It just goes limp mid sex multiple times. WHY?

[Anonymous]

The first few times we had sex it was great! However moving forward almost everytime we have sex in middle of great fun the penis just goes limp and he goes down on me while he's trying to get his penis hard again. It's never happened to my previous relationships before. He's a healthy guy who doesn't drink or on any medication. I honestly don't think depression is the issue. At first I thought could it be me? Am I not hot enough or attractive anymore? But, I honestly don't think it's the reason? I work out a lot and have a fit body. Any advice both guys and girls?

[Anonymous]

Here's something i feel isn't talked about enough. ... there's a possibility that, and this may sound crazy, the pressure of required hardness is a turnoff, which effects hardness.

That's me. I just wanna have fun. Can't the bedroom with the person i like be the one place me and my penis can let go all the pressures of the world?

Tbh i don't see it as a lack of function, it's a sexual preference to a more loving, intricate and tender touch a vagina just can't physically give. I love kissing and lots of attention to the head, being cradled in her hands feeling loved and protected.

It really does just seem like a more enjoyable time tbh lol, not to mention the million billion other things you can do with sex ;p

[JuicyBrain]

20 minutes is relatively not bad to be honest...
What he needs to do is alternate between oral and sex, change position once in a while. After 20 minutes of non-stop thrusting, I might lose my erection too...

[Asker]

we do switch up the positions! But yeah sometimes it gets boring with the trusting in my opinion! thank you for your feedback though.

[ShaunaM95]

It could just be erectile dysfunction or something.

[spliff]

Nope, not with u.. Like a rock, explode like tnt

[DeerHunter93]

He's prolly climaxed... afterwards it will take several minutes to regain a erection that prolly why he goes down on you, he's trying to build back up

[Asker]

I don't think so... when he climax and cums you know it. CAN'T FAKE it for him.

[DeerHunter93]

This might be a good thing. Most guys cum one time and are done, at least he will go multiple rounds of sex

[meatballs21]

Are you wearing condoms?

[Asker]

Yes, he wears condoms every time. He blames the condoms after 20 minutes? He says it's too tight.

[meatballs21]

AHA! We have solved the mystery. *checks watch* And in record time! For one thing, condoms ruin the feeling for a guy. It's like trying to eat a candy without taking it out of the wrapper. If the condom doesn't fit, he needs to buy better ones. A sex shop is the place to go since they carry a much wider assortments of brands and sizes. He should buy a variety of different ones and you guys can have fun trying them out to see which one works best. Usually a good shop will sell them individually so you don't have to throw down serious money on a box of condoms you might end up hating. Also, buy some lube. Put a drop of it inside the condom, THEN put the condom on, THEN put more lube on the outside. Good luck!

[Asker]

We've tried a few different ones! But maybe he needs to keep condom searching lol. Yes, lube is a must. Thanks!

[meatballs21]

If he says it's tight, get some larger ones. It depends on where it's tight, some have a flared tip. Oh, and tell him hold off jacking it for at least a day before you get together. I speak from experience, I was worried I was disappointing a girl because I couldn't finish with a condom on, so for our next date I went without for three days and everything worked a lot better the next time :)

[jschlik017]

Maybe he's trying to hard not to cum. That has happened to me before.