Virgin for a too long time (32 y. o.).. Girls, what do you think about it?

[parrot_fish]

Well, I'm 32 years old now and unfortunately I reached a sad record: I still being virgin. I think there are three main reasons to still being virgin, one is that I have problems with my self steem, I always had an idea that I'm too slim, and I think it's ungly; the other reason is that I have a kind a nightmare about becoming a father (I want no babies); and finally the third reason is that I don't feel desire of having sex with girl I don't fall in love with.

Anyway, I remember that I slept girls just two times in my life, as I didn't feel any desire to have sex with them, both times we woke up as 'best friends'.

I really don't see any motivation in having sex with a girl that does not turns me on, it's not necessary to be the most beautiful girl in the world, I just don't understand how it happens.

After all these years I'm find my self terrified with my situation, I'm scared of dying virgin. I feel a strong necessity of sex, my dreams are becoming nightmares, I masturbate three times a day, or stay one week without it to get the strongest and the most violent ejaculation I can get.
I dream with sex, with fetish (spanking and others), and wake up burning inside, crazy to do it, but with no girl I know.
I also tried to date with girls I didn't love in order to redeem myself and see if it could make me feel desire to have sex with them. It wasn't good.

I also feel the need to have someone to share my life, my best and my worst. Maybe I'm too idiot thinking that it's possible to combine love and sex on a bed. Am I?

When I was younger it was common to see friends doing everything to have their first sexual experience the earlier a person could, a kind of honor! I was always against that, I always though that sex does not make sense without love. Now I suspect that it's not exactly about love, about honor, but about being alive, it's biological!
I think I'm developing a disorder.

Girls, what do you think about virgin boys?

I AM AFRAID OF DYING VIRGIN!!!

[btbc92]

What is so sad about being a virgin? Get over yourself! I'm not trying to be mean but geez, you think you'll be any better once your not? Nope. You'll still be sad and whiny and be the same person, because you don't change. Your attitude is very off putting. I'm a virgin myself. But I would not date you and this is how you think and belief.

You don't even know what you want so you just go with the flow. You have no goals, no ambition, but you want 'this' and you say you want 'that'. But I will say that your very depressed and miserable. And I suggest that you go seek counseling. And if that is what your looking to be into, yeah, you better hope there is somebody who wants what you want. Because your so worried about sex, you don't even realize that love is one of the most important things in this world right now. Not sex. Yes, human's were designed to procreate, but were also designed to form bonds as well. The way how I see it with you, you can still have sex and get everything you want sexually, but you'll still be miserable. As a virgin, you don't even realize what sex even is. Or what its really about. And it isn't for any of what your talking about other than procreation. You have a lot to learn for a 32 y. o.

[parrot_fish]

That’s why I revealed my age. Have you ever heard that when we reach certain age we start to ask about everything we considered as right before? It’s happening to me. It’s true, sex won’t change myself inside, if this is what you wanna mean. What should I say so? It’s like that question: “Money does not give happines, but helps in some way...”. The fact is that since very young (6 y. o.) I formed a kind of romantic view about sex and never felt pleasure kissing or sleeping with a girl (my best friends) I didn’t fall in love with. Yes, I have lot to learn and I could say the same about you, but I don’t know you, we don’t know each other enought to confirm that. Dear, as virgin the only truth I see is that I’m suffering because I don’t feel pleasure in having sex with a girl I don’t love at the same time my body is destroying itself and my personality because it feels a killer need to have sex all day. Now I have a question: What is sex for you? Consider you are a virgin. Cheers ; )

[btbc92]

I have always believed that marriage and sex was sacred between the couple. However what Im sayinh for you that you that sex is far more than just physical and it depends on how you use it. You either use it well or abuse it. If you use it the wrong way your going get hurt by the person you do so with if they are not right for you. I don't know what beliefs you have. But it will not help you if you dont know the real reasons why you need to have it. Now if its because you want to share and express yourself for that person then fine. But if your doing it just for the heck of it, is where I say that your not going to be happy with that. Especially if your a sensitive person. Plus Im celibate.

[VesatileMarie]

Yooooo lol ok I dont care how young I am, I've been told by practically everyone, about how much I understand and how smart I am. With that being said? NOOOO, you are not weird, disorderly or anything of that nature. A male virgin you say? Man you're a catch! Just keep a look out for that perfect girl, try to expand your shell more, find a friend to help you do it. Now while I think its safe to safe noone wants to die a virgin, if one should? it would be a pious thing!

[kaylaS91]

What do I think of a guy who's a virgin?
Nothing.

What do I think of a guy who defines himself by the fact that he's 'still a virgin'? Well... I wouldn't want to be with someone who views himself so poorly.

[parrot_fish]

Thank you, your reply is welcome.

[Elarra]

You're not weird. There are plenty of male virgins who are your age and older, but most guys who are won't admit it.

[parrot_fish]

Thank you, I'm thinking about what you said.