Saggy/poofy and discolored labia minora (Beef curtains.) Does it really ruin a girl, guys?

[Anonymous]

Hi everyone, I have a question about the appearance of labia minoras and how it affects a girl's attractiveness. I am only a teenager (14 to be exact.) and I already have discolored "beef curtains." I was always self concious about my vagina, and when I heard and saw a bunch of posts and memes mocking the labia minora it has really taken a toll on my overall self esteem. I have always been a very very quiet and shy girl, so it is extremely hard to get to know me. I have had a lot of guys in my life that have admired me, but I really don't want to get close to any of them because I am so shy, and now in addition because I feel so self concious. (I also am very empathetic and want to get to know them because I know how they feel, and it really hurts me overall.) I know that it may sounds foolish, but this really has made me feel horrible recently. I am even contemplating never participating in sexual intercourse period because I fear I would disgust and push away my future SO. I am also aware that some guys admire longer labia minoras, but to be honest, most women today are portrayed with perfect vaginas/labias. And it seems that guys in my school/in general today agree that girls either have that or nothing. In fact, one of the guys I thought was kind said, "Man, it's just horrible when you get to know a hot girl, and when it's time to get it on you pull down her panties and it's just a saggy arby's beef sandwitch." Well, that's my issue. Anyone who has advice can post, but please please do not be mean if you can. Sorry that this was a super long description. Thanks again..

[Intraluminal]

Well first, there is NO "perfect vagina" so long as it meets it's intended purpose, it's as perfect as it needs to be. Any preferences a guy expresses are due to one thing: porn, which tells you what *he's* been doing.

Secondly, anyone with an ounce of intelligence is always their own worst critic. Show me someone who isn't, and I'll show you a Trump supporter.

Third, you're young, so your body is still evolving, so make no assumptions about how you look until you're done growing.

Fourth, in the unlikely event that you are as disfigured as you believe yourself to be, and on top of that, you don't grow out of it, and if on top of that your s. o. turns out to be a porn addict, there's always plastic surgery - yes - for that.

Don't worry, it gets better.

[killjoy2017]

☝ this is all good advice (except maybe the part about surgery but that's my opinion) *porn does not equal reality* that is why you often see questions from guys about "does size matter" down there, they watched too much porn where all the guys are hung like donkeys and have a skewed perception of what average is. Don't worry about sex until you find a partner who really loves you, if he does, then he will not care what it looks like down there.

[Philyouup]

Most excellent answer ! even down to Trumper comment! Bravo for a common sense answer!

[Yes-Man]

No we don't care about it. Well okay, some of us care, but just a minority. Vag is for sex/going down on it, not visually assessing it. And a lot of guys love beefy one, it's so much better to go down on.

[Yes-Man]

You can also get Vaginoplasty once you are older, if it bothers you that much ✌

[BellePepper]

Honey those boys don't even know what they're talking about because they've never even seen a girl naked. Don't listen to them.

You are perfect and wonderful just the way you are <3

[averagejoe805]

You're a minor. You shouldn't even be using this app/site. Your profile says you're 18, and then you admit to being a minor. This is obviously a troll looking for a perverted conversation about anatomy.

[Chadster]

Take heart, I'm willing to bet there are more guy's that like big beefy labia then don't. Big beefy lips are great for oral sex, love to lick and suck on them!

[Philyouup]

I like big lips.

[SerryJinefeld]

Honestly if he loves you he will love every part of you. Personally I love them like that. If you really feel bad, maybe warn him beforehand. But honestly dont worry about it

[bigbadwolf469]

It may be Grosse to most men but i don't mind that factor still looks good Eather way

[Anonymous]

Young lady you have nothing at all to be worried about your self consciousness is common that being said you will find a man who loves you exactly the way you are, be self confident and body confident most of us men just love pussy in all its forms, if you find a man who judges you for the way your body is then remove him from your life he's not worth your time.
Hope this helps :)

[Anonymous]

it is not that bad

[Anonymous]

Bigger the lips the better it just adds to the feeling and more to lick. The guys in your school that say they like " perfect vag" have probably watched to much porn and never had good sex or any sex.