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My boyfriend said he would rape me?

My boyfriend said that he is willing to wait for me to give him my virginity but he said after that he would just have sex when he wanted to. He told me that when he's mad he wants to spank me and have sex with me really hard and fast. I asked if he would have sex with me even if I said no and he said yes. I also asked him that if I cried would he still force himself on me and he said yes. Would he just be releasing his anger in a sexual way or should I be worried ? He's been saying things to me lately like "If you were here you wouldn't feel your ass for days" and "If you were here I would rape you so bad" What should I do ?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Get away from him now! Not only is it illegal to rape someone, in some states it's illegal to threaten to rape someone. Even if he was speaking of "rape" in a way he misunderstood, making clear that his intentions of forcing himself on you when you say no and are crying, shows a dangerous personality. I would:

    1) break up with him

    2) report what he said to someone in a position you trust. Not only could it be illegal to threaten you, as I mentioned, but other people need to be aware of what he says so if he does, in fact, rape you, you have witnesses to testify that it was premeditated. If he gets in trouble for it, well... frankly, he should.

  • Ditch him, he only says he will wait so you'd have sex with him, then after that he says he will have sex with you whenever he wants. It pretty much means he only wants you for sex. A lot of guys do have high sex drive, but I very much doubt they would force you to just because they were in the mood. I mean some would hint at it strongly but they wouldn't force themselves on you. It's definitely not healthy, and doesn't sound at all safe, you'd be better off with someone who isn't a sex driven weirdo.

Most Helpful Girls

  • my boyfriend says the same thing and I thought it was weird, I'm a virgin to but my boyfriend and I have other types of sex and one time he pinned me down and did something he knew I didn't want and I kept telling him to stop and get off me and he told me if he really wanted to he would put it in but about 7 minutes after that he stopped...it definitely scared me so I told him and he hasn't done it again. But it really makes me wonder if he would rape me and if his mom wasn't home that day would he have stopped, don't let it get to that point is all I'm saying.

  • That is NOT okay. This situation is potentially very dangerous for you. You need to break up with him. If he doesn't leave you alone, or if you're having trouble breaking up with him because you're afraid that he'll hurt you, get help from a domestic violence/ sexual assault help line. Tell your parents if you can, or a friend or other family member or another trusted adult.

    Get help, get away from him, and if possible take steps to ensure that he won't treat another girl the way he treated you (I don't know if there's a way to do that).

  • Break up with him.

    This is a MAJOR red flag.Guys don't joke like that.I understand guys make sexual jokes and comments to their boyfriends,like "your back would be sore" blahblah to hype themselves up,but a guy who makes those type of comments is not safe nor healthy.He has control issues and WILL do as he said

    • I was the first girl to post anonymously...the boyfriend I was talking about in my post ended up raping me after we broke up...I hope you got away from him before it was to late.

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  • Leave him! Total red flag! You'll one day see him on the news, in handcuffs, for raping some innocent woman, and I hope that will not be you! Men kid around, like saying I'll be waddling for a couple of days, or that my back would be sore, but I've never had one tell me that he was going to rape me! Get out of there as fast as you can!

  • Get rid of this guy as fast as you can!

    Forcible rape (Rape I) is a class-A felony.

    Rape is not a crime of passion; it is a crime of violence.

  • breaking up with him is a possibility but if he's serious about hurting you it would provoke him I would suggest dumping him and getting a restraining order because if he's serious he can seriously hurt you

  • Sex shouldn't involve anger in any way dear. Passion, yes, animalistic pleasure at times, yes. Never anger. I really couldn't care less if he is even joking about this, which it doesn't appear as though he is, you need to leave him.

  • ummm number one he shouldnt rape you...thats weird...angry sex is good sex but when ur crying and telling him to get off...thats, well, rape...rape is when the other party does not want to and the influencer continues to proceed with what their plan is...just because he's your boyfriend doesn't give him the right to do it...

    maybe he's just really horny for you and wants you...i mean using the word rape is a little weird but maybe he's trying to say id blank the crap outta you...

    dont let him over power you, take your time, he's also gotat understand your a virgin, bleeping the crap outta you is going to be extremely painful he should take it slow with you until about the 3rd time or whenver you feel comfortable with him really going all out...

    • It's not weird, it's devastating... and illegal. I think you're really underestimating the situation .

    • I'm not under estimating anything...I trying to figure out why ur boyfriend would say he wanted to "rape" you I mean this isn't something you ear a boyfriend say...it's usually another party that isn't your bf....see what I'm saying? I was just trying to put myself in both shoes and think maybe he was messing around, but you shouldn't even have to deal with that- it's gross and highly illegal...so I'm NOT you der estimating sh*t this whole topic is just bizzare I've never heard such a thing

  • Get this guy out of your life right now!

  • How old is this guy?

    He's f***ing insane if he was serious about any of that. Even if he wasn't serious, he's such an idiot I'm surprised he hasn't died chasing his own shadow into traffic by now.

    Drop him now, and never see him again. This is either a dangerous, or incredibly stupid guy. Get out before something actually happens.

  • If you get it on text or on the phone, you can show the police. lol

  • Sounds like marriage material, for sure.

    Meet him at Bible camp?

    I'd tell this one to go rape his hand.

    Don't have anything else to do with him.

  • omgggggggg, get away from this creep. It's inevitably going to end really bad.

  • What the hell? That's just weird. Why would you even consider NOT leaving this guy? LEAVE.

  • Leave now hon! HE is not good for you!

  • better leave him...

  • RED FLAG, RED FLAG, RED FLAG, RED FLAG! BREAK-UP WITH HIM HUN. Do you have a DAD? Go ask him. I BET YOU WOULDN'T DARE, BECAUSE YOU KNOW HIS REACTION WOULD BE TO KILL YOUR PSYCHO BOYFRIEND. HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU, HE IS CRAZY! RRRUUUNNN FOR THE HILLS HUNNY!

    • "I BET YOU WOULDN'T DARE, BECAUSE YOU KNOW HIS REACTION WOULD BE TO KILL YOUR PSYCHO BOYFRIEND. " Um, not helpful. The poor girl is under enough strain as it is. Can we keep it calm, realistic, and positive rather than frightened chaos inducing please?

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