Men: circumcision, is it bad for your sex life?

[Anonymous]

With my uncircumcised ex-bf, we used to have sex very regularly, and we used to do it several times in the space of a few hours. He never had any ejaculation problems unless he was very drunk. My current boyfriend is circumcised and seems to ejaculate extremely fast at first and with very little stimulation, but then, a second coupling later its near impossible for him to ejaculate with out the sex becoming extremely rough for a very very very long period of time. And he seems totally incapable of making love gently, or at a slower pace without losing the erection. I'm often left very sore after sex, as we will, for lack of a better description, bang away at each other for ages, without him reaching fulfillment, and me not always in the mood for the rough stuff but always having to make do, so we often just stop unfinished, or barely reach his finish and then we're too damn exhausted to even think about round 3 . It also leaves me feeling a little inadequate some times, I know he finds me attractive, I know he enjoys our time together but it just sends little doubts about how attractive I am to him when he can't come sometimes. I just want to know if this is a common problem with circumcised men ?

[Bruce]

Here is an addendum from Google.that may add some fuel to the fire on circumcision.

As I have said I have experienced NONE of the problems but ALL of the postives from being circumcised.

Regards.

Bruce

The Pros and Cons of Circumcision

Number one is that it protects the head of the penis from urine, feces, and other irritation. Those that are circumcised simply wash off any irritants with soap and water. However, uncircumcised males are still required

to wash to maintain healthy personal hygiene. When considering circumcision for this reason, ask yourself "Is it easier to have to pull the foreskin back and wash, or to just wash without having any foreskin there?"

Up next, it protects against infection or scarring of the urinary opening. While this may sound like a good reason to keep your child uncircumcised at the surface, it is extremely unlikely that either of these are going to happen to your little boy. An infection or scarring of the urinary opening is extremely rare, and is hardly heard of in the medical community.

Finally, the third purpose of the foreskin is to protect the sensitivity of the top of the penis. Most males know that the top of the penis is extremely sensitive, and the foreskin is there to protect that sensitivity. I cannot find a disadvantage of having the sensitivity protected, however, as circumcised men know, this is not absolutely necessary, if you follow general precautions.

The only pro of being circumcised that University of Michigan's Health System (UMHS) doesn't discount as rare is the effect of harassment of uncircumcised males by circumcised peers when they are in the shower or in locker rooms. Most young children and adolescents do not like being made fun of, and this can cause sometimes-extreme emotional distress in young boys taking their first steps into adulthood.

UMHS also states that being circumcised also prevents urinary tract infections (UTIs) during the first year of life for male children. They discount this pro by saying that UTIs are rare in the first year of life. While this occurrence may be rare, if a male has ever had a UTI, he knows it is painful. I can imagine if it's painful for an adult male, just how painful it must be for an infant to have one. When considering the pro, ask yourself "Can I prevent it from even happening?" Yes, you can, with a circumcision. This will turn a rare occurrence into a no-occurrence.

[sa230e]

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The foreskin is rich in nerve endings and a source of great pleasure for a man. Without it, the glans (head) of the penis is the main source of pleasure. A circumcised man has to thrust deeper, faster and harder than a uncircumcised man to get the pleasure he needs to ejaculate.

For an uncircumcised man, he experiences greater stimulation from the foreskin rolling back and forth on the glans as he thrusts. Uncircumcised guys thrust shallower, slower and more softly with a consistent rhythm and get pleasure from both the inward and outward stroke.The foreskin collects behind the glans and forms sort of seal that helps prevent loss of vaginal lubrication also keeping the vagina wetter and reducing friction.

Without the excess skin, as a circumcised guy thrusts inwards it puts tension on the skin of the shaft which pulls down on the glans and makes it into sort of a "hook" shape that catches on the ridge walls of the vagina and can leave the vagina irritated. With a foreskin less tension is put on the coronal ridge but also the foreskin "bunches up" behind it on the inward thrust which creates a sort of "padding" for the vagina on the outward stroke.

It has NOTHING to do with your appearance and everything to do with an arcane and medically unnecessary procedure that was unfortunately inflicted on your boyfriend as a baby. As advanced as western society is, most of what passes for common knowledge about our genitals is a myth. Men have foreskins for a reason. When you cut them off it negatively affects both men and women.

[Bruce]

There is absolutely no medical or scientific evidence to support your statements to this woman, and to the contrary, there is STRONG evidence to support the increased incidences of cervical cancer in women who are married to men that are uncircumcised and transmit some kinds of bacteria beneath the foreskin directly to the cervix....I am circumcised and have no such experiences that you describe in your answer, and am quite certain that I have had intercourse with more women to support that.

[dvdkn7]

"The foreskin is rich in nerve endings and a source of great pleasure for a man." I hate when people say that, while it may be true... the difference between pleasure of cut and uncut is like comparing 1 to 1.01 both uncut and cut have intense orgasms... and unless you've been both, you have no right to disonform people. I'm cut btw.

[sa230e]

Who says I'm misinforming people? I may disagree with you but I'm not accusing you of trying to mislead people. Sure both types can have intense orgasms but as an uncircumcised guy, I have all the same things down there you do. And personally the pleasure I get from my foreskin feels far better than that I get from just the head. I'm not trying to put anybody down or say that I'm better than a circumcised guy. I'm expressing my point of view and I'm very much against circumcision.

[dvdkn7]

The thing is... your not cut.. you haven't had both worlds so you have no right to say which is better sexually, what I'm saying is for all you know they both have the same amount of pleasure.

[polyglotmom]

I'm with you, SA. My boys are not circumcised for various reasons and I have been with both cut and uncut. Uncut was better for me.

[pdqsailor]

Please spare me the emotional nonsense... I have been circumcised since I was an infant.

My Wife and I make love every morning... HER idea by the way, her initiative and she is the one who drives this - she most often wakes me in the morning so we have enough time...

She is petite - so WE find it more comfortable if I put a tiny dab of lubricant on my glans before we engage in intercourse...

In terms of pleasure - I take HER pleasure very seriously and I happily provide oral sex - with enthusiasm until she is sated and until she makes me stop... I would happily keep my mouth on her all day long if she would let me.

In terms of intercourse - I don't know what YOU are referring towards but we take things very gently and very slowly - and if i had to be honest she would prefer me to cum more quickly - generally intercourse alone lasts for about ten minutes and she knows the instant I cum inside of her... which I find incredible...

[Bruce]

Your question is very thoughtful and I really appreciate the way you write and expressed yourself...

As a circumcised man, I can appreciate your question, because I have had a similar experience with a FEW of my women partners...and believe me it had NOTHING to do with attractiveness...as many of them have been very attractive...and has nothing to do with a man taking a long time to ejaculate. As a 19 - 20 year old, I ejaculated very quickly...too quickly...and I hated that also...but later learned to enjoy the longer, slower, thrusting...and how to keep my partner lubricated so that she did not get sore or irritated.

How old is your boyfriend? That has some impact...but from my experience, being circumcised or not does not have much bearing on cuming too quickly...My last girlfriend, had an uncircumcised boyfriend for several years and she said that he could screw her for a hour or more without cuming...BUT she remained "wet' and didn't get sore...or irritated, also his penis was also sliding back and forth "inside' the foreskin...as well as inside her vagina, thereby reducing some of the friction to her vagina.

She states that the diameter of my penis causes her some soreness, and discussed it with her / our MD...and we never did make any determination if that had ANYTHING whatsoever to do with it...

I have only had or or two occasions that I had a hard time cuming and I think it had to do with the fact that I had masturbated several times before having sex with that particular partner...but it had nothing to do with her or her attractiveness, and on those few occasions, I should have just stopped for that particular session.

With all of the above being said...I don't think it has to do with being circumcised...or uncircumcised...

Slow, gentle / varying speed/ intercourse is great for me...and I sometimes uses Durex Desentisizing gel to allow me to go longer...

Hope all of this dissertation is of some help

Bruce

[slappy_bender]

If you want slower, and more gentle, try squeezing your legs together to to give him more friction.

maybe it will help.

[GIntrovert]

Though it is true, that slicing pieces off the penis will reduce the pleasure, I don't think that this has anything to do with this situation..

[Oddjob]

I've never experiences any of thost problems.

[flammabledude]

Ive actually had the same worries myself, I'm my country circumcised men are the minority and I've had problems climaxing at all during sex, it just stays hard forever with no relief. I also masturbate regularly. I'm extremely concerned that it has become desensitised.

[Asker]

I've kind of solved my problem-ish, it depends how you view it really. We use copious amounts of lub, so the second time doesn't chaf and for the third time we usually have anal sex. A lot of lub is a must, I firmly believe that because most circumcised men don't suffer from this problem that occasionally some procedures go wrong, and this sort of desensiting thing happens for some men. The sad part is that the desire for sex is in no way diminished, only the ability to reach fulfillment.

[sanguinnia]

Uncircumcised is better imho

[Seppelson]

I think every circumcised guy has this problem