I am 18, and a very petite girl so my labia looks weird compared to the rest of my body. My inner labia hangs out of my outer labia by maybe a centimeter. It isn't wide or spread like flower petals it is just kind of long and narrow-ish. When I was younger I thought it was pretty and pink, but lately I have seen a lot of people call this type of vulva "roast beef" and it makes me hate it, and I am worried about what guys will say about it if they see it or if they'll spread rumors about it. I know there are websites calling it normal, but I don't feel pretty anymore because I feel like most guys want no inner labia showing. These jokes I see really hurt my feelings :( I've thought about this so much that I am actually contemplating surgery, but I am scared of having it botched. Do you think this type of labia is gross? Be honest please.
Most Helpful Guy
At risk of sounding perverted... I say they're always fun to play with no mater what size or shape :D4
Most Helpful Girl
YOU ARE NORMAL. You need to understand something.. guys who criticize a woman's labia are usually the most inexperienced of guys because their own knowledge of what they look like come from porn stars who either naturally have teensy labia, or more likely - had labiaplasty. Women in porn are amped up to look nothing like the rest of the real world women, and have the phoniest hair, lashes, nails, makeup, and yes - labia. For some reason, the porn industry tapped in to a "look" that men seem to have not just accepted, but the inexperienced have come to expect - especially where our body parts are concerned. We don't all have those stiff, hard Double F boobs, and teeny-tiny waists. It's not normal. So it is, not normal for the labia to be cut.
Since it's given *boys* a wrong image of what to expect when they start their own sex lives, young women are then subjected to their criticism that is basically based on nothing except that they've blown their cover that what they know comes from porn. Real men who know how to respect a woman are going to realize that most women have labia that hangs anywhere from 1-6 cm.
And even discolouration is common, just as discolouration is common with men's testicles. Our nipples aren't all pink, and neither is our labia.
And just a word of caution: labiaplasty has its risks, and can be costly. If I was a plastic surgeon and you wanted it done, I'd likely talk you out of it because 1cm is NORMAL. If anything - it's small! :)2