I've never felt so sexually attracted to someone... it's driving me crazy!

[Anonymous]

There's this girl I've got like serious feelings for... I've tried to ask her on a date/hang out and I've always been rejected, but it's been hard to move on because I feel as tho she's toying with my heart, even after the rejections... well I just always feel like she's on my heels, and I feel like I'm waiting for her to come around, and on top of it, I find her irresistible, the most gorgeous girl I've ever seen. I've never been with her, in fact, I haven't seen her in such a long time or even talked to her... but I still feel like I'm stuck waiting... normally like at night or in the morning, I'm always thinking of her when I go to bed or wake up, and its like I can't even control myself. I just start kissing things, imagining its her... mainly my pillow lol but I feel so weird about it, but I find it weird that I actually get like butterflies simply from imagining its her that I'm kissing. I wish things could just be different and I could be with her. I want her as a best friend too. someone to turn to... she seems to want me as a friend despite rejecting me, but I truly believe it could be more if she just took a chance on me. but I don't know what I need to do to make her take that chance... I really think she could be the girl for me, but it's gonna be risky and potentially very hurtful again to try again with her. I've never been so attracted to someone... is this normal? I feel like I'm crazy but wow she's a girl I can't even deny!

[Jonny_]

Ha I've been there (minus the pillow kissing) But I've been really attracted to a girl and her best friend for that matter, who was very attractive and funny, she never really rejected me, but I knew for a fact she didn't like me that way, I rarely spoke to her but she was still always on my mind, I definitely felt like a weirdo despite not being able to help it. I'm still very attracted to her and her best friend, but it's not as bad as it was. It definitely takes a lot of time to get over these things.

[Asker]

Yeah it does... its like this hopeful/hopeless attraction... lol :(

[Jonny_]

Oh I know, Worst thing was I'd always run into her and I just handled seeing her so badly, I'm a very nervous guy when I like a girl that much. I'd still see her and get the urge to tell her she's lovely lol, but I know it's hopeless and that there are other great girls who would be just as good for me, although they seem hard to find if you think about who you like. lol

[Asker]

Oh yeah I know... I've been through similar stuff... I just wanna keep trying and trying for her tho, I can't see myself with any other girl at the moment... she was a rare find.

[Jonny_]

I was in that phase for about two years (slow progress) Worst bit about it was that she was originally attracted to me and I was too shy to do anything about it! I feel like a doofus now cause I wrecked my only chance with her, and it just gives me more false hope really.

[Asker]

I feel that could be a possibility with the girl I liked... but would she be shy around me and not other guys that she ended up going out with?

[Jonny_]

It's hard to say, a lot of girls are difficult to read... I've definitely been driven mad by her in the past, sometimes she'd seem like she's flirting, and others she is distant to me. Used to mess with my head badly.

[Asker]

Yep! same! ugh... girls, girls, girls. lol

[Jonny_]

Ha, I just can't hate em' :P

[l-hedoniste]

When she crushes you, good and proper, when she fillets your heart with garlic and a bit of cilantro, then you'll realize that you've made a poor choice in this woman, and move on. Just don't hang yourself, okay? She's not worth it.

Or, you can learn NOW. And run. NOW.

[Asker]

...care to explain in more "everyday-type" lingo?

[l-hedoniste]

She cares only about hurting you, because it amuses her. Run away, or suffer.

[Asker]

Now why would she even be like that, or wish pain on me?

[l-hedoniste]

She gets off on the power she has over you. Your appetite for pain validates her attractiveness. To her, the more you suffer, the hotter she is. It's sick sh*t, but a lot of guys go down this road. I advise against it.

[Asker]

I know she's not trying to do that... but I do see what you mean. I just don't get how girls can do this and still claim to "not like" the guy... I don't feed off the attention that, girls I don't like, give me. I don't string them along.

[Anonymous]

Girls love knowing tat a fella likes her nd love the attention..However mean tat sounds...She may just be flirting away and tryin 2 get you give her attention 2 make her feel gud about herself! I used 2 du dis 2 a fella and when he stopped showing me attention I started 2 crave it! If you reli think tat she is the one then stop chasing after her..dont be mean 2 her thou just act as if she is any other person you know aka don't give her special attention! Try it out and see wot happens! good luck!

[HappinessFoundMe]

If you like her that much and you want her to be with you, she is playing ball and flirt game, then you need to turn off the attention machine. Don't be a dick or something, just don't let her see you like her. Let her chase you for once, that will get her attention the way you want. Trust me I had to play a little cat and mouse to bring my sunshine ❤️ home with me. Now I'm the happiest man alive. Shout out to my love Angela Vanlandingham!!! Love that woman!!!