Dealing with insecurity over penis size?

[StrangeKid]

I'm not going to say what age I am, but basically I'm between 16 and 19. The size of my thing is well below average, 10.5cm/4.1 inches long and 10cm/4 inches around(?). Not very long or thick, I'm aware. This question has probably been to hell and back but I've combed this site and all its really done is made me even more insecure. I've read stuff like "anything under 6 inches is crap" or "lol you might as well be a girl!". All those responses I read made me feel hopeless and pathetic. I can't help the fact that it's small, but do girls really look down on guys like that? I'm still a virgin so at this point I'm deathly scared of what any girl would think of me when the time comes around and she sees what I have. What am I supposed to do in this situation? -please be totally and completely honest- :x

[Anonymous]

Without really knowing what to say here to make you feel better, I can tell you a couple of things...

- My d*** randomly went from 5ish inches to 6.75 when I was 19-20 years old, that was pretty cool haha

- You actually can make your d*** bigger by stretching it out, it's called "jelqing" and it's a bit of an experimental process but supposedly it works

I mean rather than give you some sort of philosophical answer (that you're guaranteed to get), I'll just tell you these facts that may or may not be true for everybody but I've found them to be true.

If you got something you're unhappy with, you should just figure out what you can do about it. Lots of times with today's knowledge, there's a safe solution to everything. I had really bad acne that would not go away from ANYTHING so instead of getting chemical peels and Accutane (a REALLY aggressive drug that you should avoid if possible) I got water filters, washed myself with distilled water, changed the lotions / cleansers I used, everything. All my surface acne cleared up pretty instantly as soon as I started doing the new things and the deeper stuff is going to take a while but I'm optimistic.

Hey we all got problems, you just gotta be aware of the ways to solve it (surprisingly, there is usually something to do about it) and the pros and cons of each solution.

[Anonymous]

Well just for your info I tried out jelqing for a bit, I'm not too small myself. Already above the average, which is good because I'm Asian, it could've been worse lol. and I will say that I did get a little bit longer, a little bit thicker, and flaccid I got a lot bigger. I ended up stopping because I didn't really need it and it takes up time, a good 45 min per "session". But it worked for me and my penis is still attatched to my body so go for it hahaha

[StrangeKid]

Well I'm kinda Asian also. :| I would try, but first my physical priority is to lose some weight atm. I'm like 5'11 and 264lbs so yeah that's kinda more important than getting a slightly-slightly bigger penis. Actually, I've also read somewhere that losing weight gives some length and thickness to the penis due to increased blood flow, less pubic fat covering, etc. Though I'm not really sure and I'll probably end up asking another question about that later.

[Anonymous]

First off,you have nothing to be ashamed of.I'm a 36B in bra sizes and I've heard the average are C cups.So do you think every girl who isn't a C cup should be insecure and ashamed?No.You just have to learn how to work it.

In all honesty,size doesn't necessarily matter.Now if you had a vienna,I would tell you otherwise,but other than that,size is whatever.A guy could have a thick and long penis,but if he doesn't know how to use it or what to do with it,size is irrelevant.

You're a virgin,no girl would expect you to be amazing at sex the first time.Sex takes practice,so you would gradually become more "skilled" and better in bed with time.But,you just have to learn to push the girls buttons.Know about the female anatomy,as her what feels good and suggest positions that all for deeper penetration.

Also,many women can't orgasm through vaginal sex,usually oral sex.Oral sex skills can make a guy amazing in bed,regardless of size.

Chill out.A girl who loves you wouldn't care.

Would you care about her breast size?

[StrangeKid]

What's a vienna? Haha Anyway, no I wouldn't care about a girl's breast size. I wouldn't care if hers are flat, big, small, average, whatever. I'm just insecure because I don't know what girls think. Maybe it doesn't matter to one girl, but it makes all the difference to another, and I don't know which one I might meet.

[Opinion Owner]

Like vienna sausage...google it(Nothing nasty) but just a comparison...Yea and if you meet that right girl,it won't matter...And would you really want to go for a girl who's going to be a b*tch and judge you based on your penis size?Or claim that you won't be able to please her cause of her size.Fact is anyways,most girls can't orgasm through vaginal stimulation

[liltaylz911]

well honestly, I don't think you should be concerned about penis sizes, and neither should girls. I don't understand why girls want big penises, its not even like the whole thing will be in use. the whole big penis obsession is retarded. you should be glad you actually have one that works. it could pleasure any girl and I'm hoping you are more confident. besides having a smaller penis is better for you because you can get a blowjob and more of the shaft will fit in her mouth. so HA! all of the guys with big penises can hop off, because they cannot get the same satisfaction as you can. so good luck with you problem :)

[Anonymous]

to be totally honest. Most girls do like a larger. I mean It feels better...thats the reality of it..my current boyfriend Is not that big... it was an issue with me at first because I was worried he wouldn't sastify me but I told myself not to be shallow now I enjoy having sex with him .. one thing he is good at is oral... I told him I really can't be totally satisfied with just intercourse sex and he understands I think he knows he is on the smaller side also ...but he takes his time and pleases me in other ways. (orally) So if you can do that you got it made! :) don't worry.

[StrangeKid]

Thanks for being honest. Personally though, what kind of things would you recommend to do? Any certain positions/actions? Haha, I'm trying my best to not make this sound as creepy-pedo/horny-teenager as possible so I hope it doesn't make you feel uncomfortable answering, that's not what I intend at all. I just wanna learn to be more comfortable and confident with myself and what I can do.

[sweett_bunz]

Actually I wouldn't look down on a guy because of his size. its the person not the di c k who makes a man. and you admitting this Makes you pretty manly :)