How do I get him to drill me

Yes, this is obscene... I know. I've been dating a gentleman for 4 months. We haven't had sex yet. Two months into dating, when we became exclusive, we had one occasion where we were able to be alone for the night. I ended the night happy but frustrated, because I wanted him to have sex with me. It was clear that he knew this. He simply said, 'I want to make love to you one day, okay?' I was slightly hurt by it, but I respected his desire to hold off before he was more certain about his feelings. I had brought exclusivity up two months in because I wanted something more with him; he let me know that he wanted to be my boyfriend after this. It was a sweet and sour time... Fast forward to now and we have not had a chance since that night to be alone in bed together. We make out, finger and rub each other to orgasm in his car. Still no sex. He brought up going to a sex show in the city next weekend, and I told him I'm game. Totally makes me have sex on my mind, though. :( We're planning a trip for the winter holidays, where we'll get to be alone again. I have mixed feelings. I'm afraid of him denying me again. I think he might, because we haven't talked about having sex. Even though neither of us really wants to have sex in his car, I would definitely go for it. I think about it all the time because I like him a LOT. I'm telling myself to not just assume he's going to have sex with me on our trip just because we'll be alone again. For some reason I'm 99% sure nothing will happen beyond the usual. It's painful. I like him a hell of a lot... we've been together for a while now... and I wish he was ready. To make matters worse, I think I might be falling in love with him. Now... I know that there's the whole, "but if he wasn't 100% sure about the relationship would you want him to f*** you and then leave afterwards? At least he's being honest to you both"... but at this point I hardly care anymore. I want him bucking up against me like crazy. I want him inside me. I care about him and I want that incredibly badly. So basically... I want to seduce him. But he's incredibly resilient and I don't want to make him do something he doesn't want to do. But damnit... is there some way I can manage it? How can I get him not to care and to be with me like that? How do I seduce him without him being all concerned about where the relationship is going?
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  • Well this is actually pretty easy :D. All you have to do is do something really kinky that he doesn't expect. Like when he leaves wait till you think he's gonna come back and play with yourself in open view. When he walks through the door to see a sight like that his primal urges will come right into play. He sees you pleasuring yourself without him and that moment he sees himself inside you. Going in and out with animalistic ferocity lol. On a more scientific note the fluid excreted by your vagina has a ridiculously powerful pheromone that actually forces a man with a half decent sex drive to be instantly sex crazed. The more of it you pervade into the air when he arrives the more he will want sex. Good luck to you!

  • This is tough one. The last time you were naked in bed with other did he not achieve an erection?

    The next time you expect to be making out in the don't wear any panties. Wear a very short skirt. Get yourself in a strategic position so that almost as soon as he's hard you'll be read to slide his penis inside you. If he prevents this from happening, then you have your answer. He just doesn't to vaginally f*** you.

    • He definitely achieves erections with me. He just holds off on sex because he wants to be in love with me first.

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  • There are a lot of issues here. He may have a low sex drive. Sex means a lot to him.

    But you both may think of it as a toy.

    Oh, hell, I'm out of my league.

    Maybe I'll think of something profound later.

    Ted

  • Tell him you want him to f*** the sh*t out of you. If he doesn't then he may be gay, or ashamed of his penis(less likely). Men are built to f***, it drives us crazy all the damn time. You could even ask him why he doesn't want to have penetrative sex.

  • How about something as simple as talking to him about it? Ask what his thoughts and feelings are, when he would be ready, etc. It is one thing to have to wait, but it is totally different when you don't have a clearly expressed finished line you are moving towards.

  • "We're exclusive, I'm not getting laid, and it's your fault. What are you going to do about it?"

    Or more simply, "When are we f*cking?"

    You could work out your long-term prospects later. Right now, you need to get some short-term nasty.

  • "I want him bucking up against me like crazy. I want him inside me. I care about him and I want that incredibly badly."

    when you go on your vacation, simply tell him something like that in your sexiest voice. if he doesn't fvck you after that then he's either gay or crazy