Is sneaking out after a one night stand bad?

[Anonymous]

Last night I had the craziest one night stand ever. This morning I woke up naked in his bed. I'm always afraid it's going to be awkward in the morning. He got up to go to the bathroom, I was still kinda asleep then he came back in the bed and fell back asleep. The sun seemed to be shining pretty brightly so I figured I should probably get going. I had to climb over him to get out of bed and he didn't stir. Kind of took my time putting my clothes on and still no movement from him so instead of waking him and saying bye I figured I'd just peace. Didn't get his phone number or anything last night. So, do you think it's rude to just leave? Also, guys, have you ever pretended to be asleep when you are really awake just wishing that the girl will leave? Cause sometimes I wonder if guys do that...

[sonic241928]

Well, (speaking hypothetically, if a girl were to do this to me) I'd think it's rude, even a little hurtful. Maybe I'd get over it though, and my reasoning/ internal thought process would be "well, it was a ONS, the girl probably wanted only to have a little fun, but why should I think she really likes me or want something more? People do this kind of thing all the time and just move on and forget about each other the next day. I just wish she'd at least said bye first..."

Maybe other guys wouldn't have such thoughts; I'm not the typical guy who has/believes in one night stands. But the question is--you said you had a fear of awkwardness in the morning--why do things have to be awkward? Is your "fear" of awkwardness stemming from assumptions you're making about guys in your own mind? (Or maybe it's from experience and you have good reason to think this way.) If you're going to part, why not at least do it on friendly and open terms? It could even turn into friends with benefits or even a relationship (not necessarily, but if both parties so desire). Or if you don't like the guy enough (or feel safe enough around him) to even say "bye", why sleep with him in the first place?

I don't mean to sound insensitive or like an interrogator; just throwing those things out there. Just keep in mind, you should always balance out your own assumptions with the reality of what's in front of you (e.g., consider the guy's personality)--but then, you should always go with your gut. Best of luck.

P.S.: No, I wouldn't pretend to be asleep. I don't believe in pretense. I'd gently wake her up and tell her I have things to do (I don't consider that pretense--there's personal stuff to do every day, and if she were to ask how I felt about her I'd be discreet and honest), but I'd try my best to be friendly and not rude about it.

[l-hedoniste]

"do you think it's rude to just leave?"

It's not very nice, but it's normal.

And yes, guys will pretend to sleep if they want you to leave.

[ThatGuy44]

thats fukced up. *tear* :'( lol. No I would never do that.

[DanielSan]

what would you do if it was your place...and he did that to you...if you wouldn't care then well you wernt wrong lol

[sweet18]

Nah it's not rude. It's a one-night stand.

[kaylamarie]

Well, it is called one night stand for a reason, I would have done the same thing. It isn't rude, you'll probably never see him again.

[Anonymous]

no it was not rude