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Very sore after first time fingering, possible infection?

After working with my boyfriend for months on becoming relaxed and ready to do this, me and my boyfriend decided to engage in fingering. Mind you, i have not fingered myself, and i do not use tampons, except for super things (thinner than a pencil).

He has been with other girls, so im confident he knew what he was doing (though, he thought i had came before he even started because of how wet i was lol)

He did start slow, going from getting my natural lubricant, to clitoral stimulation, to 1 penetration, then back to clitoral stimulation.

He did, at one point, reach back and ask if he could finger my ass or if i was okay with his hand being there (he did make contact, but did not enter) i said no and he continued back with his fingering.

At one point, i straddled him and sat on his lower thigh (near his knee) and he fingered me that way, because i could arch into the clitoral stimulation without shifting to much, and he could go deeper.

He explained to me that during sex, it would be more penetration rather than clitoral stimulation, so i asked that he continue with penetration so i could see if i could get it to feel good. He went fast, slow, made a come here motion, twisted around, nothing was good, just neutral. I asked if he could go with two fingers, big mistake.

Upon getting 2 fingers fully in, i felt something pop/tear and i grunted in pain and leaned on his shoulder (to which, he paused, and asked if i wanted to continue, which we did and i asked him to go faster etc)

I didn't want to stand up afterward, it hurt. This morning, it hurts to pee or wipe after using the restroom, and white liquid keeps oozing (I dont think im turned on) and it hurts like hell to have any pressure there, upon looking i noticed its bright red down there, around my vagina.

Why is this happening, and what do i do?
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Before anyone asks, yes i was relaxed. My boyfriend would continually stop, ask if i was relaxed, comfortable, and okay, then he would gently rub my legs (he does gentle squeezes on my thigh, which relaxes me) and continue. He was very concerned with making sure i was okay, took everything slow, and was all around great, nothing rough (unless i asked for it, which going a little faster with pants on doesn't seem rough) and nothing to quick, i was well moistened and turned on.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • He could have hit something when fingering you, like your pubic bone. Which why you might have hurt at the time.
    Otherwise the burning when peeing is kind of normal if you haven't done it in a while.
    The oozing happens too sometimes. Just make sure it doesn't change color or smell, otherwise it's an infection!

    Also do you have hormonal imbalances? When I started testosterone, my inner vaginal walls were more dry. I could bleed sometimes from fingering, and get the burn from peeing right after more often. The burn would last maximum a day though.

    • I don't know if he did hit that or not, i just know its sore. Its not so much of a burning, its like a dull pain. I've never done this before at all. It doesn't really seem different, just a lot whiter than usual. Usually any discharge is a clear ish white, this is like pure milk white and very very thick. Im not sure if i do, I've never been tested for anything.

  • Scratch or sore multiple things. lol Hurts to pee is where I would get concern maybe your pee hole is irritated. Just heal it out and do something less aggressive like oral

Most Helpful Girl

  • use more lubrication. and try to go slower to stretch the muscle

    • Will do. He actually was going pretty slow until i requested him to change :P. Now that he's gone up to two fingers (though it was my first time), would it be safe to stay at that, or do i need to go back down to 1 for a while?

    • start over with 1, go slowly, use extra lubricant

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  • It sounds like an infection - better to see your doctor and make sure there isn't a problem.

    • Im kind of unable to do that, is there anyway i could heal the infection at home? I already took some vitamin c.

    • no. It MAY heal on it's own, but I wouldn't recommend that.

  • If it persists you should go see your doctor.. Don’t be embarrassed about telling her/him how it happened they’ll have heard it all before.

  • Sounds like you got scratched

    • I dont see how, he had short nails, well groomed.

    • You say you felt something tear.

    • Yes, upon using two fingers. He things he may have popped my cherry.

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