I'm a 25 year old virgin and I want to lose my virginity soon?

[Anonymous]

Back in high school I wanted to wait until marriage then during college I changed my mind but didn't meet anyone. I'm getting my masters' now, finally met someone I can see myself with but my virginity is kind of an issue. I've been wanting to lose my virginity for a while. I don't consider it "special" and I don't really care if it's with a hookup or a boyfriend. I haven't lost it yet is because I've been really passive about it and haven't cared enough to actively follow through... until now. I've been dating this guy for a couple months and one of the reasons he is hesitating to make things official is because I'm a virgin. A few years ago, he took his ex's virginity and said that it was way too much pressure and doesn't know if he wants to deal with that at his age (26). We're both traveling this summer so we're kind of taking a break now. I understand what he is saying but it only makes me think that a lot of guys I meet will be thinking the same thing. It's already really difficult to meet someone who would be fine with it and it's only going to be harder as I get older. So I want to lose my virginity but I just don't know how to go about it in a safe way, especially since currently, I don't have a super active social life because of work and school. any advice?

[Anonymous]

Tell your guy that your relationship is very important to you. Ask him if his concern would be overcome if you were not a virgin... would he go "official"? If he says "yes", ask him what he suggests. If you luck out and he says that aggressive use of a dildo or vibe would sufficiently prepare you, ask him to pick one out for you and you will use it. If he wants you to have had intercourse with someone, thats an issue ill think about for a reply.

[Opinion Owner]

But another possibility is that he does not feel entitled to your virginity because he does not see a committed relationship in the future with you and doesn't want to be remembered for 50 years as a "hit and run". I have passed on a first timer for that reason. But at 25 plus, virgin status is not a plus. We dont want high milage girls but prefer ones who have been around the block a time or two. So you might want to keep your status confidential and either determine your first time will not be physically traumatic or prepare yourself so it won't be. If you can comfortably pass two fingers side by side, you will probably be ok. If not, the selection of toys on the internet is wide and you can even work your way up. One more thing. Do not rely on nature to make you wet enough at the "doorway". Even if you are plenty wet inside, you may be dry at the doorway where you need it most. Get a discreet size of personal lubricant to use when you need it.

[summiter]

Just make it is the right guy at the right time in your life. The guy you are dating does not want to deal with it... is he crazy?

[Bigclit]

Honestly I think you should wait till marriage you waited this far... you're saying now that you don't care that it's a hook up or he ends up your boyfriend or not but that's hard to believe. A lot of girls get emotionally attached to the person they lose their virginity to... it happened to most of my friends. You are going to do what you want, but just wanted to let you know. Hope I helped in some way.

[lumos]

Eh, your virginity shouldn't be such a big deal. I think he's using it as a scapegoat. He probably doesn't feel right about this in general, but decided to use your virginity as his way out, seeing as he probably doesn't want to hurt you. I don't think I know anyone who would make someone's virginity a dealbreaker if it was concerning someone they REALLY liked.

[Levin]

especially a guy, if we're to stereotype. But you're right, virginity is largely meaningless.

[lumos]

@Levin yeah. The guy is freaking 26 years old and says that it's "too much pressure". He's clearly experienced so all he's gotta do is take it slow and be nice. It's not rocket science, and it's only a one time thing. After that, it gets gradually easier. So I definitely think there's something else that's making him not want to commit.

[ConsultantIsBack]

Lol another disney virgin bites the dust
Ya op just find a hot guy, date him and ride his fucking cock off lmao

[blondfrog]

Then stop waiting for the "magic moment" just do it.

[RebeccaSJ]

That's how old I was when I lost it.

[IceEverest]

Just do it. Prince Charming is a long long way

[thatnicksuitsme]

Go to a bar. Get drunk. Go up to a guy and seduce him. And you are ready to go 😂👍🏻

[Anonymous]

u dont u just break ur hymen with dildo or any toy?