What does anal sex feel like?

[Anonymous]

OK yeah I'm inexperienced compared to most chicks my age and this may sound like a dumb question but what does anal sex feel like. I ask because me and this guy were hooking up and he would put me on my stomach and he would get on top and we would grind. I asked him if his d*** was on the bed or in my butt. He said the bed and if it hurt. I said yeah and he was like I don't know you're the one who feels it (then we both laugh). Anyways at times if felt like his d*** was rubbing against my butt hole. It hurt but like pleasurable pain and I enjoyed it. Then there would be times when I felt like he was pushing it in further and I felt like I had to sh*t but I would tell him to stop before it went in further. So my question is what does anal feel like and did he put in my butt or was it just rubbed against it. Plus, I was sore in my butt area afterward. So what was it that I was feeling. I would appreciated real answers please...

[siewchin]

i believe your guy didn't put it in your butt. what he was probably moving into the opening between your legs (which is no longer open by then :P). That's why you felt sore afterwards. as for the real anal, you'll feel like you gonna sh*t, just that it's something going in rather than out. a word of advice though, get lubricated first. lots and lots of lube if it's your first time. wouldn't want you to get turned off by anal in the future, LOL! the pain is just during the initial stage, after you both have got used to it, it is AMAZING! trust me honey, you'll learn to enjoy it as much as your man.

[siewchin]

P/s : you might wanna try using a dildo together. kinda like dp. real pleasure, LOL!

[Asker]

LOL! -it felt really good but imma have to actually try if from the front before I let him hit it from the back lol...

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

If you ever want to do it I have posted the same answer as to how you try it, multiple times. https://www.girlsaskguys.com/Sexuality-Questions/106958-advice-on-anal-sex.html That link should give you a chance at doing it.

[siewchin]

Aww... thanks for giving me the best answer

[Asker]

To answerer-no problem! to Toban Frost-k. thanks I'll check that out whenn I'm ready...

[chrsschb]

Good info. My wife and I have done it a few times but she has a hard time relaxing enough for it to be pleasurable. The last time we did it was a few months ago and I think that was the best one for her but she was still in pain. I worked her whole body though so even though that may have hurt a little, her overall experience was pleasurable.

[JonJames]

"you'll feel like you gonna sh*t," Just curious. Did you do anything special to get past this? Any special techniques or exercises? Or did you just keep doing it until you got used to it, and it is no longer an issue? Or is it something you use -- it's just part of it -- and it helps you orgasm at this point?

[JonJames]

Ok. But is sure sounds like you would like to try both true?

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he was rubbing your ass some and then every so often push the tip in and out.. that would explain why you felt like you had to go to the bathroom. I am guessing he did not push it in all of the way or you probably would of known, but if he has a skinny d***, maybe not so much.. that could be another reason why it didn't bother you so much while he was doing it, but did the next day.. my butt was always sore the day after my boyfriend and I did it.. Also, I had diarrhea after for a few days.. lol not that you want to know that, but it could also indicate he did push it in all the way

[Asker]

Yeah he didn't put the whole thing in my butt and he is definitely not a skinny nor small dude lol but he didn't know that he was rubbing it against my butt he thought it eason the bed so I guess he was too horny to notice. The funny thing is that he says he has never done anal.

[JonJames]

I would say the head slipped in for a bit. Overall, you are moving pretty fast. It is rare you go from anal virgin to full on dick in ass -- and it goes smooth. I mean, it does happen. But there is often a pretty steep learning curve. Buy The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women by Tristan Taormino. That will give you the basics, but then you need to adapt everything you learn to your own unique situation. That feeling of "having to shit" really freaks some girls out -- and I can see that. But it is a natural occurrence. The lineup goes -- anus, rectum, colon. The anus is the most sensitive -- and hardest to stretch. So that is why you go slow with that. Once you get that down, the rest is easy. Now the rectum is the place that holds the shit from colon. If ANYTHING is in there -- you body is probably going to send you a signal -- time to shit, push it out. So a dick in there is actually a false alarm. The rectum is about 6-8 inches long, and is usually quite pink and nice. The shit is usually further up -- in the colon. That is why you can have anal sex and never see any poop -- even though it feels like you have to go. So I would slow it down. Get some SMALL butt plugs. Work on some fingers and toys during vag and oral sex. Learn that you can push -- not clench -- when you get the urge to shit and nothing bad happens. This opens your hole like this O -- instead of clenching like this *. This makes the anal go a lot smoother, and when you get good, it can help you with the waves of anal orgasm. Think of it as anal kegels.

[JonJames]

"I had diarrhea after for a few days" Did this ever go away, yes? Or no, it happens with you every time for anal? Do you think it is true diarrhea -- or just the sperm, lube and ass juices busting out? Sometimes it is the lube itself that can cause this. For example, one girl loved Liquid KY for anal -- I could use the whole bottle if I wanted. Another girl had what you had -- it irritated her rectal and colonic linings. When we switched lube to a more gentle and natural cocoa butter, everything was jake.

[aphrodiva__sexi8]

it hurts and I has an uncomfortable affect on my aszzzzz. but my boyfriend loves it as muchg as vaginal =(

[toulouse]

So you do it anyways? even tho it hurts, just because he likes it?

[aphrodiva__sexi8]

Yea

[JonJames]

What is the uncomfortable effect?

[JonJames]

Yes. But do you ever orgasm with it -- even though it hurts?

[stalinhornsby]

Using a dong in your butt is the only way. Then you learn how to poop properly. My girlfriend and I have had anal sex every time if she can have a good cleaning on the toilet first. It feels great and she loves it ! Huge turn on when it all goes well.

[joraz]

My opinion is this. It can be very pleasurable, but you have to be ready. I think you should explore this area yourself first. Try your finger, maybe get a small vibrator and try it out alone first. You need to take it slow.

[Blackkid]

He was pressing into that TIGHT YOUNG BARELY LEGAL VIRGIN ASSHOLE of yours. The feeling of defecation is a tell-tale sign Mr. Man wasn't humping the bed.

[Asker]

"TIGHT YOUNG BARELY LEGAL VIRGIN ASSHOLE" of mines LOL-im 21 by the way...but I really like it I suppose he just got overly excited...

[JonJames]

For many women -- experienced or not -- lying flat on tummy is the best position for anal. But fair warning -- he will get deep. Maybe try spoons to start out?

[Ricktack]

feels great. a little bit weird when he cums, but the actually thrusting will feel good once you get used to it. took me 2 or 3 times and then I was used to it. and one word homey, lube.

[AkilJoseph]

I have never had anal sex but I know there's I technique where you can hit her but when you are in her vagina.Its the same position you are talking about.

[Asker]

Interesting...lol...

[JonJames]

One technique I used with an anal virgin was to really lick her butt hole good so it is soaking wet. I also rub her clit at the same time to get her close. When she is close, I stop, and just rub the head of my penis on her anus. On it... not in it. The faster I rubbed, the more she responded. Near the end, when she finished, maybe just the tip went in -- less that half the head. She came everywhere. We did this a few times, so when it came to anal, SHE was pushing back for it to go deeper.

[IRCOOL]

A Low percentage of girls Who didn't have pain at the first anal, So yeah the first time I did it with my Girlfriend she said it hurted, and to be honest I didn't feel anything on my ballz, Second time we tried without lube and it was just amazing, she felt good and it felt so great tho, we kept doing it over and over hehe, it's a normal thing, The biggest turn on on girls are Butts, as for us guys, most of girls say our chest is the biggest turn on lol, and I guess it's true haha.

[fred_baby]

WORST PAIN EVER... maybe after putting it in slowly and with extra lube, and after going in and out, it would feel ok... But initially, it is a very uncomfortably feeling. And personally, I don't like it. I just like that it turns the guy on.

[JonJames]

Fair enough. But have you ever had a tongue in your ass?

[Anonymous]

i think what you were experiencing WAS anal sex the first couple times you have anal sex it does hurt a little.

[JonJames]

No doubt -- the head went in the circle if only for a bit (o). What did you do to make it easier? Any special technique -- or just kept trying until you got more comfortable with it?