The slapping of the female buttocks...what's going on?

[SchickChick1223]

OK, so I have sessions with a group of close friends, both male and female aged 18-24. We discussed the topic of guys grabbing/slapping/touching our butts without permission one day. We asked the guys who's done it. Majority raised their hands and admitted that they knew they were in the wrong. They said that we, girls, just put it out there! I know there are some girl who wear things that have half their booty out, but that does not give the right for a friend, let alone a total stranger, to grab it. But I'm not even talking about those girls. What about the girls who are fully clothes with a pair of fitting jeans or have form-fitting dresses? We are not screaming "come grab my butt because it is noticeable!" It is apart of our bodies, guys have it too. We cannot hide our behinds unless you guys want us to wear oversized shirts or gowns that hide every aspect of our figures. What you guys are doing is equivalent to us going around grabbing your penis' just because we can see the bulge. One of the guys, who we all knew grabbed one our friend's butt the other day, didn't raise his hand. He was one of the younger guys. She called him out on it in a jokingly manner because we all knew it was true. However, he got offensive, still denied it saying, " Hell no, I didn't touch you because I'm not even attracted to you like that!" Completely insulted her. We all knew she is a very attractive girl in every aspect, and she knew that too. But what girl wants to hear that? We just want you guys to admit to it. So, why do you guys (not all) feel it is ok to touch a chick's butt that you don't even know or even perhaps you do know her?

[Subotai]

Well we would probably let you do that, grab our penises but I get what you mean it is wrong. Horniness desire curiosity a feeling of entitlement. There is probably some seeking dominance there especially if it is spanking maybe on a subconscious level. I don't do this. Well ok I did this once in Junior High and I suppose there were one or two times where in a crowded space I sorta accidentally bumped into a girls butt and enjoyed it. I mean most guys are mature enough not to do this but it is tempting I mean I want to reach out touch and I don't lol. I'm not a pervert or unusual just trying to be honest. Its hard to explain I look but I don't touch I am not gonna lie I look at girls a lot not just their booties but sometimes you find yourself walking behind a girl. Its hard not to look, and something I don't think girls need to freak out about touching though that is innapropriate and wrong and most guys are mature enough to have some self control

[joshnumber21]

I've always thought this was completely unacceptable and myself, I have NEVER done it. In a way, I suppose it is comparable to a girl grabbing a hold of a guys "junk". You have to put yourself in the position of being the groped person's significant other and ask yourself if you would be ok with it...

[mattnudd]

You think its unacceptable to grab a girls 'junk' but then ask the question 'If you had the opportunity to see one of your friends' significant others nude, without anyone finding out, would you?' Think that's just a little bit hypocritical

[joshnumber21]

Typical teenager, opening your mouth before thinking. Try this one on junior, do you see the difference between LOOKING and TOUCHING?

[mattnudd]

So touching a girls ass is worse then looking at a friend for example naked without anyone ever finding out... I think its hypocritical that you would find grabbing a girls ass unacceptable but perv on a friend without her or anyone else finding out isn't unacceptable. Anyway I don't want to argue anymore its pointless.

[joshnumber21]

In the first sentence of your second response (which is in question form) you answered the question in itself. You are right about arguing being pointless but ask your girlfriend the question: which would make you more mad, sneaking a peek at a naked girl, or touching a girl's butt... And if I was being hypocritical I would have asked the question like this: "If you saw your best friend's girl naked, would you run up and smack her butt?" LOL, cheers.

[SchickChick1223]

It's not arguing. It's simply debating. We all have opinions, and I never get offended by debates. I don't mean to attack anyone personally, just challenge their point of view.

[Anonymous]

My ex boyfriend slapped my ass one time I thought that came out of left field. But anyways, I know exactly what you're talking about having that happened to me too, but I can't help but remember all the times I just grabbed my guy friend's butts for fun... they liked it! lol

[dancingmusic]

I thinks it a sign of ownership or something especial with their girlfriends

[martyfellow]

IN some situations this is a long tradition...slapping the barmaid, for example.

For us Italians, any time is OK!

We know the Anglo women find this offensive, but hey, you Tiger Woods women really can't be getting on a high horse about this, can you? I don't mean you personally, but le'ts be honest about mainstream US women in general. How much respect can you really expect?

[martyfellow]

Real intelligent response

[DeadKennedy]

Its totally not okay!

[mattnudd]

no it isn't an equivalent of 'going around grabbing your penis.' Its the equivalent of grabbing a guys ass. It is perfectly find in certain places such as maybe a guy grabbing a girls ass from a group in which have 'Sessions' both male and female from ages 18 - 24. Its perfectly normal, just a way of attracting a girl. You don't just try and have sex with a girl at a club, you speak to her, hold her hand, kiss her and whatever its a process...

[SchickChick1223]

I don't know what's up with the quotations around sessions. So...a group of friends "get together" and talk about "things and issues" that go on in "our lives." You're basically saying that it's ok if any guy, young or old, stranger or not, feels on women's butts. Welp, I asked for you opinion and I got it. No complaints. But I hope you think about the females in your life (mother or sister perhaps). Would you be ok with guys grabbing their butts since it's completely normal and respectable?

[proud_bostonian15]

Seriously?? this guy's right...i love it when a guy grabs my ass or yells something out a car window, it makes me feel good and wanted. plus I'm sure this will sound a little ridiculous but I kinda respect them a little more for having the guts :) and honestly, my guy friend had some girl grab his ass a couple weeks ago and it made him so happy :) :) :) so (not all) but some guys probably think that girls like it.

[Anonymous]

Wow. Girls should totally grab my penis.

and asking for permission is stupid. do you know how awkward that is?

"hey, um can I grab and or slap your ass?"

doing it to friends is kind of f***ing weird. but BF,GF? that should be okay man!

[Anonymous]

I have mixed feelings I don't think it matters if its a good friend in a joking way but if some random guy came and grabbed my ass I would be pretty p*ssed.

[Anonymous]

i love slappin' asses

[Anonymous]

You have sessions and think tanks as fun? LAME.

PS SLAP

[SchickChick1223]

Yea we do. Its like our bible study.

[toulouse]

I think that is awesome! How did you get people to agree to do that? Who's idea was it? BTW, "" Mr Anonymous Lame" How do you think we have a government. or a constitution, human rights , schools, sports teams , any organization that helps society progress - You're ability to use a computer is based on people getting together in groups to discuss issues. If you suddenly had something taken away - like your FREEDOM, you might not think it so lame, & if you DID, you'd be pretty helpless^

[SchickChick1223]

Thx! we didn't agree it just sorta happened...we are always together at somebodys place so we then just set a specific day to do it. It can get out of hand tho because we are close and we know things about each other, but its a learning experience and quite funny wen people get too defensive bout things lol one of my friends mom thought it was a good idea we all call her mom because we can talk to her bout anything and everything

[Anonymous]

You will be older before you know it, and they will stop doing it. You might miss it.