Do men get turned off by a big labia?

Question

So i search the internet on a regular basis about this and never find a clear answer. What do men prefer? I read a lot that a man will just be happy to gain "entry" to the vagina no matter what it looks like. I find it very hard to believe this and sometimes just wonder if its the weird guys who like this? I have heard lots of people make jokes about large inner labias and considering I have one i makes me very insecure. I have been split up with my long term boyfriend for 13 months now and have found it very difficult to move on because of how i look. I never let him go down on me and touch me too much when we were together. Oral was just something that would frighten me that he might reject me.. even though he had seen me millions of times dur in sex. He once asked me "why is your labia bigger than girls on porn or his previous ex".. I then had to explain to him everyone is different an a lot of porn stars had cosmetic surgery. This was really humilating for me and I could never let him "play" with me again. I have pushed everyone away all because of this and i often feel stupid and tell myself whats the worst thats going to happen? I have met an amazing guy and he treats me so well! I haven't let anything happen because of how insecure i am down there and he will start to question why soon even though he told me he is willing to wait however long. He is a man and soon he will go else where for pleasure if he thinks im not going to give it to him, I completely understand this. I dont want to make a big deal out of it and tell him how I feel because this might make him pay extra attention to my large inner labia? Do I tell him how insecure I feel or is this weird to a man?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Almost all guys will be thrilled no matter how you look, believe me. This question comes up at least once a day and it's always the same answer from guys who aren't trolling/being obnoxious: You're fine!

You can tell him you're insecure, but it won't make much difference to him. Any guy who has spent time around women and keenly observed them will not be surprised by a body image insecurity.

If he already treats you well, there is no reason to think he'll suddenly be an ass, is there?

In my personal experience, I've never seen any labia that turned me off and I can't imagine any ever would. :-)

Intraluminal · Accepted Answer

The reason you can't get a clear answer is because there isn't one. Some guys like innies, some like outies, and some don't care. Men who have less experience or who have only been exposed to porn may find outies surprising or even off-putting. Other gyys, including many on this site, find them a turn on.

About the only way to find out that I can think of, other than asking him outright, is to find some porn with girls with outies in it, and watch it with him and pay attention to his reaction.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I feel you
I used to be really insecure about it but now I barely think about it because I've been with both men and women and none of them ever said anything and a few even loved to give me oral
we will probably meet a guy that won't like it at some point, and another one that won't like our hair or the shape of our ears (lol at that) but that's just life 👐

kittengrrl · Accepted Answer

Thats what I wanted to know before but it seems like different guys like it and some dont I dont have big ones so hopefully for me more dont lol sorry

Honeyskinned_goddess · Accepted Answer

Just see what he does... if he doesn’t care then you can move on. Only boys ask dumb shit like that , men move on

Lovelinefan · Answer

MMMmmmmmm! I dream of big juicy labia! You're lucky... and any guy who gets to be with you is lucky! If they don't like them, move on!
Don't be shy about them, be proud of them! Sounds like your ex was immature, clueless, and classless. Find a real man who will love you for the way you are!

super147 · Answer

No, most men really do not get turned off by large labia at all, trust me. If a guy asks why your labia are bigger than some pornstar's then he is really showing his lack of experience with girls. Girls have all kinds of different labia and I've never yet come across a vagina that I found ugly and I've seen a fair few.

You should really stop worrying. In fact a lot of guys LOVE more prominent labia because they can be teased and they look sexy when they're wrapped around the penis during penetration. I am very sure that your vagina is in the normal range, because 99.999% of womens' vaginas are.

Red_Arrow · Answer

If I like her, then I will like her labia. In other words, it does not matter... large or small they will be great to me. In general, I find the sight of large ones more appealing and love to touch them and suck on them. Smaller ones are harder to do that with. But I would still love them. From my point of view you are worrying over something that is actually a positive for you!

Jack107 · Answer

Personally, I prefer smaller labia. But really, it doesn't matter- by which I mean, it matters far less than I imagine the size of a man's penis does (and for the record I do not think that is the most important thing).

It's honestly nothing worth worrying about. And I guess some guys do prefer bigger ones- I've never talked about it with anyone.

akanetuk · Answer

I wouldn't

theharlequin · Answer

Can a flower have too large of petals?

D1991F · Answer

Depends on the guy not all women like the extra skin of foreskin , I perfer bigger but don't mind small it's just more to put in mouth while eating you

Kachatterjee · Answer

Varies from person to person. He must understand your points.

bubbakong2006 · Answer

No I love them

JulianoM · Answer

not at all... i love big labia!

FakeName123 · Answer

Large labia are normal. You only see short labia in porn since its visually easier to film, but that's not the standard. Most guys will not care.

That being said:
1. There is such a thing as an ugly vagina.
2. You should tell your guy about your insecurity.