OMG...WTF. If my boyfriend said that to me I would say well fine enjoy having sex alone. Sex should be for both parties. He needs to man up an spend the 10 minutes to give you what you need. You took the time with the lingerie, music, and candles and he can't return the favor. I understand that stress can be hard on a relationship but give me a break. If its too long of a process than maybe he needs to learn how to do if faster. Don't ignore it any longer. If you don't tell him how you feel he will continue to do it. Tell him how you want it, where you want, and for how long...hehe. Sex is supposed to be fun not work. Remind him of your needs as a woman. Hope that helps.
0 0 0 0Thanks peko22 :) I will definitely be having a talk with him tonight when he gets home. I guess I just need to put it in a way that I am not critizing his abilities. Last night when I kindly asked him not to go straigh for "the goodies" (hehehe) he got offended and huffed and puffed at me. Needless to say, neither of us got any action last night!!! I guess the hard thing is, he already knows how I want it, and where I want it, but he isn't bothered to do so. Thanks so much for your comments :)
I agree. You don't want to crush the ego.
You are not being too needy but you are being TOO NICE! He can so tell that you will do absolutely ANYTHING for him and he is using that. Soon enough he will get bored of you. This is not looking good, I am sorry to say. Stop doing everything for him and start doing htings for yourself. For example, if you don't want to clean the house, then dont! If you don't want to cook, get take out. If you want to see your friends, see your friends. Seriously stop being so nice. I STRONGLY suggest that you go to a book shop (Angus and Robertson, Dymmoks, Borders etc, go to Westfield) and by the book called "Why Men Love Bitches" by Sherry Argov.
0 0 0 0Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't normally be so "submissive". I am just trying to get through all this financial stress with him, whithout giving him any unwanted additional stress. Oh & believe me, I know the "treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen" tactic, but it just isn't me, I don't have it in me & in all honesty, if he didn't listen to me whilst I was being nice, then at the end of the day I wouldn't be wasting my time on here. Thank you though, it's nice to know I can go somewhere for honest advice!
Not at all...from how it sounds, you're being far too generous. If he's too stressed to pay attention to you when you're having sex, he has hands, he can do it himself. Tell him that if he's not going to put any effort in, you're not going to take the crap. At some point, you have to stop being submissive to everything he wants and stand up for yourself.
0 0 0 0Thanks shadowcat517, I think I might just tell him to please himself if nothing changes! I've just spoken with him, and I've been promised a day full of pampering this weekend... Not that I was looking for a full day of pampering, just for him to be less self-centred right now. BUT I am not going to say no to a full day when it's all about me :) hehe!
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If by any chance you're single again in the future, could I be next in line? :)
Anyhow, no, I don't think you are being needy. He seems to be only thinking of himself at the moment.0 0 0 0Haha thanks anonymous! I am flattered :) You're right, he is only thinking of himself so let's hope it's only because he under a lot fo stress.
Or lets hope the relationship might end altogether. Well, at least for my sake. ;)
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