You both need to relax. Sex shouldn't be stressful. It will happen at its own pace. People always assume it's easy for a guy but they have hangups too.
As you get used to each other it'll get easier. The more you worry about him not cumming, the more pressure you'll put on him and the harder it'll be. Take it slower. Reassure him that you're enjoying playing and it doesn't matter if he doesn't cum. Take the pressure off.
I promise you it's nothing you're doing wrong and it's not because he isn't enjoying himself. My boyfriend is very experienced and he can't always cum. I'm also very aware of how it all works but I've never cum from oral/fingers unless I'm doing it myself. Just relax and enjoy your time with each other.
As for sex - when you're ready it will just happen naturally. It's good that he's supportive and trying to ease you in gently. Make sure you are very turned on first (let him do all the pleasuring he wants and get you nice and wet). When he can comfortably slide 2 fingers all the way in try his penis. Maybe use some lube to begin with.
I know it's all romantic and stuff to start with missionary but you might find it easier if you're on top to begin with as you are in full control of how deep and how fast. Remember, if this is the right guy for you you'll have a nice long future together so you don't need to run to get there. It doesn't matter if it takes days or months as long as you're supporting each other and enjoying it.
If you want to ask any questions feel free to message me and we'll talk privately. It sounds like you've got a supportive boyfriend. I hope it works out for you.
I don't know how old your boyfriend is but he needs to step up his game. Relax let him come to a decision about his relationship with you and his sex life. Honestly and I really mean this – it is not your problem stop blaming yourself for thinking that you're not doing something correctly. This is his problem and he has to deal with it
He's 18 years old and I'm his first girlfriend. He's having a hard time as well since he does want to cum, but he feels like he has to put my pleasure over his.
Some guys come too fast at first and others don't. I had sex at least 10 times before I actually blew a load. I wondered if there was something wrong cause I could pump away for 30 minutes and not cum. One thing I found that when I was inside a woman I just loved my balls played with and it made me cum quicker. Let me know how it goes!
It depends a lot of people don't cum off head... for me I enjoy making my women cum and it turns me on to the point that it's just a mental boost, it makes me feel like I'm the shyt, and that's the true pleasure I get from it... sometimes I don't cum and I don't give 4 fucks about it
Right. He feels the same way. He loves to pleasure me and he likes it when I try to take care of him but he rarely cums. Only when he's pleasuring me as well while I'm busy and even then he gets a bit too distracted.
He prolly just see it as a mental boost... to some men that is more satisfing than busting a nut... there is no problem here
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Don't worry just do things that you both enjoy get lost in the moment. If you want to pleasure him try using the same methods he does to pleasure you. If he is aggressive be aggressive back and just be open to communication.
If he doesn't like it you don't need to do it. Ask him how much he likes it. Tell him that you like to do it, but if he doesn't like it, then you respect it.
He says he does like it and frequently cums almost, but rarely ever cums. Only sometimes with a handjob if I'm sitting on his chest and he's playing with me as well. He says it might be because he thinks my pleasure is more important and gets distracted again.
So tell him not to worry about it, tell him to enjoy his pleasure and when the time comes he'll give you pleasure. One thing at a time.
I'm the same with my girlfriend, I hardly come from a blow job but when I do it gushes same with her hands.
Talk to him about it, if he likes it then just enjoy it don't worry about the cum just enjoy playing and if either of you cum while you play that's a bonus
he may be embarrassed or nervous for whatever reason...
He's been a bit insecure lately, maybe I should ask further about it.
no you're fine he wants to be inside you, yes bjs give a pretty picture but being inside is way better
I think so too. Problem is, I have some trouble with relaxing while having sex since I am/was still a virgin. We're now building it up slowly centimeter per centimeter so in the meantime we do other stuff to still satisfy our needs. He feels really bad when he doesn't cum.
Speaking from personal experience, I much prefer to watch (and especially hear) my girl cum then have her go down on me. Also he may like to have a little bit of foreplay first. Honestly it is not your fault nor is it likely his. What you need to do is communicate with each other about what you most like. Experiment with different things and make sure he tells you what works well. Same goes for you telling him what you most like. Relationships are about communication, and that goes for sex too.
Yes! I take a while too and my girl had to try different things and do my fetishes or I wouldn't get off. Try that.
He hasn't figured those out yet.
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