Guys help please, we had sex and now he hasn't called or talked to me at all.

[Anonymous]

I will start off by saying that my boyfriend and I have been a serious relationship for 2 years. We were both virgins and decided one week ago to have sex with each other for the first time. If you ask me...I thought it went well...we both were able to come and was able to hold out until I came first. He stayed the night, we just chilled the next morning and then he left to go back home and yeah that was it, but it went well. Now its been a week...no call, no text, no email, NOTHING. He is the kind of guy who texts me alot, he always calls at least once throughout the day to say hi, he drives me too school in the morning and brings me coffee (he really is a very sweet guy). But ever since we had sex, he's been very distant, won't even drive me to school anymore, hasn't called, hasn't responded to my texts (I've only sent maybe 5 or 6 within the past week...he responded to none of them). I'm starting to get really upset, I mean we have been dating for 2 years and we are in love so after having sex for the first time I would not have expected this from him at all. Help please I have no idea what is going on. I feel like maybe I wasn't good enough or something, like I have no idea what is happening here and I don't understand why he is avoiding me. Did I do something wrong maybe?

[stargazerlili]

Well first off here is a sign that it was NOT his first time ... That he was able to hold off until you came first seriously that ain't a virgin and it was horribly wrong of him to play you like that but being the girl who has had lots and lots of scuzzy guy friends who talk to me as if I were just one of the guys a lot of guys like taking a girls virginity and some of them go about pretty f***ed up ways of doing so. This may be hard him being your first and all but forget about him. I remember my first who was by the way a total sleezebag as it sounds like your guy was. I am so sorry this happened to you but you are still so young and I am sure that there is a good guy out there just waiting for you to come along keep your chin up and I know this may sound aweful but everything happens for a reason and there are reasons why some people from our past just weren't meant to make it to our future and I am sure that you will see one day. my heart goes out to you

[Anonymous]

Wow, he played you.. Do you know for sure if he was a 'virgin,' guys can lie like that.. Cause some girls can be fooled into thinking that since he's a virgin he won't be soo this & that, he would stay w| me.. Yea.. & yu shouldn't have tried texting him either. Find a rebound to help you get over him, but make sure the rebound is a jerk.. He wouldn't care that yur using him, & yu wouldn't care that yur using him :] - BECAUSE HE'S A JERK, HELLO! Just don't fall in love.. Oh yea, & yur in love.. He was NOT in love.. If he was, he wouldn't have left yu w| the cold shoulder.. So "we ARE in love." Noo.. Noo.. But then again he could have broke his phone, his car got taken away.. Etc.. Next time yu see him, ask him about it.

[nvr4gotu]

You did nothing wrong! Sometimes this is what happens. No one can really tell you what's going on inside his brain but him. I suggest at this point you confront him and ask him why he is being like that. You don't have to fight, argue, simply ask the question, "So are you not into this relationship anymore?" If he says no, don't BEG him to be with you and don't cry in front of him. Deal with the answer without him. Just WALK AWAY.

[stewartc1979]

im gonna throw an answer that only is gonna make sense to someone who wraps there mind around what I'm writing.. I would bet anything in the world it wasn't his first time he has another girl only thing I can think because that's nothing a virgin guy that was with you for 2 years then all of a sudden its like he never knew you... let me know if I'm totally off when you find out the truth or right at all

[WholeWheatBread]

He is a jerk, yes. But I highly doubt you were 'played'. A man that would do that to a girl would not wait 2 years just to have sex once and then break it off. Like the other posters said, you should confront him about it.

[Epiphanies]

You need to drive over to his house and confront him immediately. There are a million reasons for why this could have happened but you need to act fast.

You deserve to know why and to fix it if it is something stupid.

[Zebolt]

No. You didn't do anything wrong. He, on the other hand, needs to get his ass kicked.

[Anonymous]

so what ended up happening? i am going through something similar..