Do men find fat women sexually attractive ?

[Anonymous]

I'm tired of hearing how you should embrace who you are . I want the real men on this site to answer my question . Do you find fat women sexually attractive ? if a fat women was attracted to you would you date her and have a serious relationship ? Please don't give me the same answer each guy is different. I live in Los Angeles and don't see any hot guys with fat women. Thanks in advance for all that reply :)

[hisangel]

Why do you want a hot guy?

You said you don't see any "hot guys" with fat women? Why didn't you say "I don't see any guys with fat women." Cause there are guys who like fat women. Just like there are women who like fat guys. But if you want a guy who is a perfect specimen, with the body of Brad Pitt in Troy and the face of a Greek god, then no you aren't going to get a "hot guy". Because if a guy is taking that kind of care with his appearance, appearances are important to him. He wants to look a certain way to people. And he wants his woman to look a certain way with people.

This may sound so, so harsh but every overweight girl or unattractive girl that I know that is alone are the ones who think that they deserve a really good looking guy. I know a black girl who doesn't want to date black guys but thinks it's racist that white guys won't date her. She is alone. I know a pretty unattractive girl who things the guys who want to date her freaks. She is alone. I know a fat girl who is obsessed with really muscular guys and doesn't want a skinny guy. She is alone.

Sometimes people want a hot guy or girl to make them look good but then get mad that someone won't date them cause they aren't hot enough.

You have to decide whether you need his physical abundance to make up for your shortcomings or whether you want to be alone rather than date an average guy that may make you feel kind of average too. Cause if you don't care, I guarantee you you will find a guy.

[hisangel]

In response to having ever gone to LA, where do you think I live baby? ;) I wouldn't tell people not to worry about looks unless I grew up in the vanitest town in America. It might be the guys who are going after. I have fat friends who have boyfriends. They are not the hottest guys in the room but they aren't trolls either. They are average guys.

[ArizonaRX]

Her problem is she is over weight and she wants to blame men for not liking her. She wants to pass off the blame on someone else and not herself. She'd rather say, "I'm overweight, WHY DON'T YOU GUYS LIKE ME!" Listen, I was over weight once too. I did something about it instead of complaining about it. It was the best change I made in my life. If you feel uncomfortable about your weight make the change. Don't expect guys to change for your liking.

[hisangel]

Well my hope is she keeps her options open. Even in my own life, the guy I'm with now I would not have dated when I was younger. He is good looking but not in the way I normally like it. I thought he was kind of young and cute and I used to be into really masculine looking men. Sometimes I thought "Oh he looks like a baby!!" But he is the best man I have ever known. I do know guys, in LA, who I know wouldn't care about weight. But some of them are unattractive but sweet guys and some are

[hisangel]

Good looking but awkward. And they get rejected left and right by women. I just hope you can find a good guy even if he isn't the hottest guy in the room. Cause if you struggle with weight, he needs to be understanding, not just good looking. Cause that is something you will probably always struggle with and a partner that thinks you are beautiful no matter what is so much more priceless then a hot face.

[Salata]

Im not a man but maybe I can help put it in better perspective for you instead of using the cliche mark "embrace yourself". Every person is different, some are blonde, brunette, red head, white, black, yellow, over weight and skinny. It all depends on what the person is looking for. Every man has their idealistic girl whatever it may be. As far as "hot" goes its all based on opinion, everyone has flaws and imperfections, even the drop dead sexy ones. I could go deeper into this but lol I might as well start a book. So, basically, its all about what they love you for not what you look like. Hope I helped.

[ArizonaRX]

She's trying to prove to herself that guys are shallow and all jerks because she's over weight and they aren't attracted to her. Yet, she's not willing to make some changes to offer guys what she she thinks they want. So she's the only one that can help herself her. She doesn't want to hear kind words or the ultimate truth of the matter.

[ArizonaRX]

You answered your own question.

"I live in Los Angeles and don't see any hot guys with fat women. "

You obviously have a predetermined type of guy you are looking for, in which you don't see them with "fat" women. Let me ask you a question. Are you only attracted to "hot" guys that are only with "non-fat" women? If YES, then perhaps you need to focus on yourself and take diet and fitness very seriously. Start exercising and losing those extra pounds. I may sound like I'm coming off as a jerk here, but I'm being honest and sometimes people need a kick in the ass to get themselves started.

It's a fairly know fact that most people prefer a partner that is in good shape and not over-weight. People here or anywhere can go ahead and say, "Oh come on I don't care... it's her personality" but they really truly know, they would prefer good shape and not over weight. It's obvious the guys you find attractive are choosing their preference.

So, if you are realizing this, it's time to do something about yourself instead of putting it in the guy's ballpark. If you think you know what guys want, it's time to do something about it. Focus on yourself and what you want. If you want to be over-weight, be over-weight. But, don't complain about guys not wanting an over-weight woman.

[sa230e]

No being fat is not attractive. But what women and men think qualifies as "fat" are two different things. The problem I have is that women think they need to be skinny to the point of being unhealthy to be sexy and it's flat out not true. Some fat is okay. It's when the fat starts to obscure your figure, your natural curvature, your body shape that it becomes unattractive. I've seen lots of girls on this site who are very pretty ask if they were fat and that is why you see me (and other guys) telling them to embrace themselves: because they are actually beautiful and have a poor body image.

If a girl is truly fat (based on the opinions of men) then yes she'll need to lose some weight and at that point she probably should do it for health reasons alone. We're not bullsh*tting you when we tell you to embrace your body. Why would we do that? It's sort of like when girls tell you they want a "nice guy". Well yes it's not a lie but it's not the complete truth either. You have to be careful about how you parse these things. In general if a girl is healthy and youthful looking she should be at least alright in the looks department.

[ArizonaRX]

Amen on the "nice guy" point.

[SeanSilk]

I couldn't have said it better myself.

[Longshot]

No I would not like it because it probably indicates an unhealthy lifestyle. I don't mind if the woman is somewhat overweight, but again fat may mean that it's someone that does not take care of their body.

I don't like real skinny either for the same reasons.

[death_metal_dave]

The most attractive women are those above average, but not so fat that they would have to tuck their belly in their pants or have a belly covering the crotch area. But that red head from less than perfect, and drop dead diva are beautiful (perfect figures) but rosie o donnel is closely after the borderline of too much. and I get really teased when a chick with thicker upper legs is wearing a short skirt, (I didn't say fat, I said thick.) on the other hand, paris hilton is ugly, her legs go all the way up to her back, I'm not into stick women

its actually the figure that determines rather I think a chick is hot or not. but I go by a lot of other factors first.

[Grotty]

Don't be so narrow minded different people like different things and while I find most women attractive I far prefer the Buxom BBW ones.

[Anonymous]

I like big girls, move to love :)

[Anonymous]

No men don't find fat women attractive, they find them easy.