Mine was the same. There's hope but also a lot of heartbreak. He probably IS addicted to porn. Mine was and always will be because it's an addiction, and like every addict, he will lie about it, but it is his decision to admit he has a problem, with lying and the sex/porn. I gave mine an ultimatum and told it's either get psychological help for it or I was out. I found dating websites at the beginning and that he kept communicating and flirting with women he had been sexually involved before meeting me, getting to a point where he almost agreed to a sexual encounter with one of them but I found out on time, he also had the porn issue. All of that is just a sex addiction. Mine didn't have much sexual experience so he was always desperate for sex, even if it was just online or the promise of it. He had to admit to A LOT of things and relinquish all his privacy. I have software on all the phones, tablets and PCs in my house, he cannot go about without checking in and he cannot have female friends. Is it ideal? No. But those are my conditions to feel safe around him and he does it because he loves me and wants to change. I'm not saying there aren't little relapses, but his will to change is bigger and he shows it everyday so that's why I stick around. So you have to weigh your options and like his psychologist said, find what works for both of you.
0 0 0 0Teen porn means just legal like 18/19 a lot of guys watch that. My husband was addicted to porn when I met him. I didn't like him watching it but I didn't get all bent up over it, at first. He lied about that too. When it's an addiction people lie. It's not right but they need support to get unaddicted. You said he slept with some one y'all work with before y'all made it official? It's not right that he didn't tell you but he didn't cheat. It seems like he doesn't like regularly. Y'all have been together for over a year I think at this point you should try to help him with a porn addiction and forgive and forget the fact he slept with someone else when y'all just started screwing outside of a relationship.
0 0 0 0I don't know if he's trouble, but he def has issues
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The only decision that you will regret is if you stay with him, he constantly lies, to you and you have given up everything to be with him and I doubt he has given up much. If you have strong moral values against p*rn, then find a guy with the similar views there are guys out there, like that, and ask yourself are you unhappy, because if you are you need to take care of yourself, not him. Obviously he lies and he constantly lies because he thinks he can get away with it, call him on his bluff and leave him, don't listen to his false promises, don't head for the hills head for the mountains so you can lose this sorry excuse for a man
0 0 0 0Thank you for your honest answer. I'm stressed to the point that I don't even feel like myself anymore. Hell, I've resorted to asking complete strangers for advice....lol!! When he's not lying and trolling the web for cyber skanks he's actually really great and I find myself justifying his actions and telling myself it's not a big deal. Yet every time I find that stuff I'm heartbroken. I feel stupid and betrayed and angry at myself. You're probably right about the false promises....sux. :-(
The best thing to do is watch the signs and don't dismiss it. We often ignore things about others and try to see them as perfect. I almost did that too. I was so naive. Going to the beach and constantly hearing perverted comments and writing them off as a joke, or on valentines day after I put together a lovely date.. "what about my.." He seemed wonderful at first but there were so many red flags that I ignored. After I broke off the relationship, I realized the whole picture. It was like a giant lie. I was manipulated lied to, and taken advantage of and there were other people the whole time. Listen to your gut. If you have the thought "Dear God, what have I gotten myself into?" Then its probably not a good place to be. Stay calm, you can get out of it.
I don't know if he's a pervert but definitely,he has issues to work out. Tell him to go away and report back after he's had therapy...
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