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Feeling insecure about my small breasts?

I'm newly single and for what seems like the millionth time, I'm feeling insecure about my small breasts. It's even more intimidating now that I'm single. It seems guys like all breasts, but have a distinct preference for big. I mean, the media caters to what the masses like, right? I read that a poll was conducted and around 54% of men were satisfied by their partner's breasts. But that is a small majority. There's still a 46% of men who DON'T feel satisfied by their partners breasts! (And before you say anything, a larger portion of women was satisfied with their men's penis). Everywhere you look, big breasts are glorified. In movies, especially movies for men, you see huge boobs. Strippers make more money when they get surgery, etc. Why is this? Why is bigger better? And sure, out of pity men are always like "small is great, no sagging" whatever but this is bull! It's pity! Because as soon as a woman with perky big breasts walks by, they drool like they need an industrial bib! What can I do about this insecurity? I feel so unsexy because of my breasts! And my ex (the only guy I've been intimate with) only made things worse, since I asked him (I know I was stupid to do so) and he said bigger was better, because of evolution or some stupid, crap which is not true (it's been proven not to be!). But since he's a psychologist and I'm not, it was supposed to be a "scientific" answer. He also said he couldn't help it that the media showed so much cleavage while he was growing up that he was "socialized" to prefer that. What was he stupid, had he no brain of his own? So he made me feel like crap and afterward was mad that I didn't feel uninhibited during sex. Idiot. This is killing me. I can't tit wank either, which I hear is a really common fantasy with guys. I hate my stupid boobs, they're so small and don't go well with my big hips. Should I get the damn surgery already? I'm more of a pear than an hourglass, and I hear men dig the 36-24-36 look.
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  • Prepare yourself,I a about to be 100% honest,from the bottom of my heart.

    I'm a boob guy.Don't get me wrong,I'm still a guy,nice a** nice legs are great,but boobs are my favorite body part on a woman sexually.I've gone out with many girls,slept with many girls,had one night stands,flirted,everything.I've been with girls of all races,all nationalities,all weights,heights etc.I love breasts,everything about them.That being said.

    I don't judge by size at all.I judge by her body proportions.It looks really odd when a super skinny girl has huge breasts,and they're usually fake anyways.And I went to school with this really short girl,literally.She wasn't a midget,she wasn't a dwarf,but she was short,under 4'11,she had huge breasts.It didn't look right and she had severe back problems,I think eventually she got a breast reduction because they were ridiculous.

    I love all breasts,small,big,big nipples,small nipples,big areola,small areolas,perky,not so perky,as long as they are on a female.Guys don't settle,your ex was a dumbass.Ignore him.Ignore his opinion.My girlfriend of 3 1/2 years has small,beautiful breasts.I love them.I have and complaints,she looks damn good.I wouldn't ever put her body down and guys who do do not deserve to have a gf.

    She's really petite,she's sexy as f*ck,cute as hell,she has everything I want.I didn't settle for her,I wanted her and still have her.I love her breasts,some of us do love small breasts you know.

    I love seeing her naked,I love kissing them,sucking them,licking them and playing with them.

    The only breasts I don't care for are fake.I don't like them.I've been with girls who had silicone and saline,neither are good at all.Please don't get surgery.Please.I hate when girls feel so bad about their bodies,it's sad that guys on here and in society make girls feel so self conscious about the smallest things.

    Small breasts are beautiful.Please,learn to love yourself.Don't get anything done to them at all.NOTHING.Boobies are awesome.

    Please,don't get the surgery done,I bet you're gorgeous.And you aren't considering going into the media are you?I mean it isn't worth it.

    Take your shirt and your bra off,look in front of a mirror,list 3 things you like about your breasts,it could even be advantages you have to big breasts,and remember that every time you take your clothing off.

    PLEASE do not get anything done.

  • Sugar...listen close...

    The media prints whatever it wants. They rely on the sheep to get in line with it.

    Our world is full of people who can't form an opinion without opening a newspaper, or a trend type magazine.

    Wanna know something about polls? You can make a poll come out any way you want to simply through use of demographics, or tricky wording.

    This guy doesn't like big breasts. I have a friend who is nuts about women with small breasts.

    Quit believing the bs in print. If it had to be true, don't you think there would be laws providing for it?

    Your x? He's a moron. If I knew him I would tell him to his face. His life is controled by the things he is told. He can't make his own choices. Gimme a break. His kind give the psyc profession a bad name. Who gives a damn about something science...yeah I said science, is ripping apart faster than it can be held up. Evolution...jeeze.

    So you have small breasts...just means less problems with your back later in life.

    Think about who you are...not what you look like. It doesn't require eyes to fall in love...

    You want guys to notice you? Love who you are and let it shine. Once you do he will regret letting you go, and you will find a real man.

    • Right now I'm not even thinking much about love, since I was badly hurt by him (other reasons). But even in a relationship I don't want to be settled for, I want him to think I'm really desirable, sexy and hot. I have all the sexual skills needed, but guys are visual too, so that's why I'm concerned.

    • The guys worth being with are more interested in what is going on behind your eyes, not what's below them. I have dated women who are absolute knockouts......till you want to just talk....... What I am trying to say is the outside has nothing to do with the really important things. You wanna know what you need to do? Learn to be OK with being alone. Rediscover life. Find the things you love to do, and do them. When you are lovin life, it shows, and the real guys will notice.

    • A guy can think you are desirable, sexy and hot if you don't have a large chest! I promise, some guys prefer it. I am not saying you have to settle with anyone, but we ALL have flaws (and I don't think that is a flaw). Being a professional athlete, I have HUGE muscular thighs. I won't wear anything shorter than knee length. But that doesn't mean I am not the sexiest person alive to my boyfriend. Think about your ex, he had physical flaws, but you still found him sexy, right?

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  • OK...sit down and chill out for a bit then listen to this advice from a woman...

    IF you want a relationship that's all about sex get the big boobs. I wouldn't expect them to magically solve your problems and/or provide a loving, life long partner.

    IF you want men to be attracted to you for who YOU are, take care of yourself. Get in shape, eat right and dress nice. (Doesn't require tons of $$$, just wear the right colors and right cut/styles)

    THEN your confidence will grow and you'll find that you think less about those boobs and more about what YOU want instead of what you can give to a man.

    Lest you think I'm some "stick in the mud" woman, I will say I'm not overly endowed but do take care of my self. People think I'm always skinny and pretty but I'm very picky about what I wear and will not wear things that add to my waistline or hips.

    You don't have to obsess over it but do some research. Try different things on (even stuff that doesn't normally catch your eye) and see what looks good on you. Get a nice push-up bra too. Shop around. There's some nice ones that add shape without going overboard.

    One final disclaimer: I happen to enjoy sex and like for my hubby to tell me I look good but have come to realize that any relationship that's based on that alone is doomed to fail.

    Looks WILL change in time either from aging or from accidents/illness. Build some confidence in yourself and let someone be attracted to you for who you are, NOT what you do for them in bed.

    Oh...one final word...look around. You'll notice that not everyone has huge boobs and some of those who don't have attractive, nice husbands and vice versa. It's NOT about the boobs...unless you want it to be.

    • But that poll said a lot of men aren't satisfied with their partners breast size. So they settle. My ex settled for mine and IT DIDN'T FEEL NICE!! I didn't settle for his penis, or anything about him, to me he was perfect but then again I've never been picky about looks. I wouldn't have changed a thing about him and knowing he would've changed that about me made me feel like sh*t. Looks do matter in a relationship, they're not everything of course but I don't want another guy to "settle" for me

    • Then quit worrying about yourself and guys. Accept who you are and give yourself time to heal. Yes heal. You have been hurt and shouldn't be beating yourself up now. I wonder how many of those guys polled were regular customers at Hooters. The point is that NO POLL is that accurate. Don't think that 52% of all the men in the US prefer big boobs. It's just not true. Now go do something fun, get out of the house, enjoy the company of friends/family that love you for you.

  • Look at these pictures of two of the world's most beautiful women:
    Shakira:

    shakira small breastsFeeling insecure about my small breasts?


    Beyonce:

    beyonce bikini breasts smallbeyonce bikini breasts


    They've both got really small boobs and big hips, and look how gorgeous they are!

    My body's like yours and theirs: B cup, well-shaped hips and a well-sized butt. I used to hate it too but look how these women flaunt it, we're beautiful!

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  • Yes,actually,bigger breasts represent fertility,they do.

    I don't get why girls ask their boyfriends a question,yet expect sugar coated answers.He gave you his opinion and all you're doing is judging him for it.

    Get the surgery if you want,I don't get why you would judge whether or not you should by the idiots on this site.

    I have big breasts and I'm insecure about them too,but I won't get mad when a guy gives his honest opinion.I'm bi,I do think bigger breasts looks better,not too big,but a C cup compliments almost every shape and height.

    • It has nothing to do with fertility. Nor with milk making capacities. I have small breasts and the gynaecologist said I'm crazy fertile. My sister has big t*ts and she's borderline infertile. It has NOTHING to do with fertility!!!!!! It's just a coincidence most of the time. And oh, so I'm stupid for having asked? Well maybe he could've lied a little. Good for you for having big boobs, whatever. I wouldn't date you if I was bi anyway.

    • Bigger breasts represent fertility.Did I ever say it was scientifically proven to mean being more fertile. See I gave you my honest answer and you're getting upset.

    • They don't represent fertility. Where is that said? Plus I've noticed guys like big t*ts and no hips. I have big hips (not fat) which are supposed to represent fertility too and men still prefer sticks with boobs on them. Whatever it's your opinion. I just don't get why women with big breasts think they're the sh*t and they discount other women's physical attributes.

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  • Breast size does matter for higher status alpha males like me who are successful. I think chics wit small tits ask these questions as a SHIT TEST to see who the quality status alpha males are and who the beta males are. haha. They secretly like when the guy wants bigger tits, because in her mind, that makes him look like he is higher quality alpha male (and when you think about it, it's true). The beta dudes don't really mind (or claim not to mind). Just something I've noticed in the past (I've been with tons of women, of all types, which is how I recognized this).

    No matter how many compliments chics wit small tits get, they'll ALWAYS feel insecure and inferior to chics wit bigger tits, and I hate to be an asshole (okay, maybe not, because my asshole ways do get me laid the most haha), but it's true, guys will always want bigger than a B cup. I'm Tall, hot, successful, big cock and can get pretty much any woman I want, which I usually choose least a C cup.

    It's a 'status' thing, even women want a dude who has some muscles and has a bigger than average cock (women who say size doesn't matter are lying and we ALL know it). It's the same with dudes and tits. The average or below average beta dudes may not mind as much, but higher status alpha males will choose women with bigger breasts. Just the way it is.

    I've even noticed that I'm subconsciously more of a rough prick in the sack wit women who have smaller tits. Ironically, they seem to love that shit though (like a degradation fetish or something). They know subconsciously that I can get a higher status female with bigger breasts, so they try harder to please in the sack and do more of what I want. One plus I'll give here though, it does seem smaller breasted chics have tighter pussies.

    But aside from that, I think most guys if given the choice would definitely choose a woman wit bigger breasts. He may tell you that it doesn't matter, while secretly checkin out the chic at the next table wit big knockers. It's just like if most women were given the choice, they'd choose a dude wit a bigger cock. They may tell their boyfriend or husband size doesn't matter, while secretly having a fantasy of a guy wit a bigger package. SIZE DOES MATTER! But you're welcome to try and change my mind on that. I'm in Northern California (near SF) and I'm a successful dude. Get at me if you're up for the challenge. ;)

    • What makes you successful? Big cock or muscles? I always prefer money over these

  • just to let you know you should feel lucky and embrace your smaller boobs..im a 36D and they're a pain in the ass just think how many cute shirts you can wear and how much thinner you look because you have less on top. I can't wear a low cut top to save my life with out looking like a cheap slut. Embrace tehm, buy cute bras and flaunt them, who gives a flying f*** aout what anyone else says.

  • girl I'm an A and I have like five sister and they are ALL Bs, Cs, and Ds. I am the only A. It def sucks and I'm not gonna lie I used to be so insecure about it. My whole middle and high school years, I stuffed my bra. But you kno what? It really doesn't matter because if some guy really doesn't like me just because I'm an A and not a D then really he is not worth it! I've met plenty of guys who really did not care about my boob size. Believe me, I kno I'm a pretty girl but I always put my personality out there first before my body. When you feel confident, guys see that and from what I hear they find that sexy. Embrace those small boobs! :)

    I really hope that helps girl!

    • RIGHT ON!!!! Here ya go QA. This is EXACTLY what I was saying. Don't hold value in what an idiot says.......or what the media wants you to think. Personality is everything.

  • If it makes you feel any better, I hate my boobs, too.

    • Nice!

  • there is nothing wrong with small t*ts.. id hit it

  • Small boobs are hot too :)

  • me preferably I don't like huge breasts I like C max and below don't ever change who you are find a guy tht likes who you r. I like small t*ts and honestly big t*ts are nt my thing...

  • A guy will be happy with what you have or they won’t don’t worry if that’s all they want you don’t need them they need to love you for you not your tit size

  • In all honestly I like small boobs, but Im a pedo so yeah

    that's joke I am not a pedophile

  • wel I would say a lot like big yes but some like small and some don't care. AIM? its easyer

  • do you have aim I will answer anything you ask and I don think there is an answer for what men like it is like what car we like diffrent for every guy.

    • But surely you would agree that most guys go gaga over big boobs more so than small, right?

  • some men like big breasts others like smaller but a bigger butt. there are pro' and con's to both. and as a woman use your assents to your advantage. if you have nice hips and a nice butt use them make them a focal point not your breats. breast men will go for breasts and butt men will go for your butt. and trust me you have just as good a feeling rubbing your d***. between butt cheeks as you do between breasts. just need an imaginative man.

    i and don't slouch stand up right and push the butt out and use the parts that you have. men like women of shapes and sizes.

    dont worry about what you don't have enjoy what you do have. and if you are looking at the media look at more music videos nothing better than a juicy butt.

  • Hello you sound like a nice girl, i don't just look for boobs in a girl, i look what there personality is like and if they are nice, caring and kind, actually i have always loved small boobs, they are very sexy, i hope that you don't have breast implants, i think that a lot of girls with small boobs have regretted and spoiled themselves having breast implants, i'm sure you can tit wank with small boobs, i understand you feeling insecure because i feel insecure aswell because i only have one testicle and i don't have a fake one to replace it, i hope everything works out for you and i would ignore the polls and what idiots say, you sound great as you are.

  • Look at Emma roberts, rihanna, Chloe moretz, Alexandra breckenridge, and many other women considered to be sexy, have small breasts.
    Also, the average bra size of a pornstar is B, smaller than average. jonmillward.com/.../

  • I also have similiar issues, i am an AAA cup... post pregnancy. Before my 2 children i was a full A cup. And yes I am severly insecure about that. I am pretty, i have dimples, hips, and a big butt and a great smile. I never have had any issues as far as attracting men. BUT the man i am dealing with now seems to obviously prefer bigger boobs. Certain comments that he's made during sex, and how he touches me during sex makes me assume that he prefers bigger breast. The way his heads turns when a girl with bigger breasts passes by makes me feel so insecure that i sometimes act irrational out of jealously and insecurity. I am trying to find a way to really control and channel my insecurities and not focus everything on big breasts. I have other great features and a great personality. As for you I would suggest the NOOGLEBERRY. Its a manual breast pump that over time increases your breast size... I have tried it for maybe 2 months... my breasts did noticeably increase in size but i failed to keep up with the daily routine... but i do plan to start it up again. So do some research on that i hope it helps!!! and also try to embrace and use your personality and other great features to your advantage :-)

  • get yourself a padded bra, most women do this and men seem to not mind

  • Small boobs are so perfect I love them!

  • There are guys out there that like smaller breasts! We do exist! I am one of them.

    I like the smaller ones because they are so CUTE! Please just find a guy like me!

  • I am a 36D, and I wish I had B's. Smaller breasts are just cuter, and you look thinner overall with less up top. Plus I read somewhere that smaller breasts are more sensitive to the touch.

    • Can we trade? Lol. I'm a 36B.

    • Haha. That would be the day.

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