Why do guys like anal sex so much?

[Anonymous]

I was talking to this guy who always wanted me to try it with him and I never wanted to because I heard it is very painful! lol

[TeresaTiger]

It is only painful if done wrong. If anal sex is to be enjoyed to it's full potential then it is important that both the man and the woman know a great deal about male and female physiology. It is also important that both are patient and caring. As for why guys like it so much, I'd say that it totally depends on the guy. An experienced and educated male lover will understand far more about everything to love with anal sex and he will be far more able to do it right and make it a true pleasure for the woman. An inexperienced and amateur male partner will most assuredly do everything wrong--go too fast, not use lubrication etc. which will always make it an unpleasant experience for the woman. When these inexperienced amateurs try to perform it, there will be not much real pleasure, which leaves only the psychological stimulation mostly derived from the sense of taboo.

Why is anal sex generally considered taboo? This is not strictly a social "norm" as many people think since many cultures in Europe are far more relaxed about anal sex compared to America. As Dr. Freud discovered, all clinically normal children pass through 5 psychosexual stages between the ages of 0 to 10-13 (puberty). The second stage is the anal stage from age 1 to 2. Most people have heard the term, "That person is so anal." This is short for anal retentive. In psychology, this refers to a condition where the person did not successfully develop and pass through their anal stage of childhood and as a result adopted certain psychological traits that last the rest of their life. These traits are commonly exhibited as an obsession for neatness, order and simplified routines (think Monk from the tv show). These traits can range in severity and it is commonly considered that most people these days are actually anal retentive. Most children these days are poorly raised, especially in the west and more so in America. Lazy parenting and lack of proper "potty training" tend toward a child developing unhealthy connections and feelings about their anus, both as an erogenous zone and as a simple body part that serves to help evacuate waste. This is where the notion of anal sex becomes socially taboo. People grow up to feel ashamed about any pleasure centered around the anus because when they were age 1-2 they were made to feel ashamed for even simply "pooping in their diapers."

It is a medical fact that the anus, rectum and general area around the anus are highly sensitive erogenous zones. A few inches inside the rectum, a male has the Prostate gland and the female has the Skene's gland which both are highly sensitive to sexual stimulation. The anus and just inside the rectum has erogenous nerves in number second only to the Frenulum (male) or Clitoris (female). It has been scientifically proven that both males and females experience far stronger orgasms when additionally stimulated anally/rectally. And yes, of course the rectum is "tighter" than the vagina so this is also a factor.

[radhabarwali1]

Our customers pay extraa to lick our anus hole.

[Trafalgar]

It is tighter - and I definitely think there is some appeal to getting a girl to do something like that (it's very dominant/primal and the general consensus is that most chicks hate it).

My first experience was very uncomfortable (he took the "surprise! I'm in your butt!" approach). But in my current relationship we've done anal several times and I've actually orgasmed from it.

If you are comfortable with the idea of trying - just remember to go slowly and if at any point you are in pain - STOP! Buying lube is also a good idea.

Also, don't let anyone pressure you into doing something you don't want to - sexually or otherwise. If this guy cares about you, he will be willing to wait until you are comfortable, or drop it all together if you decide you don't want to go there.

[Anonymous]

ive tried it just to try it, and it sucks! plus my boyfriend has a p*rnstars cock. I had no idea something that big would even fit into my butt. you don't even have feeling in your ass the only feeling you get is at the anus entrance and it feels so painful and weird like you need to take a fattt dump. so its not even that pleasurable for women until they get used to it and it feels good at the entrace but yah no feeling inside your but at all. Its mainly for mens pleasure. lol stick to fingers its much better. of course even that at first doesn't feel that good either. My boyfriend takes an hr to finish so anal isn't something benifical to me at all, no point in destroying your asshole if its not going to quicken his orgasm.

[Deathecutioner]

!Anal is not painful when done correctly!

Guys like it because...

1) It Feels hella good.

2) It's tight

3) it's Taboo

4) It's Dominating

5) It's Different

Anal sex feel great for both men and women. Everyone Think anal's bad because it was givin' a bad rep because some guys, are assholes(no pun intended), and aren't doing it right/are only doing it for there satisfaction. For men and women, anal sex is a different, tighter sensation, it’s a little bit naughty and it provides some variety to normal sex. Anal sex has a tang of taboo attached to it, though this is falling away: The taboo status of anal sex gives it better credence among the adventuresome and timid alike, and this adds to its attraction. With lots of trust,lube and patience anal sex can be a wonderful experience. Anal intercourse increases the pleasure of orgasms, because there a millions of nerve ending in the anus, and only about 8000 in the clitoris.

And is not just for women. heterosexual couples also do this in a reverse fashion. This is becoming more increasingly popular.(It's called pegging) One of the reasons its becoming popular is because its the only way to get to the male g-spot, which give as much pleasure to males as the female g-spot does fro girls.

[CountDove]

Not all men are into the idea. Frankly, as a biologist...I know of all the dark and evil things that lurk up there. I would never, ever, consider such a thing. Although as others said, the reason a guy likes or wants anything in sex is because of one thing: it feels good. If it feels good, they want it, unless they are rational enough to think and discharge the idea as foolish.

If you aren't comfortable with something, you are not ever obligated to do it: especially in sex.

-Count D.

[ericblair]

No, it's not painful if you are really well lubricated and the guy takes it real slow. We like it so much because the anus is so tight that it fits our cocks like a trap and feels incredibly intense. That part of your body doesn't expand like your vagina, so it stay super tight all the time. Like I say, it won't hurt if the guy does it slow and follows your lead - you've got to exercise some control and tell him when to put it in deeper, when he can thrust faster, etc. Try it, you won't be sorry!

[wado_123]

Lloooolllll man you explained that like you were doin it when you wrote the comment :D

[Littletad]

It can be expanded, and even torn, if not done properly.

[lace_and_leather]

Guys like different things for different reasons. That's all I have to say about that.

As far as it being painful goes... laxatives the day before and lube, lots of it, during the process helps. Honestly, the first few times are a bit uncomfortable and shocking but it becomes easier and more fun. I like anal, but to each her own.

[CastAwayRI]

Shocking in what way? Have You ever considred an enema? Too many laxatives can't be a good thing, but I love the commitment!

[lace_and_leather]

Shocking in like that 'woah' *deer in headlights* look. It takes a bit to get used to the feeling of something being shoved in and out of your ass, lol. Oh, and yeah, I've used enemas before- I forgot to mention that. (Also, it's best never to use a saline enema- warm water is better...in case anyone is reading this.)

[flchickypoo]

Well I have always had this theory that a man wants to do anal because he gets tired of banging the same old va jay jay all the time...or maybe that girls va jay jay is not tight anymore...My theory is ill resort to anal when my pooosey isn't tight anymore...I made that deal with my ex that when my thing isn't tight lemme know and I'll gladly let ya do me anally

[neberle]

Thank you for answer 1 there I was wondering why no one said it.

[mikesaracino]

I think your boyfriend is a lucky guy...especially If that's your ass in the pic.

[fiesty2009]

As you can see below ,there are so many different reasons and answers - depending upon the person. But some people like it , some don't. Remember it is your butt - if you want to try it so be it , if not he will just have to deal. But I like the suggestion of trying it on him first ... that is a great idea.

[mshaker]

It will hurt you the first couple of times, after that, ull love it.

[gravygirl]

They like feeling like they have a big penis. Fucking a girl's ass does that for them. It feels tight to them and it often hurts the woman. It's f***ed up, but I think that hearing us cry out in pain upon insertion actually makes men feel good about themselves. Even if they feel bad for hurting us, I think they like the idea that their penis is big enough to cause us pain.

[Marshall33]

Not to be too graphic but its because its forbidden in a way which is stimulating mentally, is an area that communicates to a man that a woman is willing to go out of her way to please him which is emotionally satisfying and physically its tight and feels great...for the guy unfortunately more than the woman most of the time.

[Subotai]

To try something new. To explore and claim your body. Because it's dirty. It's sort of a self esteem/ego boost for a girl to allow a guy to try something that seems sort of kinky or advanced sexually. A lot of guys really like their girls butt I know I do. I have never done it but I am curious. I mean when I want a woman bad enough I want her in every way. I want to f you c k your ass damn that sounds hot. But actually doing it is probably not that great and I hear it can be difficult and painful and takes a lot of patience, it is certainly not vital. If I get married I would like my wife to be open to trying it like you know letting me have her ass would be a nice non monetary birthday gift at least once but really more for the novelty unless she really liked it if she found it painful that would really make me not want to do it again

[Undetermined]

i don't like it.and I wouldn't do it.

[gtskier]

The anus is much tighter than the vagina and feels great for the man, if done right can feel good for the woman as well. The visual stimulation is also amazing for the man. It can be painful if not done right. Shouldn't rush into it. You need to be very relaxed about it. Most people say to start by having him stimulate lightly with a fingertip while doing oral sex on you. That might be all you do the first time. Later on, work up to insertion of a finger very slowly massage and with good lubrication. It may take a few sessions of anal play for you to loosen up enough to allow several fingers in, then he can slowly insert his penis (lots of lubrication). Have him stop and wait if you tense up or feel any pain. If you relax the pain will subside and you will get used to it being inside you. Once he is inside a few inches and you are used to the size, make sure everything is still well lubricated and he can start slowly moving in and out. Slow in and a little faster out. If you are afraid and want more control, you can lay on your side with legs bent and have him behind you in a spoons position. Other positions with you in control are the cowgirl (you straddle him like riding a horse) either facing or reverse, whichever angle seems appropriate. Once you have done it a few times you might try the "doggy style" position or lying on your stomach. Some women like the missionary position but with legs brought way up by your shoulders. It's worth a try but the man has to be patient and not just "shove it in".

[CuriousEd]

Are we talking about giving or receiving?

A girl with a strap-on can be very sexy...

[ArizonaRX]

Deathecutioner really said it best. Very valid points and right on the money.

Give me a woman that has never tried it and is nervous and I'll turn her into an avid anal fan.

[GloryBox]

And what would you do that's so special that would make it so amazin

[abra_b]

Depends on the guy:

For some, its just something new and taboo and exciting.

Some just like the tighter feeling.

Some like it because they see it as degrading the woman and they get off on that.

It can be VERY painful if the guy isn't a considerate lover. He needs to go slow and not just ram away as if he were having vaginal sex. Too many young men lose sight of sex being a shared experience rather than a one-way route to their own physial and mental pleasure. If you feel like this guy is one of those types, don't try it with him.

If you are in a respecful physical relationship with him (there can even be respect between two partners who aren't dating), then he will try to make the experience appealing and exciting for you as well. Going slow, using lube, stopping if he starts to hurt you ... all of these can make it less painful. If you don't trust him, though, this isn't an activity you want to try out.

[DrJones]

Best answer!

[msbossy]

cause there really gay jk idk

[Yossarion]

As an celebrated and money making astrophysicist, I have to include what I do for a living in every post to tell people how cool I am.

Despite my knowledge of the as, and its physicist qualities, anal sex does not turn me on.

It does turn on many of my friends though. My best friend gets his wife drunk and does it up her bum when she is passed out.

Don't forget, I am an astrophysicist. ;-)

[lorahayes]

' My best friend gets his wife drunk and does it up her bum when she is passed out.' LOL

[Marrryyyyy]

Are you lying about your profession?

[TeresaTiger]

As a celebrated and money making parrot cage cleaner, I have to say that Yossarion needs to go back to grade school where they teach you not to fib; and where they also teach you about grammar, spelling, punctuation and sentence structure.

[Yossarion]

As a celebrated astrophysicist, I really don't know anything about Tigers. I knot that in Tamil they have guns. I know that some sell children's cereal. I also now know that some can't take a joke and are condescending and arrogant windbags who complain about spelling and grammar problems when there are none. Least of all the fact that no one cares seems to allude her.

[fleeble]

Lol you must be so drunk.

[JackOslan]

Because we're all sleazy perverts. Is that what you wanted to hear? Lots of guys and girls like lots of different things...many way stranger than anal sex. My last Girlfriend loved anal sex and I loved having it with her. Felt fantastic...what other qualification should you give a sexual act to justify it other than it feels good?

[bankysega]

It doesn't hurt if you know what you are doing. As the clitoris only has 8000 nerve endings and the anus has over a million you can have much deeper orgasms from anal than from vaginal sex, but you kind of have to be willing to explore that.

[katiesmuff]

It gives them that feeling of domination to the guy.

[ryanontario]

not all guys like it , myself I like checking out girls butts to be honest but never had anal sex with any of those girls or do I really have fanasies about such sex acts . but if a girl with a nice butt offered I wouldn't turn this down at this time either .

[aggregate]

The anus has a high number of nerves around it, so it can make you experience a new level of pleasure you haven't felt before. As for why guy's like it, its extremely tight which means more stimulation on our equipment. Most guys also see it as a guaranteed way to make sure the girl doesn't get pregnant. Personally I see it as a way to get extremely intimate with your partner.