1st time with new girl, couldn't get it up. Did I ruin my chance?

[Anonymous]

ok, not the1st time this has happened with a new girl.. She seems like she is willing to give me another chance.. but at the same time remaining very distant. More than usual. The night we hooked up was the 1st time i had seen her in a year. We were drinking at a friends house that night and she invited me over afterwards. Things were going ok but I kept trying to get hard but nothing was working. Then she says 'maybe we should just be friends instead of lovers' I said id like to be more than friends still.. at this point the vibe was totally different. I could tell she had lost alpt of interest, so dumb me goes on n starts telling her how I used to have a crush on her and how gorgeous she is.. to which she responds "thats sweet". Next day (sat) I text her apologizing and saying hope we can see each other again soon. she says dont worry about it. I didn't text her again til mon night saying id like to see her.. no response.. Besides that tho she always responds to my texts.. she is always very short tho.. 4-5 words max but she was like that before we hooked up and it makes it really hard to move the convo past basics like 'how was your day" etc etc. Sounds like im friendzoned right? Well check this she text me today (week later) saying 'i think you left your shirt'.. which threw me off because the 1st thing she commented on when she saw me last week was my shirt.. so I thought she was playing a game or trying to find an excuse to see me? So I play along 'im not sure if its mine or not, I can stop by after work n find out' to which she responds ' I prob won't be home. Its probably my brothers' end of conversation. .. now girls have said n done a lot of weird things to me.. but what was the point of that? Im lost.. I really like this girl n would like to stick it out but her behavior is super confusing. I have no idea if she likes me or not.. any insight?

[truthbeknown]

Oh man, you know what? I really think she just wanted a one night stand with you the night you were both drinking. She was horny for some action, and you were in the right place at the right time. Once it wasn't going to happen she lost all interest. I think she was only after a quick bang that night, and really isn't interested in you. Sorry, man. That is how I see it here. I would text her one last time to say you would like to see her again if she is interested. Then the ball is in her court.
Good luck!
P. S. My dick never cooperates whenever I drink.

[summiter]

I say just talk to her. Get to know her and don't rush into the sex thing. If you do go over and the next time you think you are going to have sex, lay off the booze. It does not help erections.

Are you able to stay hard when you jerk off? Having an erection issue from time to time probably affects more guys then they would care to admit.

[eeveekilla]

Just be straight up I don't want to tell you what I think because if I acted like that I usually lose interest but just tell her that way you know and you can just move on if things didn't go the way you expected them to go

[Ped1981]

My mate pissed all over a girls back the first time he went to bed with her when he was asleep. They hadn't done anything as well. They ended up together for over a decade. Girls are very forgiving

[WestcoastBratt]

The only time I couldn't get it up was when I hooked up with a girl at a party and took her to my friend's bedroom, I was really drunk and she was also smash we both passed the fuck out! Lol

[No_Drama_]

Yes, you ruined it. Sorry.
Many girls are super self conscious and in my opinion she feels rejected because you couldn't perform.
My advice: Let her be the one to contact you. Watch the drinking, you may be prone to whisky dick. And, be confident!

[Nathand]

Told you all.

Women will dump a guy if sex is poor. But these females want to say otherwise.

Sometimes its best to move on. She probably isn't worth it any ways.

[AestheticsFtw]

just say you were testing her

[Anonymous]

women love and unlove you in 3 seconds, dont try to rationalize their behavior or base your happiness and worth on the reciprocation of their attention.