QUICK HANDS while making out? Does that mean things are going too slow for him?

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OK. I have been seeing this guy for a couple of weeks, & we recently got to second base - I guess you call it. But really the base is not the point. I feel totally comfortable with him, I trust him & I like being with him. He has liked me fr a long time & was really happy when we started talking (friend told me). He is VERY respectful & always warns me before he is going to do ANYTHING... then he does his sweet but awkward thing of asking me if it bothered me. My question is about this : when we are talking, walking, or even sitting near each other, he is VERY calm, or controlled or , relaxed or ^it seems mellow. Then , as SOON as we starting kissing or when he is moving his hands around on my body - no where below the waist. He is VERY gentle , but VERY quick.. It is like someone turned on a switch & he just goes 10x's regular speed or something. It feels like he just gets lost almost like it does not matter who it is he is touching... We stay their for a long time - like a couple of hours, so I man he is not rushing the WHOLE thing he just feels rushed in each move... Now I have never been with anyone, so I am no the best judge- maybe that is normal..,. Does the fact that he moves so rapidly mean he does not like me in particular^ cause he does not go slowly while learning me, OR does the rapid movement indicate that he actually wants things to move quickly in general, he just can't say that cause it is too soon, so he is like frustrated & it comes out that way? Note : When he first kissed me he held my waist& my neck, that is it... So know his hands CAN stay in one place... He kissed really intensely, very passionately tho, so maybe some part of him always has to be moving intensely. I don't know

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BellsBabe Xper 4
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your missing the obvious, girl

he is totally IN TO YOU!

any ragged breathing in there?

if its fast hands and kinda but not really ragged he's bordering on the edge of passion.

if its fast hands and ragged breathing, well id kill for that haha x)
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- Asker
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  Omg so sweet. haha. By ragged- you mean like 'breathless'' ? - he's that way- I can FEEL passion- but you can feel passion without respect - right? & A guy could feel passion without liking or loving someone - maybe some guys are just passionate, I mean maybe he is just like that when he gets horny. -I am thinking the worst, but it is confusing because he was not like that when we met & I KNOW he liked me then. We have been in separate places for a while. I'm back -so it's new & DIFFERENT
- BellsBabe
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  Has he ever hurt you? like accidentaly of course but in one of those passionate moments? then he'd probably be taking it to far, but as for the sudden change because you two have been in differnet places, he's probably trying to catch up on what he's missed sort of thing? like he hasn't seen you and he wants you all at once haha :) hope I helped and yeah ragged being breathless x)
- Asker
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  No not hurt me -shock (tho he'd have to calm down before I sleep w/him) - Just wondering why he was not like this before when he def. liked me a lot & was concerned with making a good impression- I mean I worry that maybe he does not care about what kind of impression he makes now cause his feelings are changed. BUT, he acts much better than he used to when we are not fooling around, so I do not think he is using me. He just seems to be on auto pilot like his battery got wound up a bit crazy^
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- Asker
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  "but as for the sudden change because you two have been in differnet places, he's probably trying to catch up on what he's missed sort of thing? like he hasn't seen you and he wants you all at once haha" I missed that before - very cute* lol Yeah, well it felt like he was trying to drink me in - if that makes any sense ^ ^ I do not mean down there lol, just in general like someone who NEEDS water.. maybe it is an act - but it is convincing & kind of thrilling & freaky at once^ :)
- BellsBabe
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  Yeah, I think he's totally into you haha nothing to worry about, unless he goes oer the top and ends up hurting you or making you do something you don't want to etc then you should tell him to stop if that happens... but it seems like he's sweet and caring (: ever heard of the ludacris song lyrics: lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets? well... I suppose you could change lady to man lol x)
- Asker
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  Haha lol.. Ok thanks I feel much better. I hope it's ok to feel better & I am not missing something. For now, I have no reason to doubt anything, it just seems so weird, it's like he is not a person. -He had he made this comment to his friend about me back then. He said I was really innocent - He already had a lot of sex when we met, tho he seemed innocent - maybe, he was just acting that way-since he did not know me, & this is the REAL him. lol oh welllll -haha Thanks^
- BellsBabe
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  Haha yeah, I think its all good, and you don't have anything to worry about! hope I helped x)
- Asker
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  Yeah you did. :-) Thank you*
bananahnahnah Xper 4
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I have a boyfriend but I'm not very fond of like second base stuff and if somehow he hits a homerun how will I be prepared.
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bananahnahnah Xper 4
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Im sure it only means he's into you and the relationship is going better than it was at the batting cages
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- Asker
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  Lol batting cages. :)

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Gabriel37 Xper 4
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He's young, hot-blooded and completely into you! If it feels right, you may want to take things to the next level. If not, ask him to slow down. Sounds cliche' but it doesn't appear that there is anything out of the ordinary going on here. Good luck to the two of you!
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- Asker
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  Hahahahaha, no - no, it does not bother me, ( actually some stuff is way better), I just thought it might be because he does not like me anymore.. It is just that he used it be more gentle, so the change^ I assumed was cause he did not feel the need to be careful, cause he was not worried about weather I liked what he was doing or HIM or not.. - Do you have an idea of what I mean?
- Gabriel37
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  Back to the being totally into you theory! Once his engine is revved, it's becoming more difficult to be as gentle as previously. Also, the comfort level has changed between the two of you! I think a subtle inference for him to be gentle is fitting here. Explain to him that you were much more fond of the tenderness he used to display as opposed to the aggressive approach. It seems you are both just progressing intimately and a small compromise is all that is needed.
- Asker
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  Hah thanks. that was very helpful.. t is weird how the same person can be so completely different... MAYBE cause I feel different & less connected I interpreted that as HIM being less connected- tho, like I said some stuff is much better & it actually feels more intimate, just I a different way- like we used to TALK in between & now he just kind of gets lost haha.. But I HOPE it is not cause since we know each other better, he has lost respect for me. I hope * Thank you.-
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- Asker
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  Btw do YOU think there is way to distinguish between a guy being passionate & a guy just not being thoughtful? You know like he is hyper cause he does not respect me or cause he actually is that attracted to me? I know I know generalizations stereotypes, but it is quicker than reading a bunch of novels for ONE thought I could ask like 1,000 people in two seconds hah. Thanks. :-)
- Gabriel37
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  Though I am in complete agreement that someone's first time should be delicate and loving, men and women react very differently to being turned on sexually. Depending on his level of experience, he may be in less control of his faculties at this point and just want to get right to it. I don't think he's intentionally being inconsiderate, he just really wants you. If you are too uncertain about the timing, ask him to respect that you're not completely ready to make such a big decision yet!
- Gabriel37
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  This is a huge commitment that you're considering and to be honest, you should make absolutely sure that you want this as much as he does! Have a great day and I wish you all the best!
- Asker
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  Thanks. btw I amont planing on having sex for at least 6 months in to any relationship - don't know if that is what YOU meant, but I am not worried about the decision cause I made me LONG ago - I wait till I am comfortable... But thanks for pointing out the difference or that their IS one... & My first time is not going to be for a long time so I I guess he gets more gentle or I get rougher lol
- Gabriel37
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  Haha...Have fun!!
MadHatterni Xper 7
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what guy doesn't have quick hands lol I think everyone would agree we all want to open the candy wrapper sooner then later
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- Asker
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  Hahah Ok well I have no clue having never been with guy- Is it ALWAYS like that? I see other guys are slower - of course this is I public, so I really don't know how they are. It is just a very big contrast. Won't even touch me in public-then goes wild in private. Is that typical? As far as the candy wrapper metaphor - what does that MEAN? ^Sex or just being naked, or what- cause we aren't either... Should I be expecting that? PLUS- I barely DO anything - So what is he so turned on about
- MadHatterni
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  Exploring, you can't get in the mind of a girl, just her pants which seems to be a lot easier due to the fact there's 10 females for every straight male in america lol . Just start slow if your uncomfortable but give him something so he can know its going some where.
- Asker
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  " you can't get in the mind of a girl, " What do you mean? (you CAN actually into head - it's called ^getting to KNOW someone :-) LOL I am not trying to KEEP him, he totally LIKES me, & we make out, & I am ok with what we are doing so far, & he is very careful. It just seems weird. If he is THAT careful, & suddenly then so quick, I wonder if he is supressing himself. btw- Not ALL guys just want to get into girls pants- I may have never been physical with anyone, but I do know people.lol
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- MadHatterni
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  Everyone lies, and its basic to look for sex in the long run.
- Asker
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  By EVERYONE do you mean GUYS ,cause that is less than 50 % of the population.. I AM NOT LYING TO GET SEX.. I think you are being very biased. Is that all that your experiences amount t - sex? Some people do not even HAVE sex, are they automatically honest because of this?
- MadHatterni
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  Everyone lies, and if you really looked up the population, you'll notice in this nation alone there's 10 females for every male. If you get into numbers, more females admit to watching porn, and can name more sites than males. google it for your self.
- Asker
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  I don't understand, are you saying am lying without KNOWING it? I was just responding to you saying basically, the ONLY closeness you can TRULY get with a girl- is in hr pants.. I am not even talking about intention here, just possibility of connecting, I am not sure how EVERYONE lies^ follows ? No really, I am not sure what you are saying.... ? :-)