The difference between making love and sex?

I have always thought that there was a difference in meanings between making love and just sex. Making love is supposed to be romantic, sweet, sensual, and passionate, and there absolutely has to be love involved between the two people, and sex is supposed to be, well, just that, isn't it? What I don't understand is why some guys like to use the words "making love" in place of the word "sex", when sex is what they are most likely really after. For example, my ex said that he wanted to make love to me, but I'm pretty sure that isn't what he really meant. Also, when I asked the guy that I'm sort of seeing at the moment what was his New Year's resolution or something that he wanted to happen in the new year, he replied "to make love to you". We've just started seeing each other fairly recently, and I don't really think you can make love to someone when you haven't really had enough time to really fall in love with them. Do guys just use those words to make it sound more appealing to girls and get them to sleep with them faster, or have they honestly forgotten what the real meaning of love making is?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Yes, I believe there's a great difference. "Having sex" is a physical act with physical reactions but "making love" is beyond the realm of physical contact. Sexual interaction is something wonderful to enjoy but "making love" is something to experience. No words can describe lovemaking and no one can capture or package it. That's the difference!

    "Having sex" can be filmed, described, sold, packaged and even justified but making love is outside of everything. It transports you to another place. Sex is momentary but lovemaking touches the eternal.

    Given a choice I believe most people crave lovemaking but settle for having sex. Perhaps not a popular opinion but I believe it to be true.

    Good Luck.

    - Harvey D

  • I think of the meanings the same way you do, making love is something you do with someone you genuinely care about, and it is sensual and passionate. Sex is just that, sex. However, regardless of how you define it, a lot of people think the two are interchangeable, and don't know that they aren't the same thing. They can inadvertently misuse them. There are also others who do use "making love" just to try to get in your pants, when they understand that it isn't what it is.

Most Helpful Girls

  • making love is a feeling the difference is you have sex with whoever and most of the time it is meaningless. it doesn't have to be slow or romantic for it to be making love. you make love with the person you are in love with. you can have wild crazy sex is it sex or making love depends on who you are with your or can lay there while someone thinks they are making love to you and there be no feelings at all and I'm sorry that's sex

  • Making love involves an emotional and mental aspect.Making love is a physical expression of your mental/emotional love for your partner.Two people have to love each other,care about each other and be in love with one another to make love

    Those guys who use it that early,are simply trying to sweeten up what they really want and they think it will make you want it more if they are "romantic" about it

  • Sounds exactly right.

    A guy will offer to make love because it sounds more appealing than sex, even if he just wants to f***k. It's a way of persuading you.

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  • Wow. Right on all counts.

  • Making love is about GIVING pleasure not taking it...

    My Wife and I make love every morning... We dresses for bed - lovely sleepwear... in the morning we wake and engage in foreplay - we both enjoy it... Then when she is sufficiently aroused I provide my mouth to her and I am not shy about adding a finger or a vibrator and I keep at this until she cums. We wait until she has relaxed a bit and then we engage in intercourse... she picks which position she wishes me to take her in...

  • yeah, if a guy says he wants to 'make love to you' and hasn't even known you long enough to even say he loves you and mean it, he's probably just looking to get laid and hopes his choice of words will add to his chances that you'll give it up.