My girlfriend is contemplatling giving me a hall pass given the circumstances of our sexual pasts. Has anyone ever actually done one?

[diehard64]

I lost my virginity to my girlfriend and she has slept with two exes before dating me. We have been dating for a year and everything is great, we truly care and love one another and there is nothing I would want to do to jeoprodize that. It makes me happier than anyone would ever know. As we are getting more serious we are starting to share more about feelings and emotions (I know, as a guy sounds lame but is actually really awesome when you have someone who understands you so well). The topic came up that her sexual past has been troubling me for a really long time. It's sounds small and dumb but as the virgin you feel you have given something to them that you will never get back in return. I also realize that by staying with her I will never experience sex with other people and I will never be able to have a marker between what is good and bad sex. At this point I just know I enjoy the sex I'm having. It becomes a struggle for me because I know by staying with her I will always have to live with that fact. Because of this she suggested a hall pass, give me one more kill then we move on in our relationship. It's ironic how her talking about me having sex with another person is what really showed me how much she loves me for she is really thinking about a solution to cure an emotional sore of mine, even though it would be difficult for her. I don't really want to take the offer but I also want to free myself of this emotional sore. I have read a few stories online and the answer usually comes down to what does the couple think is the best answer, which makes sense. What I would really like to know is has anyone ever tried a hall pass and was it successful or not? Also should I feel guilty for feeling this way Thanks in advance, guy who wants a future with no regrets

[Hephaestus]

It's a terrible idea.
If you're in a relationship, you're in a relationship with that one person.
that should be all that matters
if either party even considers sleeping with someone else, that shows the relationship has serious issues.
ya lost ya v card to ya girlfriend... awesome!
so why does it matter?

[diehard64]

You seem like a stand up guy man, I respect that. It's funny, I can't actually imagine myself actually sleeping with someone else I just want to free myself of jealousy from her past. A hall pass does sound like a terrible idea, is there anything you could suggest that could cure the jealousy?

[Hephaestus]

Yeah I get ya man always feels like they have a comparison and you... well.. don't But honestly, if she makes ya happy you make her happy forget her past the best sex is with someone you love and loves you back. You hit a home run on ya first swing buddy

[Hephaestus]

Danke for mho :3

[diehard64]

Thanks dude, your the first person to word things in a way that actually makes me feel better about my lack of a past. I was really starting to get worried because most articles online basically told me to think of her as merely my first sexual experience and she is worth more to me than that. Cheers man

[summiter]

It sounds like you are happy right now. It is normal to want to explore, but enjoy what you have. How often are you two having sex? Try to keep it interesting via different positions and different places. As you now know it is way better then jerking off! Your thoughts?

[diehard64]

I won't go into details about our sex life, as I know sharing that information would make her uncomfortable, but I will say sex is frequent and we have explored many different positions and places. It is still better than jerking off yes but getting over that physical aspect it's hard to not have memory flashes of her with an ex. It feels like I've been cheated on when the fact is I wasn't. As harsh as that sounds I have read articles and other forums online and have learned that it is actually a normal feeling.

[summiter]

I'm glad you are giving things some serious thought. Hang in there.

[diehard64]

Thanks dude, perhaps my thoughts are too serious. Lol. In the end, unless I find my girlfriend really pushes for the hall pass, will try to forget the past and be happy with what I have. It's better than risking losing a great thing to satisfy a curiousity.

[Bethany-Louise]

Listen to yourself, this girl makes you so happy.. And if it turns out to be a case of 'I was testing you to see if you'd take the hall pass' or if she regrets it afterwards and can't feel the same about you again.. Do you really want to risk jeopardising everything you have for the sake of a meaningless fuck?

[diehard64]

I've mentioned to her before that I don't want to take it, I even said we should just agree it's a bad idea. The subject still comes up. I don't see myself going through with it but I do see it will be a topic in the back of our minds. I don't want to jeoprodize anything, especially when I know we will be doing long distance soon when she goes off to college.

[sid312]

A hall pass is a bad idea she will not be happy later and opens up well u did this etc. Etc i say go to massage palor get laid and say nothing ever not even to ur best friend

[Reflexy]

Take the hall pass...