If my boyfriend is watching girls on their webcams and talking to them online is it cheating?

[kmays89]

I am p*ssed because of this sh*t, I feel like he wasting my time and lying to me, I have asked him over and over again just tell me the truth and it has got to the point that I KNOW when I'm not at home that's what he is doing, on a website called fling.com and he's has lied for months about this and I think that's its a way to cheat on me and he don't understand that I feel that way...wait let me start over...my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2years and we kinda fell out with each other a few months back cause I went through his email and found emails to girls about hooking up and having threesome and all this sh*t, he says he would never cheat on me he loves me and he wouldn't lie to me which is not true at all I caught him in a lie already over the same sh*t. I'm feed up with feeling like I'm wasting my time on him I love this man with all my heart and I know that he is still not telling me the truth cause I check his sh*t everyday when I get home and he tries to cover it up and doesn't do a good job so I need to know am I just over reacting or do I have the right to feel like this deceived and lied too I can't take it anymore thought cause when I confront him about this he gonna make me out to be the bad person cause I've been go thorough his email and opening his websites and using his passwords but it wouldn't matter if he was doing right and I don't think that I really did anything wrong

[Novae]

If you ask the person you love to stop doing something because you don't like it and they still do it, it shows he doesn't respect you.

Also the fact that he lies and has lied, shows he disrespects you even more. I know you have been together a long time and there are still feelings there, but seriously, leave this guy, let him do what he wants because he is going to do it anyway, and would you rather he did all this keeping you stuck in a relationship with him and his lies?

No, it's not a good sign at all, get rid of people like that before they severely hurt you even more and find someone who deserves your love.

This is not love, these are lies, hurt, betrayal, torture. Find someone who you can make happy and who will make you happy in return, someone who won't lie to you and hurt you every single day because you will keep wondering what else they are lying about.

It's not worth it.

[Stripped]

I've been there with my current boyfriend and no matter what guys say it IS cheating. My guy had over 5 girls on the go swapping nude pics and webcam and cybersex. Wether he is bored or not, it's not acceptable and neither is the lying. How would he feel if it was the other way round? I can't say your guy will be the same, but in my experience things won't change. I know it's hard because you love him but you need to get rid, I'm sure you deserve to be happy and if you keep him, you'll be checking up on him ALL the time and soon you'll hate leaving him on his own, it really isn't worth the contstant heartache, it will break you.

My advice is find someone who appreciates you and is loyal to you, there's definitely someone out there. I don't think you're over-reacting either, you can't help how feel.

Sorry for rambling on, good luck with whatever you choose to do :]

[Anonymous]

He is cheating, so you should dump him. You don't trust him, and with good reason. He apparently doesn't respect you enough to not cheat (and what you have described is cheating), and you don't respect him enough to give him privacy (not that I blame you, it's better not to be oblivious). Trust and respect are really important in a relationship, even more so that love. If you trust and respect someone, you don't have to worry about them after a fight or when they are alone. If you can't trust or have respect for someone, then it's time to cut your losses. He is a cheater, you deserve better.

[KINGKONG]

I get on that site, but I do it right in front of my girl. It just gets me all horny and I take it out on her. If he's hiding somthing then there may be somthing up, but then again he may be just getting himself horny enough to do you again and he is only hiding it because of your obvious disapproval. He's probably only resorting to this behavior because your all he's had in a while and he's just getting bored with the same thing every time. Try some new stuff in the bed room, play dress up, do it on web cam, ect. and see if he still needs the computer to get motivated.

[HARDASACACTUS]

Your never going to change him guys are guys.

I look at porn and do not hide it from my gf. She will watch porn with me but I do not watch it 24/7 even I would get sick of it. I watch it and surf for it on ocassion.

But you can join the site yourself and purposly leave a trail of your own. Maybe if he sees you doing it he will know how you feel.

[Cathrine]

he is lying, and to me...those things he does are cheating. You don't need physical contact to cheat. I always caught my ex boyfriend that way, its hard to find out what he's doing and even more that he lies...you are absolutely right.just let him go.

[Brooke101]

You're not overreacting. Dump him. I'd do it...

[Rangersno01]

Hi,

Well your definitely doing the right thing girl, what he is doing is wrong and IT IS CHEATING! Don't let a guy take you for granted and tell him straight about how you feel be strong you don't need a guy girls are independent, ask yourself this if he was happy enough with you why would he be chatting and webcaming other girls, he is a liar and a cheat and you don't need all that grief over a dumb guy come on. If you have caught him out on lying and on web cam then he's really not worth it.

Find someone who will treat you kind and make you feel special and happy not a liar and a cheat who trys to turn it all out on you when your doing nothing wrong he is.

Anything else just ask girl, I'm always happy to help.

good luck on what your choices and decisions are.

BY L

[ladylicker501]

Honey, trust ur gut! He is cheating and always will! Now, if after the first time you caught him and he quit because he didn't wanna risk chance of losing u, then I would say just be cautious. But for him to continue to...he's playin! Drop him now before it gets worse!

[phenenna]

You should really leave him, because it's no healthy relationship.

Ur checking his emails what is absolutely not ok! and he is lying to you

about talking to other girls! There is no base for a sincere relationship.

U should go and leave him with his video girls.

And next time ur with a guy then stop checking his mails and stuff.

Even in a relationship must exist a kind of privacy!

[Reeses-pieces777]

that is definitely cheating. He might be going out with one of those girls too.

[Stefan_R]

He's looking for new pussy. Stop lying to yourself, and stop over thinking sh*t. You know exactly what is going on. I am almost sure that this guy wants sex from you more than on a regular basis. This means that he's bored of you, and wants something different. So I honestly don't see this thing working out for more than another 3-5 months. Quit wasting your time, or go be naive. Good Luck.

[samsochocolate]

LEAVE HIM HUN. LEAVE HIM. BUT LEAVE HIM WELL, AS IN DONT GO CRAZY/SCREAMING AT HIM SAYING UR GONNA LEAVE HIM. cos he mite be 'begging' you back or telling you he loves you etc and you mite fall for it.

[Blackkid]

If he is doing it behind your back with the intention to entice another person then yes it is cheating. If he is doing it for masturbation purposes only that's up to you.

[Smurfyella]

id consider it cheating and dump him.. he's hiding stuff like that from you not good. he know's you don't like it and keeps doing it find someone who has more respect for your feelings

[mangaturtle]

if you're not coll with it, and he's lying to you, then get on with your life and get over him. that is exactly cheating and nothing less.

my only question would be, do you have his permission to get into his sites? because that may be a federal offense if you hacked him. I may be wrong, correct me if I am.

at any rate kick him to the curb, and he can enjoy his hand and cam. and you can move on to a guy who will treat you fairly and honestly.

[m3TALchick]

If your don't approve of him doing that, then it is cheating. If he's lying about it, then its definitely cheating. Don't waste your time with that. Find someone who isn't sucked into fling.com. Why is he looking for a fling when he has you at home? Of course he's gonna try to manipulate you and trying to make you feel bad, its cause he got caught. You deserve better, if a guy truly loves his girl; he wouldn't put her through all that kinda crap.

[Murphie]

Dump his ass...he is cheating on you. You seem as though you have a great deal of respect for yourself while your boyfriend obviously does not. You can do better(: goodluck!

[pearl1979]

He seems selfish. He is driven in a fantasy land. If a guy can't be open with me f**k it. I don't care if he is on sum hot porn site that's his deal. If he is trying to arrange a hook up and trying to hide it from me then I think he might take that xtra step to do so. In that case I'd dump him and leave him with his webcam girls.

[jabbyleigh92]

girl, I feel you 100 percent! I go thru da same sh*t sumtimes. I feel its (kinda) cheatin in a way, but in a dudes eyes it ain't because my ex (witch I still talk 2) says "if I ain't touchin her or f***in her or nothin den its not cheatin" and all his cuzins say da same thing. I don't like it AT ALL. He don't do it now because we jus talkin right now and I'm kinda talkin 2 sum1 anyways but when he did do it a while ago I was always on his ass! and didn't give a f***! He ain't got no damn privacy with me if I'm his girl! shiit! you better let that dude kno who da f*** you is! put yo foot down and let him kno you run sumthin around there. Don't let him get away with that sh*t because he won't ever stop. Speak yo mind, never bite yo tongue. If he c its botherin you and he don't love you enough 2 stop doin that den bounce on his ass and give him sum time 2 think

[hardblond1]

yes! he has definitely stepped past you and trust is now not there! evaluate what this really means to you for future situations? and think hard about what is more important to you! the real needs to have the relationship you want from a man.

[SweetestSinxxx]

yeah its cheating

[reflex]

he could not be cheating when it comes to the online flirting deal it's complicated.I believe thers nothing wrong with it but yet I know I would be a little p*ssed.but think about it this way if you post up some sorta sexy pic on MySpace or on this like say ya icon for the whole world to see is that cheating?think about it he,s just looking at chicks online and as the whole email thing well that's messed up on both ur parts him for having them and you for invading his privacy

[juneangel6390]

Totally agree with him...very true!

[nextelement]

I believe it is a form of cheating. Dump him and make it so that is the only he has. He will feel like a POS now knowing he doesn't have his own real-life version(meaning you).

[koolgirl345]

You are not overreacting. He needs to be a man and tell you the truth, even if it hurts. It sounds like he has been cheating for a long time. =(

Good luck Girl! xo