If you are planning on marriage then yes. It can actually be very sexy and fun. Its actually pretty safe if done correctly. Contrary to popular belief, precum is sterile, so sperm is not found in precum. Pulling out doesn't fail, people do. He has to know his body very well and excercize control even though it feels so good. He needs know full well when he is close and at what point the first spurt of semen occurs so he can be out and clear before any gets inside or right on the (labia) opening. He needs to be away and let it go at least above the vulva on the mons/pubic hair, on a tissue, or elsewhere is comfortable on you in order to be safe. If you have sex again later, he needs make sure to urinate and clean his whole area down below with soap or shampoo to ensure no sperm remains. Sperm can reside in the urethra after, which is why urination kills it since its acidic and will pass the whole tract from the prostate all the way to the glans and kill all sperm.
Also, good call on not taking hormonal based or any chemical injectable based birth control, its not good for your body at all.
this is the method I use, I can't stand using condoms they are uncomfortable and I hate them. but the simple fact is its your body. yes you are both risking a pregnancy but you're the one that has to go through it. that being said although I'm good with the pull out method it can be hard to get good at. precum can get into your vaginal cavity and could possibly contain sperm. (there is no proof that it can, does or doesn't which surprises me) but my point is. if you find it to risky and dont wabt to risk it just tell him no. no glove no love. but in the ens its up to you. if you're okay with the risk then go for it. just as a bit of added advice make sure its not he pulls out and immediately cums. to be on a safe side with the method he should jerk off to cum. but even then its not as safe as condoms.
If you're doing sexual intercourse that's not just risky, it's nuts. Unless of course your objective is to get pregnant. People who use the so called "pull out" method are known as parents because they have lots of children! If you don't want to use birth control and he doesn't want to use a condom then I suggest to you both that you do delicious orgasmic oral sex together. He can cum into your mouth. You can't and won't get pregnant while enjoying swallowing his cum. :)
my husband and i do the same, and have for the past 3 years; i am not a mom, nor will i ever be. we started off using condoms, but his pullout game is strong lol.
birth control is horrible and i plan on getting my tubes tied (hubs is immune to anaesthesia). but there's a history of infertility in both of our families, so chances are we couldn't have kids even if we wanted to.
Exwife and I did pull and pray for ten years without a scare. We were ok getting prego but weren't trying
It’s a personal decision. Birth control does have some concerning health risks and guys hate condoms. When my current guy and I got together, I made him aware I wasn’t using anything and he was cool with that. Although it’s statistically riskier than a condom, he chooses to pull out. We’ve been doing it for 6 months and so far so good.
I trust mexican tap water over the pull out method. If you're not willing to have an abortion, use condoms. If you don't plan on having kids, research other birth control methods. Or permanent solutions.
having a kid afterwards makes you crankier more. trust me my sister is pretty much pissy 99.9999999% of the time. At least with Birth Control it's not as bad
@smahala1991 yes, and at least with birth control you dont end up with a baby when you're no longer pregnant.
Sadly in my opinion people change after having kids
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!my parents tried 4 times... failed all 4 times... maybe u two should flip a coin or fuck with your fingers crossed. God speed my friend
lol jk girl please don't bad idea
It doesn't work. Sooner or later you will be pregnant. Orgasm are uncontrollable.
Let him know there is also another option, training his pc muscles is the ultimate solution to stop him cumming. This in turn makes him a powerful lover and just what you want. he won't cum at all if he trains up his love muscles. let him know to check out online www. pegym, or okaydick are ideal sites on how to strengthen your dick and pc muscles, it will turn him into a sexual tiger for your pleasure. if not, then may i suggest another trick. when he is about to cum on you, stick your finger up his arse and shake it violently, do this a few times when your sexing and without failure he won't want to cum... ever again. due to the fact of having his arse raped. unless he grows to like it of course then your both fucked!!
lol!
@COCOCHANEL okay, lets not be too personal then. your right, i should not get too personal. i am terribly sorry and hope i never offended your womeness. please forgive this English man, for he knows not too much. Try a cattle prod instead.
Pull out is the riskiest method if you don't have it, even if you do, precum can still get you pregnant, have you tried even talking about birth control, be it pill form, ring insertion... anything?
I refuse to take birth control. Seriously.
Then tell him he won't have be having sex without condoms
As long as you are prepared for the possibility of baby sure.
that's a horrible idea. make that nigga wear a condom
Better get ready for the stork's arrival...
Wow I wouldn't put up with that long of condoms with my girlfriend. Props to that man. I also have good control and I've never gotten anyone pregnant. Just make sure he pulls out a solid 10 seconds before he's ready. Sex will feel a lot better and y'all will actually feel a deeper connection. Condoms are useful if y'all are not together but y'all have been together forever!
Yeah... don't do that if you don't want to get pregnant...
It's not like those are the only two options... get on some form of BC and pull out just to be sure. IF a girl wanted to us she condoms long term I'd honestly break it off...
Those are the only two options because I refuse to take birth control.
Honestly there is no real reason beyond a medical condition. Unless you've tried a bunch and have the worst of worst side effects. If it's anything but that many guys won't be into the idea of using condoms the rest of their life.
Yeah well the plan is for him to get a vasectomy but he has to be 30 to do that with no children. 2 more years is all I'm asking for. 😩
I had two kids using that method, but to be honest, it was working well until I just decided not to pull out. My wife was fine with it. But yes, you are more at risk and having to trust him more to do it. I understand his frustration. I hate them, too.
I mean I hate them too. But I also hate babies so...
Not that contraceptives are the responsibility of women, but there are non-hormonal birth control methods you could look into that would allow you not to use condoms, including copper IUDs.
They're just potentially dangerous.
well everything is, you get to determine what's an acceptable risk, but for context, being in a vehicle is the most dangerous thing you do by far but you never think about it. Using the pullout method will almost definitely result in pregnancy if you're both fertile and that's pain, stigma, risk, and 18 years of responsibility, but you're still asking about doing it? I personally would consider the BC risk before the additional pregnancy risk, they seem on a different scale to me.
I see you're point.
Your boyfriend must crave to be called 'Dad'.
Do you want to be called 'Mom' ?
Only if you're good with having his child. Please, get married first, may as well plan it all out. You WILL be having a family, whether you think you will or not.
Yeah that's exactly why I don't want to do it.
You shouldn't do it unless you're ready to have a kid
I'll never be ready for that.
Then you should use protection because the pullout method is much less effective
well good thing you at least know it´s risky. i mean if you´re ok with having a child from him, go for it. but if you absolutely do not want that to happen, use a condom, birth control or stop having sex.
there are female condoms too. also you can try anal too. sperm last in the vajah-jah for up to 8 days. Sex does feel better with out a condom.
No way I'm doing anal.
You can try anal on him? Jk... He really needs to practice before hand. or you finish him off with oral. having a child is a life changer.
say no condoms and stuff like that r the best and safest thing for u to do
well you're right, those chemicals are bad for you
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