How do girls feel about guys staring?

[Anonymous]

I will be honest I have and will no doubt continue to stare at girls a lot. I sort of wish I didn't but I think I am addicted more hardcore than a heroin addict is to heroin. I see it as one of the joys of life. Especially because I live in a town where there are beautiful women from all over the world. It's not just a sexual thing. I try to look at a girls face and hair eyes and overall appearance, the sound of her and sort of people watch wonder what her life is like what it would be like to walk in her shoes, not just stare at her boobs or her butt although not gonna lie they catch my attention. Like most guys I have walked down aisles at grocery stores pretending I was looking for something just to look at a woman. Creepy I suppose but I meant no harm whatsoever. I didn't even talk to her and I don't think she even knew. I know a lot of girls put a lot of time into looking good and some girls try to look sexy and provocative at some level they must want attention. I have heard a lot of really attractive cheerleader type girl complain about guys starting at them and to be honest I didn't believe them. I thought you are really just bragging to your friends. I am not a Brad Pitt type but there have been a few times when I saw a girl checking me out and it made my day. I wasn't necessarily attracted back, lets face younger guys get a lot of looks from old grandmas, but it did feel like a compliment. I see the argument for why its bad, don't get me wrong. Sometimes men are too busy ogling to take a woman seriously in the workplace. Or the opposite problem a male manager gives promotions to the more attractive girl. But It would be pure denial not to admit a lot of woman are spending a lot of time and money to get guys to look at them. If there is one thing that is irritating it is a woman that shows off a lot of cleavage and then gets outraged men are looking. Women what do you honestly think about this what goes through your mind when you "catch" a guy looking at you?

[hisangel]

Ok you have to understand a little of a woman's thinking to understand why you might get some mixed signals.

Our whole lives, women are giving a vibe that men are dangerous on some level. It maybe the teeny tinniest level, but it's there. Father's keep there daughters from little boys. If a 5 year old girl and a 5 year old boy are caught playing doctor, the girl is probably carried away by very distraught parents that this happened to her by that terrible little neighborhood boy. But a boys parents probably just rolled their eyes to what he was doing or even laughed at it. So women are giving constant subconscious messages our entire lives about men. When we reach sexual maturity, we hear about things like rape. Giving us even more a underlying fear of men we don't know. So when a man you don't know looks at your breast, what do you think might happen to a woman? If she thinks his motives are bad, it makes her feel uncomfortable. If the guy just glances, there is no danger in that. That's the compliment. But when a guy stares, if you don't know that man, it makes your sense of protection stand on edge that a guy is staring at you. Think about how you would feel if a man who was a lot larger than you stared at you from across the room. I have joked and I have heard female friends joke about a guy staring at them so long they were afraid they were going to end up in his basement, chained to a bed or something. Cause we all have years and years of being taught that men can be dangerous to grapple with in our mind. I know it makes you feel creepy but when a woman is calling a guy creepy there usually is a fear behind the statement. To a woman, a creepy guy isn't just someone who is weird, it is someone who might hurt her. Sometimes that fear comes out in her yelling at a guy to stop looking. I've stared guys down who were looking at me cause I want to make it clear that I'm aware they are there and I am uncomfortable with what they are doing. It really is a survival thing that comes out like a woman looking like a bitch. So you are probably going to get your worst reactions from women when you are looking too much and they now feel uncomfortable. It's not that you are scary, its that they don't know you and they have no idea that your mind might be full of innocent thoughts. A few decades of "guys only want one thing" or "don't be alone with certain guys" makes her wonder if you are up to no good. Again, it's not you, it's how you are coming across to her.

But yes, a simple glance is flattering. And I think it's cute that guys walk down aisles to look at women. I don't think that's creepy.

Also, as weird as this sounds, to a lot of women, things like boobs or their butt are just accessories. They might as well be a necklace or a pair of earrings. They wear low cut tops for the same reason they wear a bracelet, it makes them look better. There isn't always a realization how sexual they are coming across when they do that.

[Asker]

I understand that that makes a lot of sense. What is annoying is girls that show off a lot of skin or spend a lot of time on looking attractive and get mad they are getting looked at. Unless of course a guy they like is looking at them. Then they stick their chest out and start playing with their hair. Its sort of a double standard. Guys they find attractive aren't creepy at all guys they don't find attractive are creepy

[candygirl54]

I usually don't like being stared at if it's creepy. I feel flattered if someone thinks I'm pretty, but only if they don't express it in a sexual way. I'm engaged, so I feel weird about it moreso because of that.
If someone gives me a nice compliment respectfully, I'll say 'thank you' and go about my business. If it's not respectful, I'm not so nice lol. I either laugh to myself or give a serious look. If they're not respectful, I'm not gonna respect them. Sorry, but that's just the way it is to me.

[yoursolutions]

it can be flattering if its done in a suave way on the guys part, but when their like "Damn!" that's not so much. staring makes you uncomfortable but makes you feel really good if the guy is cute or is someone ur interested in.

[Titi18]

lol, I love seeing guys checking me out. That always happen to me at the mall, school, party etc... it doesn't mater if his ugly or cute. it just makes my day too I guess lol.

[Asker]

That's cool it definitely makes my day if a catch a girl checking me out