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My boyfriend wants to have threesome with a transsexual.

Hello. My boyfriend of six months is fantasizing about a threesome with a transsexual or just a gay guy. The thought of it really offends me, considering we have sex every day and sometimes more then once and we are extremely opened and versatile. I am NOT into gays and I am NOT in transsexuals in any way but I love him very much and I want to please him. I'm afraid our relationships will never be the same after it happens and our relationships are the most precious I have ever had. But he claims its just sex and its isn't a big deal. Couple of times he would lose his boner and then he admitted that he s been fantasizing too much lately. I'm really lost. What should I do? Please don't advise me to dump him. This man has been more then a family to me. PLEASE HELP! Need to save a very beautiful relationships!
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  • Sounds to me like this guy is a closet bisexual. If you're that uncomfortable with him and you don't think you can leave him, then maybe you should consider talking to him about it.

    I know you're pretty offended by the whole thing, but if you're not willing to leave him, then I suggest taking just a step back and thinking on it so you can approach this with a little understanding. Then talk to him about it. Tell him how uncomfortable the whole proposal made you. Ask him if he's really a bisexual, and from there you can start talking about it. The thing is if you're not comfortable with it now you may never be comfortable with it.

    Look I think the only thing you can do is talk this out. I'm not sure if you can work out a compromise like "saphirasilverwings" says but if you can think of one you should go for it. In the mean time talk should try to work this out. Also I think if he is a bisexual, you need to at least accept that aspect of who he is. You don't have to like him going out to fuck other guys, or transsexuals, but you may need to accept that he is attracted to it for whatever reason.

    Yeah... talk is all I can think about offering the two of you. I think though that if he is bisexual and it turns out you can't accept that, you might be in some trouble, because it's not like he can turn that off, just like you can't turn off your heterosexuality. I hope you two can work something out to get him to be a little less aggressive about it, and I hope you can accept him for who he is in the end as well.

    This is going to be a tough situation. I wish you the best of luck here.

    • I'm checking back on a lot of my old answers like I usually do. I wanted to do a follow up to see if what I told you was at all helpful to you. So did my advice help?

  • Tell him 1) you're uncomfortable with the idea 2) you only want to be with him and him alone in bed 3) you don't want to feel pressured into something you have no interest in

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  • If you're not comfortable with it then you're not comfortable with it. It's as simple as that. Your reasons for not wanting to do it seem legitimate to me. Guys tend to be less complicated and emotional than girls when it comes to sex so it's likely that this would have a bigger impact on your relationship than he thinks. If you shared his fantasy that would be one thing, but in my opinion this isn't the type of thing that should be done purely as a favor.

    If your relationship is truly as great as you think it is he should be able to accept the fact that you don't feel comfortable with this. Ask him if you can compromise by working with him to find something to try that you'll BOTH enjoy. If he refuses to compromise and this continues to affect your relationship, maybe you're not the best match after all.

    • What would a compromise be? I'm trying to figure that out.

    • I just mean finding something that they would both enjoy that might minimize his desire to do this particular thing. I don't mean something that would relate to the same subject necessarily.

    • Thanks. I was trying to figure that out.

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  • tell him your feelings on that. This can get real fugly real quick... Threesome with a tranny... smfh

  • You won't find either that would have sex with you...They are into there own and sex is not always what makes these people tick. Both are so different that your boyfriend should just shave his legs and buy a pair of black nylons. LOL. It would be so uncomfortable for you at your age to open up to this. Only, when you are not expecting it on a vacation should it even be considered. And a lot of guys shave their legs and trim their private area. Good luck!

  • Bringing Any third person into your relationship will be the destruction of it.. Never do it! Too many jealousy’s and many times, one of you will fall for the third person !

  • just tell him you're uncomfortable doing something like that if it really bothers you.

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