He Wants To See Me Naked, But I know He'll Just Be Disappointed...Advice?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend wants to see me naked.I am a virgin and he knows that and he said he's OK with waiting,but we have started having oral sex,but he said it would be more enjoyable if I were completely naked while giving and receiving.He keeps asking me to take my clothes off for oral,so I could be completely naked.But I don't want him to see me naked.I don't like certain things about my body.Like,I have light stretch marks on my hips and inner thighs,they are lighter than my skin.And my breasts are smaller than what guys like.I'm a 36 B.But the major thing about my breasts are that my areolas are big (Not like dime big) and they (my breasts) aren't perky(They point downwards),which I know they should be perky cause they are small,so I know that's a huge letdown and deal breaker for guys. Since,I obviously know that he won't find me attractive,should I just break up with him now?That way he won't feel awkward or feel as though he has to lie to me? We've been going out for a year if that matters

[DangerIsis]

everyone has things they don't like about themselves. he probably has insecurities aswell.

go get a stretchmark/scar care creme from the drug store, they usually take some time to work but it'll go away eventually. maybe you even want to put a little powder on your hips. but I doubt he'll notice them anyways.

now your breasts- he knows how big your breasts are, unless you wear a giant blanket whenever he sees you. there are excersizes to make your breasts firmer (I do them, I don't even have a crease).

wear a bra with an underwire to keep gravity from working, wear it most of the day (and when you're sleeping). later massage them in a circular motion with one arm above your head (you can google these excersizes for more detail). it increases circulation.

your areolas are not a big issue. inface I think bigger ones are kindof pretty.

walking around in your room naked when no one is around is a great excersize to make you more confident. I do it all the time, and I have no problem taking my clothes off now.

so, be comfortable in your own skin and enjoy it, there's nothing sexier than that. but if there's ways to help your skin to build confidence, use them!

[urstrully]

He's been with you so long and is very emotionally invested.

If he truly loves you I'm sure that he will find you to be the most beautiful women on this planet.

I know how it feels to be super insecure about your body. All it takes is lots and lots of courage and just letting go. He's your partner and has been your partner for over a year. Tell him what a big deal it is for you to be naked in front of him.

Make sure he knows to be sensitive to you and if the doesn't like your body and decides to make a big deal out of it. He never loved you and you where with the wrong person.

Breaking up with someone over your insecurities is never a good reason. Trust me, you will get to that comfort level where you could walk naked in front of him all day everyday and it would be normal.

You will still be insecure, but you will be more comfortable around him.

Good luck.

[Feelinfrisky]

What a great answer!

[urstrully]

Thank you (:

[lorene]

i am in the same boat as you

if he really loves you he will not have a problem at all

true love is blind that is over used but its very true

[MartinIsAMartian]

I think he will be disappointed,but if he is being nice,he won't say anything.Yes,sagging breasts,especially small sagging breasts are a huge letdown(No guy can deny that).As for large or big areolas,well,they aren't attractive,proportion is always best,and most guys are turned off by big areolas.And stretchmarks,they aren't the end of the world.I think most people have some,so he probably does too.You can always get a breast lift and areola reduction

I mean,he won't find you as the sexiest girl on earth or the sexiest girl he's been with you,but it won't change whether or not he loves you or cares about you.

I don't think he'll say anything to you.

Maybe you could try a breast lift,Breast Implants and Areola Reduction?They'll fix the problem so you'll feel more confident and look good

Good Luck

[Asker]

I've considered getting implants,a lift and reduction.But I'm scared to death of needles and getting cut

[MartinIsAMartian]

Oh,well.You could always just turn the lights off.He won't have to look at you.Or you could just wear a bra during sex.That way he won't see your boobs.

[urstrully]

Wow. This is just such horrible advice it made me a little nauseous.

[Feelinfrisky]

I think you are over-reacting. You've been together for a year, he knows he is attracted to you. When you have been intimate with, and know someone so well, it would actually be weird to react negatively to seeing all of their body. If you think your relationship with him is good, you can be sure he will like what he see's. You can't hide your body forever...i think your a bit insecure, and will profit by getting this concern out of the way. Do an update soon, and I bet you will be relieved and happy.

[Asker]

But seeing someone with clothes on is different than seeing them with clothes off

[Feelinfrisky]

Ask yourself if seeing some defects in your bf's naked body would change your feelings about him. He knows you so well, because you project to those you know well, how you look inside and outside. People are intuitive, He just wants to see it instead of dream of it. Do not take MartinlsAMartian's possibly well-intentioned, but totally mis-guided remarks to heart. He has a lot to learn about life, and needs to catch up.

[Asker]

No it wouldn't change how I feel about him.But guys are different,more visual and picky over their partners bodys. And I know the guy below is right.He will be disappointed,but I rather save myself and him the embarrassment.My features are a turn off,but love won't make him appreciate them or like them

[The_Box]

Breaking up because you were too insecure about yourself is absolutely pathetic. Don't be ashamed, show off! I'm sure he'll find you sexy if you're confident about your body.

[DanielSan]

not to be rude but this is ridicolous...your already having oral sex with him...and you obviously like him but you think he won't be pleased by what you look like...well in 2 months or a year or whatever your not gonna look different...so just kinda get over your fears...btw a guy can kind tell a girls size through her shirt? I mean he prob has an idea after touching you also ur not the bustiest girl on the block...make up for it in other ways

[amatuer_zombie]

when u'd be naked in front of him,probably he'll be too much in the mood to notice him

believe me guys are the worst looking when naked(most of them hairy and not in good shape,etc)

learn to be comfortable with wht you have and don't worry much

its like the first words you use to start a conversation

most of us are too worried about wht to say and stuff

but in reality it really doesn't matter,the other person doesn't pay much attention to it

[bubbakong2006]

Oh those would be beautiful and a man needs to love you for who you are flaws and all

[Scrimz21]

Real men don't care about what a girl looks like. It sounds corny but it's so true, either he is real and he loves you or your messing with an immature kid. He won't care how you look, even if you have the biggest t*ts in the world or size A, its not changing the way how he truly feels about you.

[Onemario1234]

Don't worry about it. You're making a big deal out of nothing. I can assure you he won't be disappointed. If he is, I'll find him and punch him in the face.

But seriously, you have nothing to worry about. I'm sure everything will be fine.

[BeyondCuriosity]

Why would you break up with him? lol It was smart to let him see you naked. He knows what he will or won't like, and it doesn't sound like any of your concerns would be a deal breaker to most men. Unless you find a super shallow guy, they're not going to be bothered by little flaws or traits that aren't mainstream. I think girls would be surprised how often something they thought was a flaw actually turns out to be something a guy likes. Glad that went well for you.

[Shy_Steve]

You do realise he probably feels the same way about his Body, But he is willing to show you just to see yours aswell, So just try to relax and focus on what you like about him and his body.

[Anonymous]

I like that you forced YOURSELF! Have your forced YOURSELF to do other things?

[Asker]

Sexually nooo.In other parts of my life yes

[Anonymous]

if he loves you he should be able to see past any imperfections in ur body... and just because you don't like it doesn't mean he wont, people (especially gilrs) are often way to critical of themselves... in my opinion you should let him see, and if he reacts badly then leave him... no reason to stop ur realtionship of a year because you are scared he won't like ur body.

my girlfriend hates her body but I think its nice.

[Asker]

Yea,but I know he won't like it...I'd rather save myself the embarrassment

[Opinion Owner]

U can't know for sure that he won't like it untill he's seen it... like I said, my girlfriend HATES her body, but I think its nice, I love it, seeing her naked is awesome! I'm sure she felt similar to you the first time I saw it... its not amazing, she has some streach marks and a little extra weight, but idc about that... I love her body because its hers and I love her