My boyfriend thinks I'm innocent, should I tell that's not completely true?

[Anonymous]

I'm dating a great guy; we're both committed to saving sex for marriage. He's my first boyfriend, and he knows this. What he doesn't know is that I made out with a guy friend of mine about a year ago. (I wasn't dating anyone at the time) Is it kind of lying not to tell him, like I'm letting him believe I'm totally innocent or something? Or is it none of his business, and I'd be better off forgetting about it?

[blondie2010]

I wouldn't tell him who the guy was. He can't get mad at you for kissing someone when he didn't know you before.

I found out when you talk about past things with new relationships it always ends up being thrown in your face during a fight. Even though they were things in the past. Would you really want to know if he kissed a girl before you? Would it really matter? Since he is with you obviously the "possible" other girl before you, didn't matter. If he was concerned with it or wanted to know, he would of asked you who your first kiss was. First kiss are typically pure and all fluffy clouds, not normally the one you intend on marrying.

[Asker]

Yeah , thanks. I wouldn't want it brought up against me, that's true, though I don't think he's the type of guy to do that. I probably won't mention it unless the topic comes up. I don't feel like it matters much.

[rosieeebaby]

its not lying. but innocence is bliss. he doesn't need to know about past hook ups.

[l-hedoniste]

He's not *supposed* to care, and he's a fool if he does. What matters is girl you are to HIM, not who you were, somewhere else, to someone else.

Many men are fools, however, and he could be one. You might want to drop a hint or to about your wild (?) past, so that if this is a dealbreaker, he can bail.

Seriously, though, if he bails over that, he's an ass.

[Littletad]

You are pretty innocent. Making out is... not really a big deal. Let him continue to think whatever it is he is thinking.

[ErikM]

Not really a big deal. It's not like you were dating your current boyfriend at the time, right? Let him know about it if it feels right for YOU to say it.

[Asker]

Youre right. I might tell him in the future, but right now it doesn't seem like a big deal

[jackflynn7]

Not his business. It is who you are and what you want now.

That would be true even if you were not a virgin.

[jacquesvol]

just mention it casually, it isn't that important.