Was I molested by my step dad?

[Anonymous]

He came up to me yesterday while I wasn't wearing a bra and just a tank top and brushed my breasts for ten to fifteen seconds, until I got the nerve to walk away. He said there was dust but I didn't see any dust nor had I been outside, it was also a black tank top, and I don't believe him (honestly) as he is verbally abusive (this I didn't realize till a few weeks ago when my boyfriend pointed it out to me, now I see it everytime). Then at supper I had no hra on again and he asked me if I was cold, which I then realized he was staring at my breasts, as my "brights were on". I left the room really fast.

[mae_kookie]

LEAVE that house i tell you.
he may try something...
when you sleep LOCK THE DOOR... he may rape you.
and your under 18 to holy shit..
i would tell your mom but she may get mad and be a good mother and dump him or she won't believe you... or she will get jealous.
so I don't know... im scared for you.
but if he ends up like groping you or even close to raping you just call 911... or just live with another relative

[Asker]

Not allowed to have locks on my door

[mae_kookie]

this is crazy... call kids help phone please your in danger so are your siblings

[Whatthefluff]

At least put a dresser or heavy piece of furniture and close your door, so you will wake up if someone tries to move it.

[mae_kookie]

@Whatthefluff i agree

[creepypanda]

Woah, is your mom in the picture? Because this guy has got to go. He touched you VERY inappropriately, and he needs to be reprimanded. Please avoid this guy as much as possible.

[creepypanda]

Like, girl, PLEASE. I'm so serious about this. I don't want you on the news. He's trying to see how far he can go.

[Asker]

They are married, my mom and step dad. For 8 years now. I doubt there is anything I can do, I have ran away once before. If need be I can probably go to my boyfriend's house as an emergency measure, his parents are strict but not unkind.

[creepypanda]

Definitely go to your boyfriends house than, and if you can, tell his mom what's going on so the police can become involved if necessary.

[Chanel1981]

Definitely inappropriate. I would start wearing a bra at all times

[Ev1lMindedSoul]

Yes, if you have a webcam In your room use it as a security camera in case he ever comes into your room, also report it, I'd change the kind of tops you wear around him (you shouldn't have to change what you wear but it gonna be safer). Finally talk to your mom, she may be oblivious to it until it's pointed out to her

[Asker]

I don't, I have trail cameras though (the kind used for hunting) but that's it.

[Ev1lMindedSoul]

Use them, if you hear him near your room turn them on so you have the room covered, that way you have irrefutable proof of what he's doing

[Ryno13]

he's a predator. call the police. he is testing the waters to see if he can molest you.

[creepypanda]

Yeah, I agree. If he sees she doesn't seem to react to these things he might try to corner her.

[SleepyChan]

Call the cops.

[Tharindu98]

Fucking pervert

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes your step-dad was out of line doing that i think you should tell your mom or some older female relative who is willing to listen to you.

[BillieJean1070]

Wear a bra for gods sake.

[Asker]

I usually do

[momo770]

That's hella creepy, tell your mom

[Browneye57]

Yep, pretty brazen. Talk to your mother.
And wear a bra.

[Asker]

I'm going to, also baggy sweaters.

[hero-hero]

I guess your problems will end if you start wearing a bra :D :D

[Asker]

I usually do. He always comments on my breasts this is the first feeling session I guess you could call it.

[hero-hero]

Did you enjoy the touching?

[Asker]

No. I was disgusted. You're disgusting.

[hero-hero]

LOL , ME? You are trolling dude :)

[Flaguy]

No. He seems like a loving step father looking out for a sweet step daughter.

[TonyRyanAgain]

This isn't porn...

[TonyRyanAgain]

Tell your mom.

[Cannuk]

That's creepy very creepy

[Anonymous]

The terminology is probably wrong. But that's definitely sexual assault.

[Anonymous]

sounds like you're overreacting. he's just acknowledging that you are changing into a woman.

[Asker]

I don't know if it's that. I might be overreacting, but I've had very large breasts for 3 years now. This year I decided to have (safe) sex with my boyfriend and our parents found out. I'm worried this might be leading to my dad taking advantage of me as my mom won't have sex with him anymore and had an affair (I hear their conversations a lot)

[Opinion Owner]

so... you think because your step dad now knows that you're sexually active and because he's not getting satisfied from your mother that he wants to have sex with you?

[Asker]

Maybe not sex. I sure hope not. I'm just saying, I really don't think this is "just" my dad acknowledging "me as a woman". I'm 15, out of a family of 8. This isn't right. I don't feel it is, and especially because past comments make it suspicious.

[Opinion Owner]

hmm I see, what other comments has he made? has he said or done similar things with your sisters?

[Asker]

as a kid or young teen, comments about my breasts and how big they are, that I should undress my dirty clothes (that aren't even dirty) all my clothing in the laundry room right beside the front door (requires me walking through the living kitchen area naked). He's come in my room naked before at 3am when I was awake once, he knows I sleep naked somehow. He'll make comments on it, little ones like how good it is and how comfortable it must be. As a kid, he'd always spank me with no pants on (not sure if this is normal), hug me and caress my neck, give me "daily spankings" on my butt, as well as saying I have a nice butt. I have no idea if this is normal or not, but I do know for a fact his dad was a predator. My oldest sister left and stopped coming here (split my mom and her mom) whenshe was 12, she got spankings, and I know my dad always comments on how beautiful my sister is, etc. She stopped coming here because she said he was abusive. My other sister is a baby.

[Opinion Owner]

ok, first of all. yes spanking without pants is normal (for families that spank) people might not agree but him encouraging you to be naked and complimenting you for sleeping naked is normal as well as him being naked (it sounds like he might be a closet nudist) and lastly him commenting that you are beautiful and commenting on your breasts could just be him again acknowledging that you are changing into a woman but it depends how often he makes them. now what's concerning is that his father was a predator. have you talked to him about any of the things he's done and is doing?

[Asker]

No, I am too afraid to. I know he would get very mad and defensive.

[Opinion Owner]

hmm ok, then you should bring it up to your mom. which parts do you have an issue with?

[Asker]

Verbal abuse and the touching. That's it.

[Opinion Owner]

ok, so you're fine with his nudity and you being naked around him?

[Asker]

No, not me being naked. He's always walked around the house naked though, so that I'm used to. He could probably knock before he barges in my room naked at 3am though.

[Opinion Owner]

ok, well you might need to make some compromises. but I would talk to your mom about the verbal abuse and touching. I would just accept his nudity and him telling you to get naked. that's just his nudism and that won't hurt anyone (especially since you already sleep that way)