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My friend told me I should be more grateful for having big boobs. Is she right?

My friend told me I should be more grateful for having big boobs. Is she right?

I have DD's and I think they're a pain in the rear to deal with. I have neck and back pain and if I wear a V-neck shirt or swimsuit, guys won't look me in the eye while they're "talking" to me.

I cannot for the the love figure out why women are willing to go under the knife to make their boobs bigger unless it's due to an illness like breast cancer or something like that. Besides, most guys like women who are slender anyway. My boobs were weighed and together are 12 pounds. And on top of that, I'm only 5'2 so they make me look fat no matter what I'm wearing. And being 5'2, it makes it easier for men to look down my shirt. Plus there's not a lot you can do to hide them or put them away unless you wear a garbage bag or something but still feel comfortable.

My friend is a size B, though, and she thinks I'm being very ungrateful. She's 5'7 and she has said several times she wished she had big boobs like me. She told me I need to stop complaining about something that so many woman pay thousands of dollars for and they make it easier to attract guys. But I told her it attracts men for the wrong reasons and instead of wanting to talk to me, they just really want to squeeze my rack real quick. I also noticed that the bigger they are, the dumber men seem to think I am. This was after I made a comment that I may need a new bra because my 36DD one is getting to be too small. And I'm 27. And I haven't even had kids yet so if I do get pregnant these big bastards are definitely going to get larger.

So am I being ungrateful? I don't know if she wants her boobs to be bigger because I didn't ask. But it does make me mad that she thinks I should just be happy and have nothing to complain about.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • The grass is always greener BUT
    in your DD's defense
    1. in Europe, more of a leg appreciation area, they consider lg breasted women to be more mature
    2. although there's been a shift in Am. men's preference from breasts to butts, these will bring you more candidates to consider as long term friends & perhaps The One
    3. used to be true that it was the more outgoing & gregarious guys that were the breast men
    4. ALL guys look at breasts, to insure you really are a gal, they can't help it and really... cleavage is not much to see, even though it excites only most of them
    5. your friend's perspective easily recognizes the power over most men & some women that breasts larger than hers entails, ergo why she envies them, wants to hear no complaints of this blessing & others "invest" in larger ones b/c they know it WILL pay off beyond the dollars spent, as well as the dollars

    More time in gym w/trainer will solve your other problems, I promise.

    Make your friend a bit happier - tell her her nipples are more sensitive and thus erotic during sex

  • There is no way that you should be thankful for back and neck pain! Your friend is not being a friend by repeatedly telling you how lucky you are when you know you are not.

    Most guys are going to stare at big boobs. But that does not mean that a huge percentage prefer large breasts on their partner. Many of us prefer smaller. But most of us are happy with whatever she has.

    I would suggest that you stop telling your friend that you wish you had smaller boobs. Just don't bring it up with her. And if she brings it up, tell her you are not interested in hearing that.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I'm glad I don't have big boobs. but your friend thing you you're being ungrateful is a bit much. some women like having big boobs, some don't. personally they seem uncomfortable, cumbersome, and hard to avoid.

    Men can be jerks. Women can be hags.

    You sound like you've got a good head on your shoulders. My suggestion is to try and ignore, or at least not engage in conversation when she brings up the subject. Stick to your guns that how you feel is right for you.
    It's not your responsibility to make her feel comfortable with her body. but shrugging off her comments might reinforce the fact that you're not ungrateful, you are in pain.

  • Ultimately it's your body to do what you wish with. If you're not happy with something change it :) . I'm pretty sure every girl wishes their boobs were bigger or smaller anyway ;) ... no matter what the size guys are going to look... just make them feel awkward and they'll walk away... lol do like my sister does... look the pig straight in the eyes and say "do you like them? they came with my transition " , and she reaches in her purse like she's going to pull out a picture and says "do you want to see a before picture?" Lol... it totally works LOL they walk away fast...

  • Everyone wants what they can't have. There's pros and cons to eveything but she can't understand your view on big boobs because she's not the one dealing with them. I'm glad I don't have to deal with back pain, so I don't think you're ungrateful, you have a right to feel the way you do.

  • Well, i think that we should be grateful for having boobs in general, doesn't matter big or small, boobs are great :D but yeah, having larger ones do cause some trouble, so the women with smaller ones just don't know how much easier it is for them in that matter

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  • She's not. You should be grateful for whatever you're comfortable with, and if you boob size bothers you, it's your own business and she doesn't get to say a thing

  • I've been on both sides here, I was always very flat chested until I had my child and my shape completely changed and now I have a large chest

    I have to say you're not being ungrateful, I'd love to have a smaller chest, clothes just aren't made to suit larger chested women, everything looks either promiscuous or frumpy

  • Having large breasts is a hassle. If she really did have them naturally she'd know. People just naturally want what they don't have.

  • everything has pros and cons, best thing to do is to be grateful for what you have

  • You are likely bigger than DD...

  • I understand where you are coming from because we are the same height and my breasts are 34B and I wish they were smaller because it would show my figure more if they were and your not ungrateful also are you skinny, medium or fat?

    • Medium build. I won't give my weight specifically but my doctor told me I'm a healthy weight and really the reason the scale reads a little higher than it should for someone my weight and size with my lifestyle is mostly because of my boobs.

    • Oh but you could reduce them

    • Yeah, but that costs money. Unless I have a doctor give me a real reason to get them reduced, insurance won't cover it.

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  • It comes with both bad and good. Imagine all the guys you will slap for grabbing them but then imagine guys you like will also enjoy them.

  • Actually most guys like bigger boobs women. There are 2 main factions in the boobs community, one for big boobs and one for small boobs. They can go down to more details like shape, actual size like C or D or even F. However, it's a fairly clear choice between A and C faction.

    Small boobs faction is pretty small and tend to be lolicon. I belong to the big boobs faction by the way.

  • What they are saying doesn't make any sense. You are the one that has the experience of having large breasts so you should be the one to tell is it good or bad thing. So you should tell them to stop being ungrateful with smaller tits.

  • You are not being ungrateful and until she walks a mile in your bra she needs to shut the hell up. Everyrhing on life it's ups and downs. But it is harder for some to understand this. You know what they say the grass is greener on the other side. Regardless if you think being well endowed is a bleasing or. bit of a curse some days it is your opinion and you are entitled to it

  • If they are giving you medical problems then you have a right to feel how you do. But it's like a guy complaining his dick is too big, and girls only date him for that. There won't be a lot of sympathy. My ex had huge boobs, and I've been in that sewing circle where they voice their complaints. Sorry but no one else wants to listen.

  • No she is Wrong. If you have big Natural boobs then cool. In Primitive speaking, big boobs were to attract a man to a woman who could survive the winter. I hate when a woman gets fake boobs.

  • I understand the struggle. But you really are blessed. You have something Most women don’t have. So you should appreciate it and love your breasts.

  • I definitely understand. I'm a 36D and I'm 4'11, so I do get some problems out of them. At first I was self conscious about them so I wore a lot of sweatshirts, but I got over it. Yes there are some wondering eyes, but I try to ignore it. I mean I don't know why women would want boobs this big because they can cause back problems and other things.

    • jesus must cover half your body haha

    • @Toobig4u lol what?

    • thats just so big on such a short girl. i feel theyd take up the whole top half of u haha

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  • Yep you should be grayeful

  • Yes. Grateful. Women would kill to have your tits.
    I've been married to HH's for 24 years - she hates them, I love them.

    Actually, they were a novelty for awhile, now they're just big tits. :)

    "And I haven't even had kids yet so if I do get pregnant these big bastards are definitely going to get larger."

    And saggy. There's that. LOL

  • I can relate to the back and neck pain and wanting to do anything to make it go away. try some physical therapy exercises to make your back stronger so they don't hurt as much. enjoy the attention and free drinks, its something most people will never get in their lifetime

  • That's what (a lot of) girls say when they don't have large breasts, and, thus, don't have to deal with all the problems that they bring. Almost every busty girl I've known wished that her chest were smaller. Several outright hated theirs and will probably get reductions in the future. I am personally a fan of large breasts, but attractive or not, they are a source of much annoyance, discomfort, etc., especially when a woman crosses the E+ threshold.

    I wouldn't worry about what your friend thinks on this subject.

  • i think 36 is little big for ur height.. try googling how you can it or beta wear a sports bra

    • and i think u should be happy for that.. the way you are framing it... i feel its good

  • She's right. I love big breast. 👌

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