I gave my boyfriend a handjob and he came, but then I tried again 2 hours later and he couldn't get hard. Is that normal?

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  • Yes it's normal. Like, most guys after 2 hrs can get hard again (not that long even, but to ejaculate), but 2 things...

    1) if that wasn't his first time that day? ie, did he masturbate earlier or have you been having a lot of sex? This will affect this.

    2) Every guys recovery period is different. And sometimes also, it could just be that day in particular that it just wasn't going to happen... that happens sometimes and is very normal. Like it is with women, sometimes certain days it just doesn't happen for you... same with us. But, just because he didn't get hard, doesn't mean he didn't still enjoy it. It still feels good to be touched, hard or not.

    • How can "most guys after 2 hrs can get hard again" and yet you say it is normal that they can't?

    • @Red_Arrow Yeah I didn't word that right.

  • Men have what's known as a refractory period during which their interest in sex diminishes to increase the likelihood of pregnancy by not removing sperm from the reproductive track. Each guy is different and this period can last for only a few seconds to several hours. This is highly dependant on the guy, his age, and general sexual desire.

    While 2 hours may be excessive at his age it doesn't seem abnormal.

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  • Yep, it's called the refractory period, where everything goes back to pre-sexual excitement stage! Kinda like guys have to recharge their batteries before they're ready to go again! Poor things, I like the way girls work, one right after another until she can't stand up on her wobbly legs!!!

    • I'm really surprised you know this :D I'd like how you know that. Respectfully upvoted!

    • @Unit1 I believe I read it in one of the books on sex!

    • Cool! I want to read a sex book too.

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  • It is usually not normal but probably that was not the only handjob he had that day

    • Not necessarily. Sometimes recovery takes longer when you get off hard or were handled too roughly and injured.

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  • Not normal, at least for me. Try sucking his cock to get it hard again. The visual as well as the sensation of your wet mouth wrapped around his cock should get it hard again.

  • Who's to say what's normal? There's other things going on in his head besides what you're doing, if his day was rough or something happened causing him to be distracted. It's not you stop worrying, you have days when it takes him longer to get you off don't you?

  • Some guys have a different time-limit until they can be erect again after cumming. I'd say 2 hours is quite a while and probably rare but I'm sure it's nothing serious. Just leave it a little longer next time and see if you have more luck.

  • Guys usually need a period of rest between climaxing and doing it again. But it is usually much less than two hours.

  • Two hours is too long for a boy or man under age 40 to recover. But there is no such thing as normal when it involves sex, there is average & below or above average but there is no abnormal in sex. They did away with abnormal in sex & replaced it with maladaptive.

  • It depends. A young guy should be able to get hard again and have sex several times in a day. How old is he? Is he in good shape? We all are different, but young guys can have sex easily 2-4 times in a day.
    Does he jerk off a lot when you are not with him?/that can also affect his ability to get hard and have multiple orgasms.

  • Most guys have a long recovery time if they have had a strong orgasm and ejaculation. It takes a while to reload and recover libido.

  • It's called the Refactory Period that it takes a guy to recover until his next orgasm.

  • Yeah. I find the harder you cum the more time I need. Like if I cum hard sometimes either I fall asleep or I faint. Also food and water helps and time of day.

    I gave my boyfriend a handjob and he came, but then I tried again 2 hours later and he couldn't get hard. Is that normal?I gave my boyfriend a handjob and he came, but then I tried again 2 hours later and he couldn't get hard. Is that normal?
  • No, I usually get stronger erections after a recent milking. Your guy is faulty

  • This is normal and it's called the refractory period

    en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Refractory_period_(sex)

    He's still in that period.
    We are cursed with that by mother nature.

  • Depends on his recovery rate I could get hard again in about 30 minutes at age 44 but some have lower libido and can go longer between.

  • it depends.

    • I do get hard again after it is done.

  • I have trouble getting off to a hand job because their rhythm is usually off.

  • and the older you get, the longer the recovery period is.. Rarely do i get two load out in one night.. I used to be able to get hard 20 mins after cumming , I was in my early 20's

  • 2 hours is not normal, maybe after 10-30 minutes sure, but 2 hours?

  • sometimes it takes a while to recharge

  • quite long recovery time, seems a poor dick.

  • guys can't cum as much as girls

  • After two hours... it's... weird...

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