Does one night stand mean slut?

[dustyjay]

Hey all, been dating what I thought was the sweetest and most innocent /chaste girl for about 10 months. Recently, I found out that she had a one night stand with a random dude in south America. I just can't get over it. I wouldn't want to be in a long term relationship with a girl who got naked and took the **** of a guy she just met. I discussed it with her, and she says she feels awful about it and that it's the lowest thing she's ever done. I am trying to forget about it, but it's really stuck in my mind.

[flatironguy]

Well it doesn't sound like this was during your relationship, which would be a legitimate complaint. If she wasn't in a relationship and while on vacation met this great guy and had one night of passion I think you need to get over it. It's not like she was going out every Friday night looking for a new guy before you got together. And on top of it all, she says it was only the one time and she feels terrible about it. If you care about her, you need to be able to let go of the past and move on. I'm sure this won't be the only thing that either of you ever does that the other has a problem with.

[LoveBeforeBC]

it depends the age when she did it, i think it doesn't means she is a slut if she was like a teenage girl, because her mind was not mature enough, not rational enough. but i would suggest you leave her because she is not your type, what you want is innocent girl, regardless of whether she is a slut or not, if she had sex without love, it means she is not your wife material, maybe ok with other people, but not for you.

[azicr]

I like how you want to think highly of the girls that you choose to be in a reltionship with,...you like them respectible.

But you also need to be understanding,-- if she truly feels awful about it than she made a mistake, she wouldn't repeate-- a spontanious action as such does not define the potentially great person she really is-- give her a shot, it's not fair to judge based in a one time mistake--if that's infact what she states it is.

[katiesmuff]

This is what happens when we get ourselves tied into serious relationships long before we have sowed all the oats we wanted too. It is a shame but happens all too often these days and the worst of it is lots of times kids have been produced at this point.

Tis the reason I am not into any serious relationship as yet. At 27 I still know I want to play and experience as many different guys as I safely can.

[LoveBeforeBC]

its good if you experience guys without sex, otherwise u r just a slut. why is sex so important? its good but we are not fking animals.

[l-hedoniste]

If you're going to judge this girl over one night, with one man, long ago and far away, you need to leave her alone--not because she's bad for you, but because you're bad for her.

[nermalinda]

Truth.

[Gregs]

grow up

[cjwright79]

People like sex. People like sex with more than just one person. All of us do. Let's not judge each other too harshly over something we'd all prefer to do.

[prettiestwreck]

I don't think it means she's a slut people do things that are not always so savory ,its what makes them people.I think you should just get over it.

[jacquesvol]

Certainly NOT.

[chiefnavarro]

how long ago was it. if it was recent I wouldn't be cool with it but if it was years ago its all good