Why would a guy go down on a girl the first time they sleep together?

Me and my boyfriend broke up a few months back and its a long story but, I found out he had started talking to other girls over this break and even had been sleeping with one. He and I had had sex a few times over the break, and I was under the impression he wasn't sleeping with anyone els! any way I called this girl and she told me he had been sleeping over her house here and there and they were having sex and he even went down on her the first time they did any thing! So I know this should be the least of my worries but, it reallly bothers me that my boyfriend of 3yrs after being on a break for 2 wks starts sleeping with a girl and gives her head. When me and him were together he did it with me but not that often and I kinda felt like he wasn't that into it when he did do it. Maybe its just me idk, but why would a guy do something like that to a girl he's having sex with for the first time? And why dose he hardly do it with me? When I use to ask him he would say he was to excited and just wanted to get right to having sex, and that he really dsnt like giving head like that. This is like really messing with my self esteem like what did he find her more physically attractive? I seen pictures of her and she's not that preety he even admitted him self she's not thst attractive so why would he go down on her? could it be because he finally got sumthin knew after sleeping with me for 3yrs? . . .also my vaginal area is a little darker than my complextion and I dnt like the way it looks its not horriable I've seen worst but could that have something to do with it. The girl he slept with is a little lighter than I am, could it be the way it looks that makes him enjoy it more or want to actually do it? ... This is really messing with me and honestly makes me feel like s#%t.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • You know this is not true. Honestly I never go down on a girl UNLESS I'm in a good relationship and I know she is into me and she is CLEAN. I mean I live in New York City and I have my reasons why I don't do that. always wear double condom protection protection and one more time protection. Guys who go down on a girl. risking a lot. they are just dumb they think that they are immune to anything. and bad things happen to those guys ALWAYS!

    • Of course a random bar hookup or something is enough to make sure she's clean. But you do know that the worst thing is to double up on condoms right? Bing it, you'll be getting a girl pregnant that way, the chance is higher than pulling out.

  • Sounds like he just isn't a very good guy. Maybe she is making him? I wouldn't harp on it cause men, real men love vaginas and will never make a woman feel unwanted from it. Your explanation of him sounds like a jerk. You might think you'd be happy to have him, but sooner or later down the road, the unhappiness will overcome that.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Don't let that mess up your self esteem. Could he just have been caught up in the moment?

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