Straight Guy who likes giving BJ's?

[butternut5]

My boyfriend is giving HJ's and BJ's to men behind my back. We have been together for 3 years, he says he loves me and enjoys my company, and we have moved together to another state. I am completely attracted to him. When we have sex he doesn't touch me very much to hardly ever, he doesn't kiss me. I am the one who initiates every time. He has convinced me to have 3somes with another man, because he doesn't think that one man can take care of a woman's needs. One time I noticed him giving the other guy a hand job. He was sexually molested as a child by another man, but I don't know all the details. And he was married before with children. He is completely against poking me in the back end, so how could he do it with a man? What the Hell is wrong with me? Why is he dragging me along? Is he bisexual or gay? Am I fooling myself into thinking this is a relationship worth salvaging?

[l-hedoniste]

Calm down. The good news, is that this could all work out. The bad news, is that your relationship probably won't look those of your neighbors, if you put stock in such things.

First, do you *want* to ride this out? Is bisexuality a deal breaker for you? If it is, then there's not much left than to break up. If not, you're going to have to adjust yourself to the flow of men in his romantic life. Sure you can do that?

(Gay guys don't have MFM threesomes; omitting the girl simplifies everyone's life.)

If you decide to stick around, you have to insist that he behaves more responsibly. That means, most of all, NO MORE LYING. And no more high-risk behavior: unprotected anal is absolutely out, and he should be lowering the number of partners outside the relationship.

A lot of this depends on how much you trust him when he's outside your sight. If you don't, this won't work. Fortunately, he has every reason to agree to this; he will find few women that will give him terms this good.

[erockc31]

Damn, he's gay. You need to end this relationship. Plus he's cheating.

[audreymarie21]

he clearly doesn't want to except that he's gay. you need to end the relationship for both of your benefits, but I think you can definitely salvage a friendship with this guy.

[gingey158]

Hunny he is not straight!

a guy would still love touching and kissing you if he was straight

he is gay - he is just using you!

[Starling]

He's obviously not straight. maybe he doesn't like giving it in the back end. Some gays like to be on the receiving end.

[Camilus]

The title to this question is an oxymoron and your boyfriend is a closet homosexual

[LakerFan323]

Sounds like he hit the spot

[Littletad]

Your boyfriend is gay, and your most certainly being dragged along. Sorry.

[Crazycanuck]

well he's definitely a closet case...and his using you as a front to hide his sexuality so brake it off with him because his not worth your time...

[Samii00]

A couple of reasons to break up with him:

-He's cheating

-He's Gay or possibly bi and didn't bother to tell you

[Titi18]

DEFINITELY GAY!

[Pete671]

First, there's nothing wrong with you, it's him that's doing stuff outside of your partnership, and behind your back is disrespectful at best,,,
by the way I'm a "straight" guy that likes to give blowjobs, my girlfriend knows all about it and sometimes joins in which is really hot, it's the deceit and lack of attention from your guy towards you which is worrying, personally speaking I don't think you have much of a future together, sorry,,,