Hi! My Name Is Matt, I have never had sex before and am hopefully going to soon, but I have a problem :/?

[blastashes]

Personally, I have never had sex before, I am 21 years old and most definetly a virgin, Why? I think probably because I never socialized well in high school and then ended up providing care for a disabled parent and filling my time with work and now college. Now finally am i actually involving myself with women. Unfortunately I am actually very scared of sex, not the idea of it itself, and not actually doing it, but the results of what are going to happen. For an example, a trouble that I've been having is that, like a normal guy, I can look up porn and of course, masturbate. But I really feel that I "Come" too quickly, i mean sometimes its like, less than a minute, sometimes it's even 10 seconds. And I really feel that its embarrasing. I feel like i'm going to get into the bed, start doing "the motions" of foreplay and stuff, and then when i go in ill move back and fourth 3 or 4 times and then thats it... So one thing I tried was, and this is kinda embarrasing but I ended up buying a pocket pussy toy from amazon, probably shouldn't have done that but it was the closest i could get to actual practice. And so with some lube i ended up drying to use the toy, it actually felt great, but then i got kind of scared, when i got close to "comming" i guess you could say that its ended up weird, i kind of felt like, it felt so good, that i almost couldn't stand it, and had to pull out before releasing my "stuff" and then i felt like omg what if this happened during sex =0... I absolutely want my girlfriend to be treated as good as possible and to enjoy her body in bed and feel amazing, but i just don't know if i'm capable of doing that with my Penis And it kind of scares me a lot. So what do you think, are you a guy that has a issue of popping off in 5-10 seconds, or a girl that has been with a guy that has done so? Any help is appreciated!

[ZekeGaymer]

First off, things will end up all right.

It does sound like you're worry a little much. I assume this girl knows you're a virgin? If so, she should understand if you have a sensitive trigger. If you're still worried about cuming too soon, then realize that sex is a process that involves more than just sticking your penis in a vagina. Foreplay and oral are part of it to. Start out using your fingers and, if you don't mind, your mouth. It'll be new and there will be a learning curve, but she can help you out by letting you know when you've got something right and she enjoys it. You can go like that until she is satisfied. Then you can got for insertion and if it only lasts 10 seconds, she'll still already have been satisfied.

Also, I know that exact feeling your talking about with te masterbation toy. Were you laying on your back and moving the toy with your hands? I've noticed that sensation most of them with that setup. Try holding the toy stationary and thrusting into it so you are the thing moving, it will be more like how sex actually is. The toy is a good way to work on stamina and lasting longer.

[masterdm001]

When I was younger, I use to have the issue that I would blow in a few minutes while watching porn, but with a girl doing the real thing, its a completely different story. I last for a good hour and a half and it drives her nuts. Of course toys are going to get you off faster because they are designed for ultimate pleasure in most cases. If you are worried about losing control to early, try masturbating a couple hours beforehand, This will help you last longer. Lastly, Its different for everyone so there is no way of telling what will happen. Best advice, don't be afraid to use foreplay, its there to help and spare you some time to ease down. If you feel you self getting ready to lose it and you don't think she's had enough, try stopping for a minute and it will buy you some time.

[danielle_longisland]

you are absolutely worrying too much.

here's the truth: the first time you have sex you will most likely finish in under a minute.
honestly, most guys who are less experienced dont last very long and even guys who are experienced but haven't had sex in a while have the same thing happen. if the girl you are with knows that you're a virgin she will expect this since its completely normal.

if you're REALLY worried about making sure the girl you're with is having fun the first time just make sure she has fun before the actual intercourse part. make foreplay last long. touch her everywhere, tease her, and make sure you give her an orgasm with your hands/tongue before you actually have sex. but even if you dont do any of this first, remember that you may finish early but there's no reason you can't wait a little while and then go again (youll last longer the second time)

[Anonymous]

Let go of the pocket pussy! Seriously! Because it might end up feeling better than regular pussy.
Don't worry if you cum too fast. I actually feel accomplished when this happens.
Cumming too fast is way better than not cumming at all.
Also don't worry she'll probably be so scared and nervous too that she won't even notice how nervous you are. Just make sure to do it with a girl you really like and not some random hook up

[Stasii_Baby]

Well I'm a virgin also but if I was n ur position I think I'd do a lot of foreplay for her that way when u do go to stick it n she'll b good and anyway if she loves u she won't care about how long

[cman1996]

the thing about sex the more you do it the more stamina you get.
my ex hadn't had sex in a while the first time we did was like 5 minutes if that but about a month in was like 30 minutes

[summiter]

It is perfectly normal for a guy to be nervous about sex for the first time. Girls understand that sometimes you may be a bit quick off of the trigger. A thicker condom will help. I would also suggest that when the time comes you get the girl off first by fingering or oral. That way she gets a great orgasm first.

You can also have her give you a handjob first or jerk off about an hour before sex which may slow you down. Then again you can always go for round two or three which may slow you down. When you jerk off a second time does it slow you down? If so that may be the trick. Try not to overthink it, just enjoy the experience with her, it will only get better. Your thoughts?

[Vrdude]

Getting off too soon the first couple of times your with a girl is fairly common. Look at it as a compliment. Im sorry babe but you really turned me on.

A bigger issue may be looming. Over stimulation by porn and masturbation vsn make it difficult to get off inside your partner, or even get hard at all. Look up nofap articles.

[Jared____]

No I don't have that issue