Can guys overlook imperfect breasts?

[Anonymous]

So I'm young but my breasts are kind of saggy. they are big anyway so they would look fine if it weren't for my nipples. they point downward. I'm like ugh. so this keeps me from being comfortable hooking up with guys. I feel like they will be grossed out or something. I would get a breast lift if I felt like I should get one but I'm kind of against it. I think we shouldn't feel like we have to change parts of our bodies just because the world loves judging how us girls "should" look. still I can't help but feel insecure. I've heard guys say the meanest things. like one time my friend read this question online about why guys are so rough with girls boobs during making out, sex, etc. and he just laughed and said that quality matters over quantity, and that he would be gentle with "quality" boobs but if they are "busted" then why care? he said he would "rough her up" too. :(

[sa230e]

What can I say, some guys are just assholes. Simple as that. They expect women to be perfect and but can't be bothered to improve themselves. Don't make the mistake of thinking of guys as a monolithic group. There are lots of guys who will love you and your boobs for what they are.

Also realize that when guys talk about that kind of things amongst friends they aren't always being 100% series either. Guys tend to enjoy "shock humor" much more than women do and like to joke about the crudest things with friends just for a laugh. It's hard to explain why.

Note that I said among his friends. It's funny in a hypothetical sense but if a guy truly is like that and he says it to your face well you don't want anything to do with a prick like that. I know where the line is and I would never talk like that in the presence of a lady.

When it comes to their girlfriends I will bet though that they all have some sort of imperfection they hate as well. Guys often accuse women of lying about what they like but I find men to be at least as guilty. Just because he talks like that may not means he wouldn't go for you. It doesn't mean he's a fine upstanding gentleman either though. I think men tend exaggerate in public but in their love lives they're capable of falling for women that don't jive with the descriptions they give.

You are so much more than a pair of boobs. Guys aren't solely concerned with them. You aren't your unique self just because of your boobs - you are the sum of millions of minute details. Realize that you probably have many, many factors that men find attractive and boobs are only 1. If a hot girl has boobs a guy doesn't like she's still a hot girl. It's very possible - maybe even common for the whole to be greater than the sum so to speak.

As impervious as it may seem guys can also probably relate because we also are self-conscious about our bodies though we don't show it (well, there is the never ending stream of penis size questions). I have lots of things about my body I don't like so if you showed me your boobs I'm not going point and go "Ewww". Who knows, I might even like them. After we are harsher in criticizing ourselves than anyone else. Also I'm not into rough sex. I'm more of a sensual guy who likes to softly fondle boobs rather than mash them together or tune them like a radio dial.

[Anikaj]

Would you overlook a guy that sucks in bed? I mean I really think women are over critical of their own bodies. Hell they are too critical of all peoples bodies to be honest because that doesn't bother me neither does a girl with sum meat on her stomach or a big butt or many of the things some girls go raving mad over.

[Babybornblonde]

I don't really know what to say to this. If you are the kind of girl who hooks up with guys meaning one night stand kind of thing, then you'd be more the kind to care about getting a boob job. I'm also against it.. But I sometimes think of it because my boobs are small and I want bigger ones to please my boy. But I love my boobs anyways. I guess its just a question of accepting you body. And if you dont, and that it makes you unhappy, then I think you should get a boob job for your own happiness. I'm not unhappy because my boobs are small, so I won't get a boob job. If your th kind of girl to fall in love, then the boy will obviously not mind your boobs because he oves you. But I kno boys love boobs. Never met some that dont. They love grabbin em, touching em... So anyways its really based on your happiness and what YOU want.

Good luck :)

-TLC

[stewartc1979]

Will you send me a picture of them

[bubbakong2006]

Yes they can

[Anonymous]

I'm sure your boobs are just fine, don't be insecure, no offense but for one night stands big boobs will do the job...and for a loving relationship he wouldn't care