Can two people be friends after they had sex?

[Love_Guru101]

OK it's like this...i had this crush on this guy since January and I never knew who he was. until he moved onto my block. So when he came up to me I was so happy, so with all my feelings locked inside, I became real nervous and couldn't talk to him. After I got myself 2gether, he invited me ova to his place for dinner and of course I accepted his invitation. After dinner we began to talk and get to know each other a little better, while the conversation was getting good me knowing about his family and him a little more and him knowing about me, I leaned over and kissed him because the timing felt right and after the kiss we ended up having sex that night. Now a week later my feeling for him has became a little more strong than before cause we hang out now. So my question is : is it possible him and I can start a relationship after we had sex already and still be good friends? because he is a good person and I don't wanna lose him

[Bruce]

Your question is a good one and I will try to give you an answer from the perspective of someone that has done just what you have asked...and my answer is ...Maybe...

A blind date ended up in bed on the first date...and for various reasons...she and I did not end up being 'lovers' ...after that one session. We are "business associates' since she is my Insurance Agent's admin. assistant, and I see her on an irregular basis...I still find her very attractive...and she has my favorite feature...GREAT LEGS...but we have remained just 'friends' for the last few years...

We have gone out after that, but the long story short, we don't #$%^ anymore...She helps me with insurance and I, of course, will help her in any way I can...

If two people are willing to accept that kind of friendship after having a brief sexual encounter, then yes you can.

I have a friendship over the internet with a girl that I lived with for two years...

Sooooooooooooooo...what say you ? Can you accept that ? Can he ?

I still want both of them as my friends.

Regards,

Bruce

[Love_Guru101]

Thx 4 sharing ur experience as well.....

[Deathecutioner]

I'm not even going to read that.

But I can answer your question.

No matter what, if both people want to stay friends it can happen. it might be awkward at first, but it can be done. just depends on how much effort you put into it, and if both people how the same interests.

[Love_Guru101]

U could have at least read it completely..but thx 4 ur comment..lol

[DIPEPDINGOLD]

You have to see how he feels first. Its possible you guys can be friends and maybe something more. But ...Usually after a guy has sex with a girl and he didn't know for a long time and she dosen't have a "label"...then usually the guy dosen't see her nothing more than sex and a one night stand or a potential fck buddy.You should be upfront with him and talk to him about how you feel about him and ask him how he feels about you. Don't beat around the bush.

[Love_Guru101]

Ok thx..i was afraid 1 I was going to receive this type of response, because it's xactly what I've been thinking I needed to do. but herre's my other question how do I go about approaching him with this topic??

[DIPEPDINGOLD]

I think it shouldn't be that difficult to bring it up...but you have to make sure its the right moment. At school or in a public place is a no-no...over the phone...no! Talk to him...face to face and just bring it up. Just tell him "You know about the other night...etc etc. And first ask him how he feels about it and your next response should be based on this. Good Luck Girl =)

[Reeses-pieces777]

sometimes people can stay good friends and sometimes the guy just ignores you after that. It sounds like a one night stand. All guys are different. If both parties are casual about it, then there is a good chance you two can be friends. if one of the parties actually was serious about something, most likely can't be friends still. If he still talks to you and keeps you around, mose likely he still wants to be friends.

[Love_Guru101]

I was thinkin that also.....im jus confused as to what's going on...

[katiesmuff]

I have had sex with guys and they remain my friends today. Not an unusual thing I don't think.

[l-hedoniste]

Of course you can be friends. It's not like you were mean to him.

[Love_Guru101]

Ur rite I wasn't mean to him and plus I'm still being nice to him so it shouldn't be a problem...

[babymomma]

yes it is possible lol I have many friend who have been in relationships a long time after they have done things like that.

[rando-shi]

i don't understand what is it you want relationship or friendship

you can never be friend with someone who you love,

it can not be possible be near someone you can never have

[ModFemme]

I think it depends on how mature he is. But yes, it's definately possible as long as the two of you are able to be honest and communicate with each other.

[Love_Guru101]

It's crazy ur sayin this thing about communication because it's the same thing he says I'm lacking in...he says I don't talk much and I'm only bein this way because of the sex situation. what should I do now??