How long should a girl hold off sex with a guy if she wants a serious relationship?

[muse143]

I've been dating this guy for about a week. We have so much in common and we finish each others sentences. Things are progressing so fast and were trying to take things slow. We don't want to mess up what we have...It's so great. We have intense make out sessions. How long should I make him wait if I want a serious relationship? Everything with him feels so right and I'm trying to hold myself back.

[Phantom_operator]

Just let things role the way they are. Wait until you feel the time is right. There is no real "period" of time that is a safe zone. I mean it's one of those things that you have to feel within you. Keep in mind, it's still new to the both of you. Give it some time and see how the both of you are to each other after a month or two. Then proceed from there. Keep in mind your both on best behavior right now.

[girl_nevaagain]

I agree, there isn't a such thing as a safe zone. You have to let things flow and trust your instincts when it comes to these types of things. One thing I will advise you to do is to make sure that both of you are on the same page in terms of how things are going. Much love:)

[muse143]

Do you think that I'll lose him if I make him wait? He is very good looking and I'm sure that he can get any girl that he wants. I'm scared that he'll go somewhere else... Well I guess if he is patient enough to wait then maybe that will prove that he is serious about me. Thanks for your answers, I really appreciate it ( ;

[girl_nevaagain]

If you give it up too early, you may lose him as well. Trust me when I say this, I have been in a situation like this before. So honestly, you have to trust your instincts and do what's right for you, and not what you think will make him want to stay with you. If you want to wait awhile before going down that road, than please do. If he isn't down with that and does decide to bounce, than he was never worth your time. If he stays, then there may just be something there:)

[Anonymous]

A WEEK! You've been dating for a week and are wondering about how long to hold off sex? FIRST OFF, SEX DOESN'T MAKE A RELATIONSHIP SERIOUS! You need to understand that. Secondly, it's only been a week. You should probably hold off a lot longer than that. A lot of normal relationships don't see any sex for SIX MONTHS.

[bBop345]

Six months? That's a long time. How about 3 months?

[Opinion Owner]

It's up to you. But a LOT of people don't have sex with their partner for roughly six months or so. Just wait and feel him out for a bit. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, it doesn't. But whatever you do, don't rush it. It could potentially ruin a good relationship.

[muse143]

I'm very old fashioned when it comes to sex and relationships.It's just that I've been talking to my girlfriends in regards to holding off sex for 6months and they all tell me that I will lose him if I make him wait that long. I've only been in 2 long term relationships and I guess I've lost track of how men react to these things. I really like him and I don't want to lose him but at the same time I don't want to be just another girl to him.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, you will lose him... If he's shallow and only wants sex. Your friends don't know what goes through a man's head. Besides, sex isn't the way to keep a man if you want him to stay the way he is. If you sleep with him too soon you will lose who he is right now. Do you get what I mean?

[muse143]

Yeah I get what you mean. I guess he's not worth it if that's all that he wants. No cookie for him then..LOL not for awhile anyways. Thank you so much for the advise, I'll give you an update if anything happens ( ;