Am I really good in bed?!

[Anonymous]

OK, well me and my ex boyfriend are on pretty good terms and we both know our relationship was always just about sex. The other day I was out with him and a few friends, and I had been drinking a bit, so was discussing sex very openly with everyone which I am normally too uncomfortable to do, and my ex said "yeah but you are actually well good in bed", and I was kinda shocked as I lost my virginity to him, and I always worried I was way too inexperienced but when we had sex I would always completely just let go and enjoy it as I have always been a very sexual person, and since then I have been sleeping with more people, but I have never considered myself good. I just replied oh.. and laughed or something, but then later on he said "no but seriously, you are well fun in bed". and then said in a half joking way "be my f*** buddy?" and I just laughed. But he kept making comments trying to get me to do stuff with him, and he almost stayed at my house. I would be fine with him being my 'f*** buddy', but as usual I am worrying and being paranoid that he was taking the p*ss out of me. I mean the kind of things I do in bed is just like things \i like to do like biting and scratching and kind of putting on a show but not too much.. I'm not screaming you know, but I absolutely do not just lie there. I also initiated trying some positions etc. and he did used to initiate sex all the time like he always wanted it, no matter where we were.. sometimes had to tell him not here.. so I know I can't have been bad.. but he has slept with 20 girls or something... and I find it hard to believe I am really one of the best, especially as they all had more experience. I have been told I am a great kisser and girl to make out with, but what I am like in bed has never been discussed, so I didn't really know what to make of it..

[ThoroughFred]

I think you are too worried about it. If you let loose and enjoy yourself, you're already "better" in bed than MOST girls, who are way too worried about what to be doing, let along doing anything they enjoy.

Why is it hard to believe you are the best he's had? When I was younger girls would always tell me that I was amazing, but like you I had a hard time believing them since I was so new to it. But after getting older and more experienced, and talking to a lot of lady friends about their experiences I've come to realize I'm really damn good. I could even be the best hey had - who knows and who cares. Point is all my partners were fully satisfied and that's what really counts.

Besides, for all you know, all of his other girls were dead fish in the sack. He is clearly coming back to you for more, which means he at least considers you fun and satisfying, which in the end is all that really matters since there is no "right or wrong" way to do it.

I say put your energy into more important things like continuing to get more comfortable with yourself and your body and building even more sexual confidence. That way you can continue to be the "best lay" of the men you are with.

[r_ropes]

Sounds like he was really into you. I very much doubt he's making fun of you, and if you're interested you should see where the whole f**k buddy thing goes. I wouldn't worry about the other 20 girls either. Sexual compatibility goes a long way. There are people who are great in bed but not for everyone. Sometimes the chemistry just isn't there, try as you might.

Like some of the other people who left their feedback, I agree. From your description you sound like you would be great in bed. Letting go, suggesting new positions, biting... it's all great. Keep having fun like that and you really can't go wrong.

[katiesmuff]

Just your descriptions of what you do while you are f**king would make it sound as though you are good in bed. I never reaslized how many girls just lay there like a wet dish rag and don't get into it. You sound like you are very much into it and that would most likely make you very good in bed.

[nourreale]

Dont let it get to you though. You could suck or you could be good. But he could of said it for these reasions

1: your good

2: To brag or prove to his friends that he actually did sleep with you

3: To get you back into his good books

4: Because he wants to sleep with you that night out.