger fuller breasts and a more womanly body with curves and such. because whenever he takes my shirt off, I always think, oh man he's gonna be so disappointed.

i wish I was more confident...

any help with anything?


Most Helpful Girl

  • Honestly you're lucky to be a B, I'm always a 32A. You just need to buy yourself a push up bra/chicken fillets if you want bigger breasts-definitely do NOT get breasts implants because they will look fake and distort your shape and make you look heavier than you are. Make sure you get measured in a store to double check your bra size. Bra sizes can vary from store to store depending on what age group the store is targeting-generally the stores for younger people will have slightly smaller sizes. But I know its about more than just the size of your breasts.

    I can really relate to your question because I have problems with food too. I always like my body to be thin because I don't like its natural shape. Still I look at a friend of mine who has a [different shape to mine]natural slim hourglass figure that I would kill for because it is nice and womanly. So its definitely a dilemna. If you want bigger breasts another option is to put on a little bit of weight-even 7lbs when you're very slim does make a difference to your breasts. If you are very thin, then your bust size will naturally decrease. [I like having the control of being thin but sometimes I catch a glimpse of skinny legs/arms and it does hit me then. Sometimes when I'm thin I also feel almost child like and delicate because I'm so small.]

    Are you getting help for your eating disorder? Its something you can't deal with on your own. Believe me, I tried but its too hard. It is a constant battle so its good to get support from therapy, nutritionist etc. My weight fluctuates a lot-i starve and then binge. I have no solutions but I just wanted to say I know how hard it can be. Other people don't understand the perfectionism and need for control behind it. I don't think a guy is going to suddenly be disappointed when he sees you have small breasts as long as they suit your petite shape. I mean, if a guy wants to sleep with you then he clearly fancies you so forget about that altogether.

    Talk to someone about this and get support hun! Good luck!

    • And always remember (if you are trying to chance your looks in order to appeal to your perception of guys likes) that there are many guys who find smaller breasts more attractive!

    • I don't recall ever seeing this answer until now. how did that happen? because I really appreciated this. and its so good to know someone else totally gets where I'm coming from with this:) thanks so much dear

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What Guys Said 5

  • Yes. More confidence.

    Breast size has nothing to do with personality, unless you make it.

    Your self-consciousness about your breast size speaks louder than your actual breast size.

    There are a lot of guys out there that appreciate a small woman.

    Being a woman is so much more than packaging. It's about who you are and how you come across to other people.


  • The guys:

    Yes, larger breasts get noticed but honestly any one you would want to be in a long term relationship with is going to be more interested in your personality, character, and attitude than your cup size. I think most guys would agree (many past questions supporting this) that cup size is low on the list of requirements for their girls. Personally, I look much more at her face than anything else (smile, eyes, neck, etc).


    Your statements "bigger fuller breasts and a more womanly body with curves" and "because I prefer to be thin" don't go too well together. If you aren't already working your diet & exercise with a doctor, you should because of your past. It is possible you are effectively starving your cup size and hips away. A girl I know grew two cup sizes after quitting sports! If you are eating right, exercising appropriately, and still are the same shape, consider yourself lucky! In 15 years all your curvy friends now will be envying YOU with your fit & trim body when they are shaped like pears with boobs hanging down to their waists!

    I think the media has messed up perspectives on beauty. Do what you need to in order to get over it, be confident in yourself, and just live life.

  • 32B is the average last time I checked, although some are saying 34C is now. I find it hard to believe. Don't believe in the media hype, that's about all that I can say. Oh and in different parts of the world outside of North America, other parts of the body is fetishsized. For example, in Japan, the nape of the neck is fetishsized.

  • Gotta say, I like small breasts and small women just more to my personal liking though i won't say i haven't been with a woman with large breasts. I have and that why i lean more to the leaner form lol

  • idk about other men but I love small breast .i just think big breast are nasty...idk iv always been like that


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