My boyfriend wants to see me naked during oral sex, but I know he won't like it?

[Anonymous]

When my boyfriend and I have oral sex,I always keep my clothes on,but he's been bugging me to take my clothes off and to be naked.I have had sex before with my previous bf,but my current and I are working up to that.I personally know I am not good looking naked.My ex used to tell me all of the time that I had a lot of things to fix,which unfortunately can't be fixed without cosmetic or plastic surgery.And I'm very insecure about my breasts,always have been,even before I had sex and my ex told me to keep my bra on during sex because,well,they aren't attractive.These aren't my insecurities,they are facts.I have the unattractive body features that no guy likes,and I really don't want to have to go through everything I went through again with my current boyfriend.And I really can't afford the cosmetic and plastic surgeries I need,so please don't recommend it,I am trying to save up,but it's kinda hard What should I do?

[cherries23]

Probably, and this is just a guess, you are nowhere near as unattractive as you think. If there's something about yourself you can't stand then no one can really tell you not to try and change it, but it sounds to me like your ex was the one with the problem, he was obviously insecure with himself and had to put you down to make himself feel better/ distract you from what a waste of time he was himself.

Confidence is sexy, if I were you I'd just go for it, maybe work up to one less article of clothing at a time if you're uncomfortable. I find it hard to imagine anyone can look as bad as you seem to think you do. I wouldn't resort to anything as drastic and expensive as plastic surgery- since I don't know exactly what you think about yourself is ugly I can't make specific, better suggestions but there's ways to fix just about anything if you put in time and effort. A better use of your money might be some councilling, I think that loser ex boyfriend of yours hurt you in a way you don't see yet.

[ak2020]

If your current boyfriend wants to see you nekkid it probably means he already think you're hot. If you're worried or self conscious about it why don't you just work down to it. Like one less item each time. Or invest in some really sweet lingerie and so you kinda have an excuse to keep it on while you two are fooling around. Lots of women keep their bras on during sex (or whatever they're doing :P) you could just tell him you prefer to keep it on. I doubt he'll complain if he has the rest of you :)

I wouldn't recommend plastic surgery. Almost all guys prefer natural. And you can't take one guys opinion to heart. Think of this forum! There are so many diff opinions and preferences. You will find the right guy for you who will love all of you.

<3

[katiesmuff]

When a person likes someone many times things you think are a big turn off don't mean anything to them. If your relationship with this guy is going to continue at some point in the near future you will be naked in front of him.

This ex boyfriend was a real asshole! To say things like he did makes him jerk #1 and I can't imagine why you would have stayed with someone like that one second after comments like he made. Put some faith and trust in this new guy. I also think we all think things about our bodies are worse than they really are.

[DanielSan]

I think you ex was a f***ing douchebag...I am sure you are beautiful.

Also if this is gonna last with the new guy he will see you sooner or later...if you really feel that bad about your self its unfair to ly to him...just show him let him decide.

[Asker]

It isn't lying.I know what he'll say and think...

[DanielSan]

Actually you don't ...in fact how about you msg me we should talk ok you need some confidence help

[Travesty]

Your ex sounds like a complete douche.

[Asker]

He wasn't.He was really sweet and nice.He was just being honest and telling me what he thought

[DanielSan]

Any guy that asks you to cover the ody you were given during sex is a douche. you can't help your features and if he doesn't love you for who you are then he shouldnt be with you...and he isnt...obviously he is a douche

[Killfest400]

"He was really sweet and nice" If he was that sweet and nice, he probably wouldn't be your ex, now would he? He's a d***, plain and simple.

[Asker]

That's not why we broke up though

[Travesty]

Any guy who is literally pointing out "all the things you have to fix" with plastic surgery is a complete a-hole. You may not see that, but he is.

[DanielSan]

I think you ex was a f***ing douchebag...I am sure you are beautiful.

[tigerguy]

i bet you have a beautiful body why don't you post a pic because I bet all the guys will say you have a sexy body, you don't have to post your face incase your embarrist but show us with your body

[Texas-Flirt]

OMG I had that same problem about the lights.



I just thought I was fat.

but any way I think you should say f*** it and show it all.

BUTT ASS NAKED.

just do it like a porn star!

do see them in there being all scary and covering up boobs and couch?!?!?! NO.

And trust me some of those girls are like uuuggggg!.

so f*** it! You only have one life to live

SO DO IT LIKE A PORN STAR!

[WavyCherry]

You rock

[kinky1]

well if you've been in this relationship for a while and really care about each other then it shouldn't matter to him. my wife has small boobs and a little heavy around hips and mid section. she hates it and doesn't want me to see her naked. she thinks she's ugly naked and I think she's beautiful. don't go by what your ex told you. he sounds like a reel d***!

[ad02467]

if he's willing to go down on you in the first place he prob won't care what you look like naked...clothes can only hide so much, he probably already has an idea of what you look like naked anyway

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why girls who ARE unattractive get into relationships.If you know you're going to just disappoint a guy,then stay single or date around.Change what is possible to change by all and any means.

What you can change by plastic surgery,change.Save up.I understand it can and will be hard,especially in today's economy,but if it's worth it,you'll save up

Change what you can naturally.I mean,if you need to lose weight,exercise and eat healthy

If you have any skin problems,see a dermatologist.For acne,I'd recommend bc,only because it's beneficial overall,plus you said you and your boyfriend are working up to actual sex.If you have stretch marks,cocoa butter and bio oil(Especially Bio Oil) work wonders.

[karly69]

Ur a doche wtf ur probably ugly yourself thts y you made it anonymous