I Can't feel anything during sex?

[Anonymous]

Im in a new relationship. I have had sex with my boyfriend at least 10 times already and each time i cannot get pleased. what i mean is, 1. i get very wet but i dont feel aroused, i dont get very horny 2. when we do it i do not feel anything and there is not enough friction. all i feel is him going in and out of me. even during oral on me or other stimulation i dont get aroused and can't feel much. Now recently I've started feeling a bit, and oral had gotten better. But still not enough and nothing near climax or anything like that.. its getting us both frustrated. And now whenever i start feeling something, he always finishes first, but all in all I take way too much time to get aroused or anything and i can't feel anything during sex which makes it frustrating and boring. I did discover without a condom it feels a bit better.. not as slippery as with. Does anyone have similar experiences?

[Anonymous]

For girls it's really normal to not have the same sexual turn ons during sex. It's usually more emotional for girls. Most girls can't even orgasm ( I heard one out of five have never had an orgasm). Try exploring yourself, if you can get yourself going then it could be something he is doing wrong. Don't worry about asking him for what you want, you guys can't read minds so go ahead and ask! He also might just not be up to size... If you're worried about your lady bits' health, then you might want to consider having your doc check you out.

[Anonymous]

everyone else has mentioned foreplay which could be a roblem - I think you need more of it.

But I haven't seen anyone else suggest dif positions - try having sex in missioniary with one or both legs over his shoulders. try doggy.

Another thing - are you attacted to him?

sounds like you could be a bit tense during - that will prevent you fro fully enjoying it and cumming

ten times is not a lot maybe practise makes perfect?

also use a condom!!

[My5teryGirl]

I am in the same situation as you except I don't do horse riding and used smaller objects for masturbation. My boyfriend's dick is on the big side so I do feel him when he first enters but any other time nothing. Plus I've never once had an orgasm in my life.

[Anonymous]

Is your boyfriend doing anything for your pleasure when you have sex? Like rubbing your clit while he penetrates you, or lots of sensual touching during foreplay? If he isn't, or his technique isn't very good, then that could definitely be why. I mean only a few girls can come just from vaginal sex...

[Asker]

yes, we try everything but nothing seems to get me aroused.. and i dont feel any pressure inside.. is his dick maybe too small?

[Asker]

well very litle pressure..

[Opinion Owner]

How small are we talking? But I doubt that, I actually wonder if he doesn't get hard enough. On the other hand, if it affects your pleasure in general, it may not be him. If you don't mind the question, have you come from masturbation or with other partners, or did you experience the same issues there too?

[Asker]

no no he gets hard enough.. he's my first partner, haven't masturbated much. PS the first time we had sex i didn't bleed and penetration didn't hurt at all. i do horseback riding by the way but anyway..

[Opinion Owner]

I think I have a better idea now but I know the questions can be sensitive, ok to continue or do you prefer pm?

[Asker]

here is fine

[Opinion Owner]

Alright sure. You say you haven't masturbated much, have you ever reached orgasm from masturbation?

[Asker]

i masturbated more in the past with lager things than his size, and it did feel better in a sense.. but no i dont think i did.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh god, then that's why.

[Asker]

yea? :(

[Asker]

is there something i can do about this whole situation?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes... but this will be so wonderful if it works out, so hang on! Next time you're alone and have some time to spare, in a place where you can be completely relaxed, you should start experimenting. Stroke your clitoris with your fingers, tuck a pillow between your legs and grind your vulva/clit against it, or if you can and you feel comfortable, get a vibrator and use that. And when you do come, there won't be any mistake about it, it feels pretty incredible.

[Asker]

ok thank u, I've tried experimenting but without a vibrator, and not much really stimulated me. Is there anything i can do about improving sex with him and not based on masturbation?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, definitely! The reason this is so important is that your boyfriend seems a bit new to this as well, and it's hard for him to learn what you like until you know it yourself :) Once you know how to give yourself pleasure, and make yourself come, you can transfer a lot of that knowledge by showing him. In some positions, when he can reach your clit, he can definitely rub you off during sex, and it would be a great idea for him to learn some oral techniques as well. It depends what you like, but what does he do when he goes down on you right now?

[Opinion Owner]

Oh and I would suggest this blog, it's written by a girl who talks about some similar issues: orgasmictipsforgirls. tumblr. com/post/34264426834/orgasm-during-sex-rubbing-clit orgasmictipsforgirls. tumblr. com/post/31620137237/how-to-achieve-orgasm-female-masturbation-help

[Asker]

thank you!

[Opinion Owner]

sure of course :)

[Opinion Owner]

Hey, one more thing for when you're with your boyfriend. When he goes down on you, he should suck directly on your clit, creating a seal and so that the entire head of your clit is between his lips and he can caress it with his tongue. At the same time he can stroke with a few fingers along your vulva, and when you're ready, stick one or two fingers inside your vagina, reaching about two inches inward towards a rough bump on the top surface of the vagina. At this point, he can curl his middle and index finger around in a "come here" motion, facing back towards him, and finger you at the same time as sucking your clit. Might seem a bit complicated to him at first, but I promise it will be good...

[Outofthegrey]

Hate to be the one who brings this one up, but... is it too small?

[Asker]

maybe.. i considered that as well

[leisureblade]

Talk about it with him, you must have him try different situations and he has to care about your feelings

[Phoenix98]

Do you try foreplay of any kind?

[Asker]

yes, we try everything and nothing seems to get me off...

[Phoenix98]

Hmmm well that's weird, you don't have any sensitive parts anywhere on your body?

[Asker]

yes but in irrelevant ares like my sides underarms n stuff, but not my breasts or anywhere else relevant..

[Phoenix98]

Lol in foreplay every area is a relevant area if it's sexually sensitive then your boyfriend should try to exploit it, you never know could be just what your looking for.

[subzero007]

Maybe coz of sausage tried foreplay before?

[Asker]

yes everything but nothing gets me off. i keep getting the feeling maybe he is too small in size or something..

[subzero007]

Ok got it just tell her to check pegym try sausage excercising that may help if its not hard and big enough then most likely u can't enjoy sex am afraid