First, make sure you have plenty of time. Next, TAKE that time to be relaxed and low-pressure and in a good frame of mind (both of you.) A lot of foreplay in such a situation is really important.
As for wetness: the vagina is naturally a bit damp. This is different from a girl being wet from excitement. When she's excited, her vulva will be all puffy, and just inside instead of damp, it will be very wet and slippery. During foreplay, if you finger her a bit, the slipperiness will make its way outside as well. Don't even THINK of penetrating her until she is wet and puffy or it will be painful for both of you.
If you were wearing a condom, your sensations might well have been very limited, but don't bareback unless she's on birth control an you've both been tested.
Once you are inside, move slowly and gently at first. Better yet, have her be on top so she can control a) when penetration happens, b) how quickly it happens, and c) how fast the movements are. If she is in control she will be more relaxed.
Having a penis inside is nice, but it often doesn't give us girls the type of stimulation we need to get to orgasm, and it isn't just about how hard you thrust. If she has masturbated in the past, she should rub her clitoris while you are inside her in a way that she likes. If you have done this for her in the past, you can do it for her as well; if not, pay attention to how she does it so you can learn. In some positions I massage my own clit; in others my boyfriend does (since we have been together long enough that he knows what I like).
It's best if your girl has her orgasm first, since if you have your first you will go soft and leave her frustrated. If you can't control yourself don't beat yourself up, though, since it takes time to learn how to have sex and how to hold back. Also, keep in mind that when your girl does orgasm it will probably be very exciting for you and make you have an orgasm too (over time you will learn how to hold back so she can possibly have more than one, but again don't expect perfection while you're learning.
If one or both of you just aren't enjoying it, there's nothing wrong with calling it quits and trying some other time. Once you pull out, maybe you will want to masturbate each other to blow off steam--it's nothing to get upset about. Make it a positive occasion.
I hope this helps!1 0 0 0You popped her cherry which hurts like hell and its normal to only bleed a little sometimes. It was probably not pleasuring because normally for the girls first time its not meant to feel good because well.. the cherry pops. (hymen) So going faster would not make it any better and when she doesn't enjoy and and there's little foreplay involved your not going to enjoy it either as sex is a two person thing. Trust me that is not what sex is and its totally normal for the first time for girls the same thing happened when I lost my virginity (I could tell the guy didn't like it too much) then we did it again and it started feeling great and we both enjoyed it. You just gotta get through the first couple times because she's so tiny down there that its a bit uncomfortable I wish I could tell her this too lol
1 0 0 0It probably wasn't as pleasuring for you because you were stressed about her being in pain. She was probably in pain because she wasn't mentally ready, she could've been extremely nervous which caused her muscles to become too tense and she would also become dry. Was she also a virgin? If so, this is probably the case
0 2 0 0I just read your update and I think it would be best for her to explore herself, what she likes/dislikes, what turns her on, etc If she becomes comfortable with herself sexually, it would make sex a lot easier for her
She doesn't want to explore herself... I don't know... I tried convincing her to touch herself or let me touch her to stimulate her, but she doesn't want...
@Boorene I second that
Yeah it is normal. You have the pressure and expectation for it to be great. For you to know exactly what to do. The pain can be a turn off for a girl and women don't bleed everytime.
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You might learn something reading my answer here: www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1178062-losing-ur-virginity-how-painful-it-is-guys
1 1 0 0Oh uh, she wanted to try. But it doesn't seem she's turned on and wanted sex, so we just went with it. So did the 2nd time. She just ask "Do you want it?", I replied "Yes" and we took our pants off and started having sex. Does it concern about my size or her size? Could I/her be sexually unsound, is there really such things as "sexually unsound"? And uh she said she needed to be drunk to do it because well 1. sex is foreign to her, 2. She doesn't even dare to touch herself, but she's just curious about sex, hence why we tried it, she's curious about the 'pleasure' I was talking about if I am masturbating, so whenever we did it, she's quite in a drunk state... P. S. I wrote more so as to be more detailed.. "https://www. girlsaskguys. com/sexual-health/q2492769-gag-didn-t-allow-me-to-write-more-even-after-updates-its-on-the"
don't see it like driving a car, a number of mechanical movements enabling you to start the engine , get in gear and take turns etc. Go more with the flow, with her desires. But first get her horny: having sex is not an intellectual decision, it's a passionate decision from both persons. BUT opening the possibility to having sex if circumstances are 100% right is the intellectual decision for both. That should be the first step.
Alright then, I know what to do the next time we're gonna try. Thanks a lot!! for helping me correcting my understanding of sex and telling me the what and whats not to do
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